Tag: Youth

Forget Your Nails, Let Me Look At Your Knuckles

Nobody wants to get old. Well, maybe a few people do but for the most part aging is not the most desirable thing in the world. There are a lot of downsides to getting older so it’s no wonder that women do things to try to make themselves look younger.

For instance, a lot of women dye their hair thinking that if they go back to their original hair color they will automatically look 10-20 years younger. Ha! This couldn’t be farther from the truth. Dying your hair jet black, platinum or ruby red makes you look older, not younger. It so obvious with a bad dye job that you’re trying to turn back the hands of time, which is an okay thing to do; it just shouldn’t start with your hair follicles.

If you’re clothes are too tight or too short you’re showing your old age. Women who dress too “youthful” seem like they’re trying too hard to prove that their body still looks nice. As you age you should dress with more modesty, not with less fabric. Please don’t try to expose your wrinkles & liver spots to us all at once!

Stop using “youthful lingo”. I don’t expect you to use words like ‘’busted” or “my bad”, but you should speak like it’s ‘14, not ‘74. Remember every generation has its own vernacular, so you run the risk of messing up certain words & phrases if you try to keep up with the latest lingo from this generation.

Stay away from the club – it’s for young people. Nobody wants to be the “old guy” in the club, nor does anyone want to see the “old guy” in the club. I mean shouldn’t they be at home with their family? It’s just depressing to see someone older hanging out with a younger crowd, instead of a crowd closer to their own age. Imagine going to Chuck E. Cheese’s at 20 – it just doesn’t look right (especially if you’re not with any children). There’s just some point when you realize that certain places are meant for younger people.

Dating younger is meant for those that are older. I’m sure there are a lot of “cougars” out there & there are plenty of young men who like older women but it still looks rather ridiculous to me. Every time I see a coupe like Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher I always think that a woman like that is trying to recapture her youth. I mean, what could you possibly have in common with a man that much younger than you are?! Although being with a younger person may make you feel youthful, you look so much older standing next to them. Doesn’t a prune look even more wrinkled sitting next to a grape? Lol!

At the end of the day, people can do whatever they want no matter how ridiculous it makes them look.

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Is Youth Really Wasted On The Young? – 37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old

This article is from Buzzfeed & makes a lot of sense. I agree  with #2, #5, #7 #10, #11, #14, #26, #27 & #33.  Which things do you agree with?

1. Not traveling when you had the chance.

Not traveling when you had the chance.

Traveling becomes infinitely harder the older you get, especially if you have a family and need to pay the way for three-plus people instead of just yourself.

2. Not learning another language.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Apatow Productions / Dreamworks

You’ll kick yourself when you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember none of it.

3. Staying in a bad relationship.

Staying in a bad relationship.

No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.

4. Forgoing sunscreen.

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SNL

Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself.

5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.

Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.

“Nah, dude, I’ll catch Nirvana next time they come through town.” Facepalm.

6. Being scared to do things.

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Looking back you’ll think, What was I so afraid of?

7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.

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Columbia Pictures

Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you’ll dream of what you could have done.

8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.

Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.

Few things are as sad as an old person saying, “Well, it just wasn’t done back then.”

9. Not quitting a terrible job.

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20th Century Fox

Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don’t make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 years in hell.

10. Not trying harder in school.

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Jive Records

It’s not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Eventually you’ll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you’d paid more attention.

11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.

Not realizing how beautiful you were.

Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that’s when we’re our most beautiful.

12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”

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Fox

When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.

13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.

Not listening to your parents' advice.

You don’t want to hear it when you’re young, but the infuriating truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true.

14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.

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Fox

You’ll be embarrassed about it, frankly.

15. Caring too much about what other people think.

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SNL / Paramount

In 20 years you won’t give a damn about any of those people you once worried so much about.

16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.

Supporting others' dreams over your own.

Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine.

17. Not moving on fast enough.

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NBC

Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.

18. Holding grudges, especially with those you love.

Holding grudges, especially with those you love.

What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over?

19. Not standing up for yourself.

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New Line Cinema.

Old people don’t take shit from anyone. Neither should you.

20. Not volunteering enough.

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OK, so you probably won’t regret not volunteering Hunger Games style, but nearing the end of one’s life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness for many.

21. Neglecting your teeth.

Neglecting your teeth.

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Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.

22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.

Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.

Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you’ll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.

23. Working too much.

Working too much.

No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.

24. Not learning how to cook one awesome meal.

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Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.

25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.

Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.

Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing.

26. Failing to finish what you start.

Failing to finish what you start.

“I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then…”

27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.

Never mastering one awesome party trick.

You will go to hundreds, if not thousands, of parties in your life. Wouldn’t it be cool to be the life of them all?

28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

Don’t let them tell you, “We don’t do that.”

29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.

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Comedy Central

People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.

30. Not playing with your kids enough.

Not playing with your kids enough.

When you’re old, you’ll realize your kid went from wanting to play with you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.

31. Never taking a big risk (especially in love).

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Knowing that you took a leap of faith at least once — even if you fell flat on your face — will be a great comfort when you’re old.

32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network.

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Tri-Star Pictures

Networking may seem like a bunch of crap when you’re young, but later on it becomes clear that it’s how so many jobs are won.

33. Worrying too much.

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ABC

As Tom Petty sang, “Most things I worry about never happen anyway.”

34. Getting caught up in needless drama.

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Oxygen Network

Who needs it?

35. Not spending enough time with loved ones.

Not spending enough time with loved ones.

Our time with our loved ones is finite. Make it count.

36. Never performing in front of others.

Never performing in front of others.

This isn’t a regret for everyone, but many elderly people wish they knew — just once — what it was like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.

37. Not being grateful sooner.

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NBC

It can be hard to see in the beginning, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.

I’m Over 30. I Guess I’m Not Young Anymore

This article is from Buzzfeed & I LOL’d when I read it. I hope you do too! My favorites are #1, #2, #3, #18, #20, #24 & #30.  Which ones do you like the best?

1. You constantly forget that you’re not in your twenties anymore.

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After college, the years just sort of start to blend together. So, in a way, you are perennially 22 years old mentally, and often financially.

2. People start to think there is something LEGITIMATELY wrong with you if you are single.

People start to think there is something LEGITIMATELY wrong with you if you are single.

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Just because you are in your thirties doesn’t mean you have to be married. Explaining that to your parents, on the other hand, is a whole other ordeal.

3. Your middle name should be “Busy,” since that is what you are all the time now.

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What with all the housewarmings, kid birthday parties, traveling, and work, you barely have time to remember to eat. J/K, eating becomes your new best friend. I love you, Cherry Garcia.

4. Your Facebook feed will be nothing but new baby pics.

Your Facebook feed will be nothing but new baby pics.

Some of them are yours, probably.

5. You will seriously consider moving to a more affordable part of the country.

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You can buy a house in Detroit for a pack of cigarettes, I hear.

6. The clothes from your twenties now make you look like you are trying too hard.

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7. Which is why you will look for “sensible” and “comfortable” clothes when shopping.

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Bonus if they are both “roomy” and “flattering.”

8. There are two camps of people: those who work out and those who work.

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A small population does both. Those people suck.

9. Getting carded is AWESOME.

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“You mean I look 21? Oh, you have to card everyone? Just let me have this!”

10. Your favorite foods will now wreak havoc on your insides.

Your favorite foods will now wreak havoc on your insides.

Chili fries? LOL. Like the raven doth say, “Nevermore, sucka.”

11. Investing in quality becomes important.

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And most importantly, doable. That means spending a little more on better clothes and maybe even a better car.

12. Hangovers will destroy you.

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You used to drink everyone under the table. Now you’re just under the table trying to figure out how you got so wasted off of two Amstel Lights.

13. The classic rock station is now playing your high school playlist.

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Since when is Nirvana classic rock? Wait. Nevermind is 23 years old? When did that happen?!

14. Quiet never sounded so good.

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When did the world get so loud? And bright? Close the shades, will ya?

15. Your back will hurt for no damn reason.

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You go to sleep on the eve of your 30th birthday with a healthy, youthful back, and awaken the next morning with the back of an 85-year-old carrot farmer.

16. Same goes for your feet.

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Time to start investing in orthotic shoe inserts! How fun!

17. You will gain hair in all the wrong places.

You will gain hair in all the wrong places.

But lose it in the places that matter most.

18. You will now have divorced friends.

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How adult is that?

19. Re-watching movies from your youth is a bad idea.

Re-watching movies from your youth is a bad idea.

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RIP Flight of the Navigator. I should have kept you in my memories where you belong.

20. Marathons everywhere.

Marathons everywhere.

Who knew so many of your friends were runners? Maybe you should do one. Nah, forget about it. There are Oreos in the cupboard.

21. Gray hairs will begin to multiply like horny bunnies.

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Ugh.

22. Somehow you are now a person with answers.

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When that intern at work asks what they need to look for in renting their first apartment, you will have actual advice. Actual. Sage. Advice.

23. Your clothes won’t be the only things laden with wrinkles.

Your clothes won't be the only things laden with wrinkles.

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Time to buy the Costco-size jug of night cream.

24. Activities like apple picking and wine tasting will be your new wild weekend plans.

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And both will make you tired the next day.

25. The only dancing you will do is at weddings and work parties.

The only dancing you will do is at weddings and work parties.

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Clubs? Those are for the youth and people desperately clinging to what they have left of their own.

26. Plus, dancing all night requires multiple water breaks.

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In your twenties you could dance all night, slamming shot after shot while living la dolce vita. Now it’s “I need another water. Can I get you another water?” as you slink off the dance floor drenched in sweat.

27. Talk of cool new bars and bands is replaced with talk of mortgage refinancing and preschool applications.

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Yeah, it may seem mundane, but seriously, how did you get little Kevin into that preschool?

28. The repercussions of your twenties will catch up with you.

30 Unexpected Things You Learn In Your Thirties

Those credit card offers seemed so reasonable at the time. So did the trip to Europe you used them on. Now you’re stuck paying for a trip that was ultimately “just OK.”

29. You wouldn’t go back to your twenties for a million bucks.

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Unless you go back and use the money on investing more wisely for your thirties, because then it’s a deal.

30. You can’t wait to be 40.

You can't wait to be 40.

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Because by then you’ll totally have all this shit figured out, right?

This Generation Sucks. But You Can’t Blame Us; We Didn’t Raise Ourselves

There has been so much talk about today’s generation or “these young people” as some like to call them and how self-serving they are. It seems that kids/young people of today also have less respect for authority even though they are more ambitious than ever. But let’s examine each generation and a few characteristics of them all:

The oldest recognized generation living is The Silent Generation. This generation was born anywhere from the mid-1920’s to the mid-1940’s (think Great Depression babies) and most notably includes those that have fought in the Korean War. This generation is very loyal to this country and they are hard-working but they are also traditional, almost to a fault. They represent less than 13% of the population.

Baby Boomers were born in the mid 1940’s to the mid 1960’s. They are very independent and work centric but are quite competitive and feel like everyone younger than them feels entitled. They maintain high morals & values but don’t totally embrace equality, (including gender or race equality). They represent close to 30% of the population.

Generation Xers were born in the mid 1960’s to about 1980 or so. They don’t seem to have a good work life balance but we are able to adapt more to change. They are definitely more diverse but we also have more relationship issues. They represent close to 30% of the population.

Millennials, also known as Generation Y, were born around 1980 to about the year 2000. Millennials are definitely more tech savvy and great multi-taskers, but are also less focused and don’t have an appreciation of working hard.  They represent close to 30% of the population.

Generation Z are those born after the year 2000. Although it’s too soon to tell anything about this generation, it is alleged that this current generation will be the heaviest medicated (think bi-polar, ADHD, etc.). However, this generation is the most technologically advanced as they “grew up” with iPads & smart phones.

However you may view this younger generation, just bear in mind that we are what we are because of the previous generation. After all, we didn’t raise ourselves!

 

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Read more about this current generation below –

What’s Wrong With Generation Y?

Almost two years ago, I penned an essay called “Why U.S. College Students are So Stupid.” It’s far and away the most widely-read article I’ve ever posted on this website, at one point, garnering acclaim from the dude that co-founded Sun Microsystems (and for all my detractors: when was the last time a legit billionaire praised something you wrote, by the way?)

I’ve been out of school for more than a year now, and virtually all of the criticisms I had about my college classmates seem to still hold true for my post-baccalaureate cohorts. It’s not so much a general anti-intellectualism I detect in some of my Millennial brethren as it is this comprehensive ethos that rejects effort, independence, self-sacrifice or productivity completely — in other words, a generational philosophy that seems to embrace self-indulgent shiftlessness and shun self-responsibility like Dracula in front of a crucifix.

Of course, this isn’t to say that ALL Gen Y members share all of these attributes, but I assure you — a whole hell of a lot of Millennials display some, or even all, of the following ten character flaws that I believe, tallied up, could result in our generation completely destroying America’s financial and social frameworks. That may sound like hyperbole, but think about how much generational ideology shaped the world the Greatest Generation inherited, and how much of the “Baby Boomer mentality” forged much of our current cultural infrastructure. The world is most certainly in the hands of Gen Y, and tasked with the gargantuan obligation of getting the modern world out of the economic and geopolitical quagmire that our parents created is something that not only are MOST Gen Y kids in the US unprepared for…it’s a generational challenge to which they remain completely oblivious (or worse, even unconcerned.)

So, what’s wrong with today’s youth? Well, for starters, here are ten common characteristics that you can chalk up as MAJOR generational problems among my peers…

Problem One:
We have absolutely ZERO ambition in life. 

It’s a fundamental question everyone who has ever done anything halfway worthwhile in life has asked themselves: what is it, exactly, that I want to do with my life? For some truly dedicated individuals, that causa sui is apparent from an early age, who then spend their young adulthoods scrapping as hard as they can to turn fantasy into reality. In other words, the general course of success is “you pinpoint something you want to do, you get qualified to do it, and then you…get this…actually do it.”

Problem numero uno for Gen Y is that a large number of kids these days have absolutely NO ambitions whatsoever. They have no idea what they want to do as a profession, and as a result, make no real efforts to expand their knowledge or skill sets through post-secondary education. Granted, Gen Y kids may have interests and hobbies, but outside of some grandiose daydreaming, they never muster up enough energy to actually get up off their asses and make a concentrated effort to pursue those things as sustainable careers. In their heads, Gen Y kids may envision themselves as the next big comic book writer, or the next John Mayer or the next Kevin Smith, but they lack the general discipline to even remotely go after such “aspirations.”  And then, it’s back to satiating the immediate wants: another game of “Tekken,” another hour or so on Facebook, another toke of the bong. Why do things when it’s so much easier to lay on your duff and squander the entire afternoon instead?

Problem Two:
We seek “meaning” in things that provide us with virtually no return-on-investment.

Gen Y kids have wealth of knowledge on a lot of niche areas — in other words, pretty much all of us are walking Encyclopedias, porting about detailed data on things that have absolutely zero practical import, like “Star Wars” or “Street Fighter.” While slaving away in community colleges and our minimum wage paying jobs at Foot Locker, we dwell upon “social activities” that are both costly and result in hardly — if any — financial benefits.

Many Millennials have an insane, beyond-vested interest in their online portfolios — in other words, electronic “socialization” apparatuses that give us “proxy meaning” as a substitute for interest in things that are both financially lucrative and intellectually productive. Facebook, blogs, online gaming, YouTube…all mechanisms that give Gen Y youth the illusion of social impact, power and community, while their actual influence in the world, as both consumers and wealth producers, remains virtually nada.

Problem Three:
We’re a bunch of nihilistic puds that blame everybody but ourselves for our failings. 

Gen Y kids have no idea what they feel strongly about — politically, religiously, spiritually, morally, ideologically or philosophically. As such, they take refuge in either fringe movements (be it supporting an utterly unelectable lunatic fringe third party candidate or supporting the insane drivel of “conspiracy theorist” barkers) or they completely abandon the pursuit of meaning altogether. In short, they become amoral individuals with no real sense of what has value and what doesn’t — they just drift through life sans objectives, cynically mocking and berating everything they come in contact with.

And with this nihilistic mentality firmly embedded in their skulls, they feel as if it is literally impossible to surmount whatever contemporary hardships they encounter, and instead revel in their own inadequacy like piglets playing in a slop bucket. Others tend to blame their personal failings not on a lack of effort, motivation or determination (not to mention poorly thought, individual decision making) but instead on these massive constructs — some of which, like the “banking system,” are completely abstract. Long story short? Gen Y kids cling to “failure” like a security blanket — a universal rationalization that exempts us from self-blame or pursuing any impetus to better our own circumstances.

Problem Four:
We’ve made “entertainment” our religion

One of the very few things Gen Y kids have a reverence for is entertainment. Their movie and television watching habits take on this weird ritualistic quality, and they speak about their favorite writers — almost always those of the science fiction-fantasy-comic book variety — as if they were canonized saints. In many ways, the lives of Gen Y kids revolves completely around their preferred form of “fandom” — in turn, making the entire Millennial Generation a throng of individuals more than happy to be consumers, with no aspirations at all of becoming genuine producers of value.

Fandom has replaced faith for my generation, with the epistles of yore being abandoned in favor of the DVD box set. The most pressing ideological choice for Generation Y isn’t Protestantism vs. Catholicism, but “Star Wars” vs. “Star Trek,” and instead of debating the social implications of conservatism versus liberalism, the most passionate discussions we engage in are about DC versus Marvel. Now, just how much would you trust industry and national security to an entire culture that vaunts such trivialities above political, economic and social matters?

Problem Five:
We’re utterly incapable of doing anything without the Internet

Alike nuclear energy, the Internet has proven a double-edged sword. On one end, it revolutionized both industry and the press, creating a trillion dollar social pillar (and that’s just Apple’s presumptive net worth, mind you) that made running businesses and media enterprises simpler — and more cost-efficient — than at any point in human history. Never before have we had access to information so great, and with it, never has the potential for self-employment, true grassroots social activism and individual, intellectual bettering been so facile. And serving as the “Hiroshima and Nagasaki” counterpoint to the equation, goddamn, has the Internet utterly infantilized an entire generation.

Here’s a fairly lengthy manifesto I once penned, detailing the myriad ways the proliferation of the Internet has permanently damaged my generation’s ability to think and socialize. With the expansion of mobile media devices, it is now true that Gen Y kids NEVER leave the Internet — they even sleep with their Internet-powered Smartphones beside them in bed, perpetually anchored to the World Wide Web like toddlers clinging to their mothers’ skirts. Without the aide of the Internet, we can’t cook a dish, drive anywhere, do homework or arrange meetings with more than one person at a time. If the Internet just up and vanished tomorrow, my cohorts would literally be thrust backwards into a mental Dark Age — leaving them not only utterly incapable of managing their lives, but completely oblivious as to how human life can function at all sans a tablet or MP3 device.

Problem Six:
We don’t know the difference between “want” and “need.”

Generation Y cannot make even the foggiest distinction between materialist “want” and financial “necessity.” We think we can delay paying bills indefinitely, and that we can put as much over-the-monthly-limit charges on our credit cards as we so desire. We use student loans to buy flat screen televisions, and bitch about not being able to pay rent when we spend a sum tantamount to rent in needless cable television, Smartphone and various online application subscriptions every month. And don’t even think about the term “budgeting” — we just spend as much as we can, on whatever we want, with money we don’t technically have, and that’s that.

Things like “savings plans” are becoming alien concepts to my generation. The concept of living within your means — or god forbid, below them in order to save up money for a rainy day — is not only foreign to Gen Y kids, its completely incomprehensible. As hyper-consumerists, we’re completely oblivious to the “consequences” of our reckless spending on utterly unneeded leisure and luxury items. Which, in turn, leads to yet another criticism of the Millenials…

Problem Seven:
We’re never responsible for our own actions  

One of the commonalities shared by my cohorts is that, no matter what they do, it’s never THEIR fault. If they have to file chapter 7 bankruptcy at the age of 20, it’s not because they unwisely spent money and were too ignorant to fully understand how credit works, it’s the credit card companies themselves for “targeting” them as easy prey.  If we flunk out of a college course, it’s not because we didn’t study and bothered to show up for class, but because the teacher “had it in for us.” For Gen Y, everything in the world is a viable scapegoat, except the notion of self-blaming.

Even worse, we expect to have our records expunged, so that when we do mess up, not only do we NOT have to take personal responsibility for screwing up, we get to immediately start with a blank slate after whatever “penalty” we are forced to incur as a result of our poor decision making. Even worse, we expect someone or something to immediately “bail us out” at the first signs of trouble — that our credit card companies will “forgive” our debts, that our student loan officers will simply “wave off” our monthly minimum, so on and so forth. And speaking of pinning blame on others…

Problem Eight:
Because we think we’re “disadvantaged,” we don’t even try to improve our lives
 

 The idea of “personal responsibility” is a foreign concept to Generation Y. No matter how much one messes up — academically, financially, occupationally, etc. — the ONLY thing we refuse to blame for such personal hardships is our own, less-than-wise decision making. And as such, we’ve become experts at “self-victimization,” turning ourselves into Omni-oppressed individuals that face so many (almost entirely) non-existent barriers to success that we simply cannot envision ourselves succeeding due to being so “unfairly” disadvantaged in virtually every area.

Of course, there ARE cultural obstructions that serve as obstacles to many youth. It’s absurd to think that things like classism and racism aren’t major social blights in the U.S., but by that same token, I believe it is just as absurd to claim that such institutions are SO ingrained in modern infrastructure that it is impossible for anyone that considers themselves a minority, in any capacity, to achieve a modicum of self-sustainability through hard work, determination, and that thing we used to call “personal will.” And don’t think it’s just the “big” variables that we see as barriers to accomplishment — gender, race, sexual orientation, etc. — it’s also some incredibly trivial “self-qualifiers,” too. You would be AMAZED at the number of young people out there that genuinely think they are being “held back” by the intangible “social framework” because they’re atheists, or vegetarians, or they have slight medical problems, or they have a profound inability to communicate with others without sounding like a jackass. We’re an entire culture that believes the world is working against us, and as such? We don’t even think things like “effort” are even worth it anymore.

Problem Nine
We never stop letting our parents run our lives 

Once upon a time, being an adult meant leaving your parents’ home, getting a job, and being in charge of your own financial well-being. For an ever growing number of Gen Y kids, all three of those things are becoming antediluvian ideals, replaced by a new social order where children never stop being children, even as their own thirty-hoods stare them directly in the face.

To say that Gen Y kids remain economically dependent on their parents — or guardians, or kin, or whoever was legally responsible for raising them as adolescents and teens — is like calling Rush Limbaugh “just a little plump.” Even after college, many Gen Y kids remain in their parents’ home, where they remain coddled, fed and fiscally supported as if they were pre-teens. There’s never an impetus to become one’s own person, and even if they do get the idea to just up and leave, guess who keeps paying for their rent, and utilities, and even their credit card debt? Independence used to be something young people would strive for: with Gen Y kids, however, it’s the most terrifying prospect in the known universe.

Problem Ten
We’ve allowed commercial culture to become our only generational unifier 

While stability in a post World War II, post Great Depression America was our grandparents greatest cultural concern, our parents greatest concern was making lots and lots of money (as the 1980s no doubt demonstrated.) Our generation, however, has made consumption our utmost social ambition: instead of striving for national success or interpersonal wealth, all we care about is buying crap. We go to school to work, so we can buy Apple computers and new cars and new tablets and new video game systems and a whole bunch of other nonsense that serves no other purpose than to drive us into bankruptcy. Commercialism isn’t just our foremost existential motivator, it has, in many ways, completely absorbed our culture in such a way as to make every other possible qualifier — be it religion, ethnicity or race — obsolete.

Now, on the surface, you may be wondering what’s so bad about that. I mean, what’s the downside to an entire generation of multiculturally diverse people coalescing into a color-blind, language-deaf monoculture, anyway? Well, the problem there is that this mass consumption causa sui makes us lose not only our preexisting senses of identity, but also, our morals and ethics, which are firmly attached to those personal qualifiers we lose in a commercial uni-culture where the only thing that matters is which brand you support. With material culture as our agreed upon highest power, we’re not only rejecting all of the norms and values attached to an industrious society, we’re basically obliterating every other form of meaning out there. The end result, I am afraid, could very well be an American society, 50 years from now, that’s even less socially conscious or conscientious than the Weimar Republic was in the wake of World War I.

All of that criticism is quite heavy, I admit, but that’s not to say that there isn’t still a little bit of time to alter the trajectory of Gen Y. Here are five potential remedies to wait ails the Millennials…but be warned, for these things to be effective, our generation has to actually make a concentrated effort here (a task beyond Herculean, I am aware.)

Solution One
Bring back the notion of “personal responsibility”

 As a culture, we could improve our overall lot in life by doing two things: believing that are lives have some sort of greater meaning (which exists beyond eating, buying and Facebooking) and then believing that we — as individual beings — are ultimately responsible for our own outcomes. As you can see, saving Gen Y from itself is already proving itself to be a steep uphill battle.

How do you get people to believe that they have the capacity to alter their lives for the better, and especially, do so in a way that emphasizes person responsibility as an utmost social value? For starters, the hyper consumer state — which promotes single-minded, self-absorbed individualness above all other causes — has to be dismantled. From there, Gen Y kids have to re-shift their priorities to “greater causes” than mere self-gratification, which, necessarily, would have to also instill in those same individuals a sense of “self-management” that would take precedence over theorizations of victimization. Until we get people realizing that they, as lone human beings,  are responsible for their own contemporary conditions — and certainly, within themselves, additionally having the capacity to change those conditions — we aren’t going to be getting anything done, for a long time to come.

Solution Two
De-emphasize pop culture and place a greater focus on the real world

With such a ceaseless emphasis on entertainment, technology culture and other realms of inconsequential geekdom, there has never been an American generation so utterly unattached to the real world — meaning not only the economic/political/social realm with consequential affairs, but the world outside of the “Internet sphere,” where everything is reduced to memes, abstractions and “distant” matters that exist solely on the screen of one’s smartphone or tablet.

Imagine, if you will, what would happen if Gen Y abandoned its infatuation with manga and graphic novels and instead elected to immerse itself the works of Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn or Erich Fromm. How would our generational ideals change is we replaced juvenile fare like Harry Potter, The Hunger Games and Twilight with the prose of Benjamin Barber, Daniel Yergin or Thomas Friedman? What if instead of being bystanders playing video games and watching WorldStarHipHop videos of real-life domestic abuse as entertainment, we become active observers of the political, social and economic arenas — in short, we became a peoples whose tastes were more New York Times than The Colbert Report, who prefer Newsweek to IGN, who would rather watch the documentary films of Errol Morris and Warner Herzog than mindless crap like “Iron Man 3?” The cultural dividends, I assure you, would be far greater than simply a more enlightened citizenry.

Solution Three
Turn Off The Internet

Of course, the Internet makes us lazier. It also gives us a universal “distraction” from being productive in the real world — why go job hunting, or why study for that exam, when it’s much easier to just play on Reddit all day and watch YouTube videos of people getting whacked in the testicles instead?

For all the good the Internet does as a business and information distribution tool, it also promotes a whole hell of a lot of idleness — as well as skew our sense of what “social interaction” is. That, and it’s freewheeling, internationally-binding copyrighting laws-be damned nature is, in my opinion, understated in its effects on how my generation perceives property and civility. Ours is a generation that simply believes it can “torrent” everything it needs, without consequences — certainly, not for us as brazen pirates, and doubly certainly not for the artists, publishers and developers that have seen their livelihoods become unsustainable due to the proliferation of peer-to-peer “sharing.” We see nothing wrong about purchasing custom-made term papers off the Web — in short, the Internet, and the culture surrounding it, plays no small part in our mass narcissism and ability to feel shame or guilt about our own doings. Curtail this “Internet mentality” — with its detached, unsophisticated and brutish character — and you’ll know doubt begin seeing a Gen Y ethos that’s a whole hell of lot more respectful and civic-minded.

Solution Four
Start reminding us that actions (and much more importantly, inactions) have dire consequences

For far too many Gen Y kids, being an “adult” means freedom to do whatever the hell they want, without anyone telling them they can’t or shouldn’t (which probably explains why must of Ron Paul’s supporters are all Millennials.) The rub there is, adulthood isn’t about being “free” to do whatever the hell you like, it’s about being responsible enough to dictate your own life and make your own decisions…and at the very least, acknowledging that what you do has consequences beyond your contemporary state when you do it.

This problem is compounded by the fact that so many Gen Y kids live in this perpetual present state, where things like “pasts” and “futures” are irrelevant — and even worse, many Millennials seem oblivious to the fact that what they do and say now might just have ramifications later on in their lives. Simply put, Gen Y has to shift its focus away from instant pleasures and towards longer-term ambitions, which means sacrificing individual wants for greater common goods. Granted, it’s not easy getting the most self-absorbed, non-civically minded generation in U.S. history to adjust its tune overnight, but if we can come to realize the direness of so many contemporary problems and how they WILL definitely affect us in the long haul — the economy, the state of health care, the funding models for social services, etc. — then maybe, just maybe, we might be able to start thinking about things beyond what we’re going to eat later in the evening.

Solution Five
Change the definition of what’s “important” in modern culture

Perhaps the likeliest means of shifting generational attitudes is also the most difficult — hence, why I positioned it last instead of first. Simply put, Gen Y is a product of an earlier generational ethos — that of our baby boomer parents — that vaunted materialistic excess, vapid class ideals and incessant consumption as a path to personal fulfillment. Since birth, we’ve been bombarded with a single message — buying stuff makes you happy — and as the nation’s staggering credit debt numbers demonstrate, that little self-cause has lead us into an economic quagmire the likes of which the U.S. has not seen since the heyday of the Great Depression.

What was important or “functional” for our parents just doesn’t work for us — mostly because the world left to us by our parents is a completely banged-up, environmentally, socially and economically desolate facsimile of what used to be the American Dream. Instead of following our parents’ ideals — buying expensive furniture with our credit cards, taking out gargantuan loans from the bank to pay for unnecessary hair transplants, cheating on our spouses and thinking that having lots of built-up equity will make us complete as individuals — we need to develop new ideals that celebrate things of substance as opposed to style. Maybe instead of celebrating a mass culture that promotes extravagant spending, we should champion a counterculture movement that encourages saving, thrift, charity and sound investments. Instead of promoting a social milieu of hyper-individualism and materialistic obsession, perhaps we should focus on collective improvements and concentrated efforts on real-life social issues — homelessness, wealth inequality, and if absolutely nothing else, the fact that our culture ISN’T getting a fair amount of representation in any political or civic arena.

Am I Wasting My Youth By Not Having Enough Sex?

Debbie Reynolds recently gave an interview where she said “I wish I had enjoyed more sex.” Of all the things she could’ve said that was quite a statement to make at 81 years old! But her comment made me wonder whether or not I’m having enough sex.

Admittedly, I haven’t had a lot of sexual partners but I’m already over 30 and not even close to getting married. Should I have more sex before I get too old? Perhaps I should just add more sexual partners to my roster before I get married? Now, I am not saying that I’m going to go wilin’ out but maybe it wouldn’t kill me to have a little more experience. I won’t have my looks forever (or my figure, for that matter) so why waste my youth by not having more sex now?

Everyone already thinks that the older you get the less sex you have, whether married or unmarried. And the older you get there are fewer & fewer available men to have sex with so if I don’t have my fun now, there’s a chance I may miss out altogether. I would hate for one of my regrets in life to be “I didn’t have enough sex when I was younger & nobody wants me now that I’m older.” (Lol)

The problem is that it’s not that easy to have more sex when you get older. Even in my thirties it takes a lot more energy & effort to hook up with someone who doesn’t have any drama, diseases or other issues.  Not to mention it takes a lot more physically to stay in shape than when I was in my twenties. Since I’m not sexually active now, I feel like I am doing the right thing by not “sleeping around”. I can only hope that the quality of sex that I’ll have when I get older will make up for the sex that I’m missing out on as a young woman.

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