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28 Signs You’re A Hipster

  1. You get mad when people post videos or articles about played-out trends on your Facebook wall, because people might actually think you still think things like the Harlem Shake are cool.
  2. You often find yourself resisting the overwhelming temptation to say “their older albums were better” when people ask you if you’ve heard a cool new song.
  3. You judge people for driving.
  4. When you read articles about things like gentrification, you get a little knot in your stomach because you know, on some level, it’s referring to you and your friends.
  5. That still isn’t going to discourage you from moving to Harlem and/or Bushwick.
  6. The most exciting thing that’s happened to you in recent memory is a Trader Joe’s/Whole Foods opening up in your neighborhood, and you kind of don’t care how many row houses were evicted and demolished to put it up.
  7. Several of your friends are bartenders at hole-in-the-wall bars, and at least one of them frequently says things along the lines of “Beer is the new wine.”
  8. You know what a barista jam is, and have possibly been to one/dated someone who went to one.
  9. You get pissed at your local coffee shop for not knowing what a “flat white” is.
  10. You have gotten so into cycling that the majority of your disposable income now goes into buying new gear for your longer rides and parts for your bike.
  11. There is rarely a dinner conversation that goes by where you don’t mention the fact that your city does not have nearly enough combinations for cyclists, and how frustrated you are with the city council’s inactivity on the subject.
  12. You actively choose to wear glasses that you know don’t flatter your face just because they’re big and obnoxious.
  13. If you’re a women, you wear crowns of flowers with your outfits as though that is somehow a thing normal human beings do.
  14. You get really into things like wine and tea even though you don’t really care about them, simply because you want to know a lot about it and be “the wine guy,” or “the tea guy.”
  15. You live in an awesome apartment that your parents pay for even though you have a job yourself, because using your own means to pay for it would mean downgrading.
  16. You are a part-time DJ.
  17. You constantly refer to bars and restaurants as being “too pedestrian” or “too full of tourists,” even if they are not at all a tourist spot.
  18. You have an iPhone, yet can’t afford basic groceries.
  19. You constantly bum cigarettes off of people while out drinking yet claim that you “don’t smoke.”
  20. You feel the need to reiterate how much you would not eat the junk food or fast food that someone else is eating while they’re eating it.
  21. You own a pair of pastel Doc Martens.
  22. You participate in Movember year-round.
  23. Your profile pictures look like they were shot and art directed by Terry Richardson.
  24. You own at least one coffee table book with vaguely pornographic art/photographs.
  25. No matter what is going in life, no matter what you’re facing, you always magically have money for drugs.
  26. You talk about how much you hate American Apparel, yet all your clothes look like they came from there.
  27. At least one your profile pictures is you smiling with a bunch of impoverished children in Africa/South America/Southeast Asia.
  28. You try to re-thrift your thrift shop clothes, and are rejected because they fall below Goodwill standards.

 

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*Originally published on Thought Catalog.

Who’s Party Is It?! (Does Having Down Syndrome Mean You Should Automatically Be Included?)

A story has gone viral about a mother who was upset that her son, who has Down Syndrome, wasn’t invited to his classmate’s birthday party. Apparently, everyone else in the child class was invited which caused the boy with Down Syndrome (Sawyer) to feel left out. Sawyer’s mother wrote an open letter to the parents of the birthday boy & decided to post it on social media in an effort to encourage inclusion on behalf of her son. The parents of the birthday boy ended up sending a “special” invitation to Sawyer to appease the mother and many people rallied around Sawyer’s mother for standing up for her son.

Here is the opening paragraph of her letter from her Facebook page:

Hi there,

I know we don’t know each other well but my son Sawyer and your child are in the same class. I understand that your child recently delivered birthday invitations to the entire class except to Sawyer, who was not invited. I also understand that this was not an oversight on your part, that it was an intentional decision to not to include my son….

 

 

My question is this: Since when does everyone have to be invited to a child’s birthday party? Shouldn’t the ‘birthday boy’ be able to invite anyone he wants to his OWN party?

While it would be great if everyone was invited to everything, that’s just not possible. The parents who are paying for their child’s birthday party can legally, ethically & morally invite whomever they choose. Who’s to say that the birthday boy himself even wanted his classmate, Sawyer, to attend his party?!

I understand that no one wants to be left out, but why blast someone over social media just because your son was excluded from a PRIVATE event? Wouldn’t you want your child to go to a party that they were actually invited to, not one where they weren’t wanted in the first place?! Why force your child on anyone else? No one is obligated to include your child in a privately held function, whether they have Down Syndrome or not. Respect the wishes of those who are throwing the party.

I don’t think Sawyer’s mother handled this in the best way. First off, she should not have taken to social media to express her gripes about her son being left out. Secondly, did she even find out why her son was not included? Perhaps the other parents were concerned about needing additional supervision for Sawyer. We don’t even know the age of the classmate who was throwing the birthday party. Down Syndrome children are typically academically delayed which means they could be in a class with people who are 3,4 or even 5 years younger than they are. So while these two children were in the same grade, that doesn’t mean they were the same age. Maybe the birthday boy didn’t want an “older” kid at his birthday party.

Thirdly, at some point children have to learn that they won’t always be included. Regardless of our “condition” in life, not everyone is invited to everything. What better time to learn this life lesson than as a young person?

At the end of the day, it’s okay to stand up for your child but these parents can invite anyone they want into their home and to their child’s birthday party. It’s their home, it’s their money and it’s their right.

What do you think? Should Sawyer have been included with the rest of his classmates or do people have the right to invite whoever they’d like to their own party?