One of the TV shows I’m addicted to is “Marriage At First Sight”. It’s a reality show following the life of 3 newly married couples as they journey through their wedding day, honeymoon & the subsequent merging of their lives. But what makes this show so different is that the husbands & the wives have never met before. That’s right – the first time they met each other was on their wedding day, at the altar!
The reason I like this show is because it represents marriage at its core. Originally, marriage had nothing to do with love. And I believe that even to this day, marriage should be more about compatibility than love/lust. Unfortunately, many people marry today for the wrong reasons, including love, when that’s not what always holds a marriage together. That can come & go and the mere feeling of love can fade. But when you allow the professionals to be in charge of your love life & make emotional decisions on a more objective basis, things can actually work out better that way!
I normally don’t write about television shows but I thought this experiment was so unique I just had to share my thoughts on each of the couples:
Jaclyn & Ryan R. – Jaclyn wasn’t initially attracted to her new husband when they first met. She thought he was pretty goofy, and although he is a little more laid back than she is, they slowly got to know one another over their honeymoon period. They live pretty far apart from each other but once they got a home together and “real life” started to settle in, Jaclyn became more attracted to Ryan (it also helped that they finally consummated the relationship). Their biggest problem is that Ryan is a “momma’s boy” and is getting very homesick even though he’s only been married about a month. You see, Ryan previously lived with his mother & young niece and has never really lived away from them before. Now that he’s married (which is what he wanted by signing up for this show), he’s having second thoughts. I really can’t blame Jaclyn for being turned off by a man who is missing his mommy. Perhaps at age 29, Ryan was just too young to get married.
Jessica & Ryan D. – Jessica and Ryan probably have the most chemistry; they certainly wasted no time in consummating their union! They are, however, the youngest couple and don’t seem to be communicating all that well. Jessica doesn’t speak up for herself at all & Ryan has got a temper, a bad temper. Even during their arguments he has been totally disrespectful. Although the attraction is there, they seem to lack a solid foundation or even the desire to work together. Jessica also seems to cry over everything and seems really naïve to me. Ryan has some ‘outdated’ sense of what marriage is because he is always referencing the marriage of his deceased grandparent’s. He doesn’t seem to understand that what worked for two people raised in the 1920’s & 30’s won’t necessarily work in a marriage between two people raised in the 1980’s & 1990’s. I’m not so sure that this couple will end up staying together.
Davina & Sean – These 2 are the most mature couples on the show. Their relationship appears to be developing at a normal pace with minimal issues. Davina, however, pouts quite a bit and seems to only be concerned with her own feelings, and not her husband’s. Sean moved from New Jersey to Manhattan to be with her and has had issues adjusting. Instead of being there for him & understanding his apprehension, she nags him for not trying to adjust to New York faster. C’mon Davina!! Not to mention, they have yet to consummate their marriage, which I’m sure is adding to Sean’s stress. Sean is a good man (and a cute White boy too!) and I think if Davina doesn’t start appreciating him, he’ll leave her.
You may be wondering why marry someone you don’t know? Well, what makes this show so great is that each of the couples were ‘assigned’ to be married by professional counselors. There is relationship expert/Sociologist – Dr. Pepper Schwartz, clinical psychologist – Dr. Joseph Cilona, sexologist – Dr. Logan Levkoff and Chaplain Greg Epstein. These four experts paired six people together based on their likely compatibility. They were all interviewed, went through a thorough background check and even survived home visits from the experts. Although thousands of people auditioned for this show there were only 3 men & 3 women that stood out as most compatible. Religious beliefs, finances and family backgrounds were all taken into consideration. After weeks of interviewing, the individuals were brought to the altar for legally binding holy matrimony, where they met for the very first time. They have 6 weeks to figure out whether or not they want to stay together forever or get a divorce. It’s a very interesting “experiment” to say the least.
Do you watch this show? What do you think of the concept? Would you allow someone to set you up for a “blind marriage”? Please share in the comments section below –
Nickelodeon is partnering with the Because of Them, We Can™ initiative to commemorate Black History Month through a campaign launching today across the network’s multiple platforms, including on-air, digital and social. Nickelodeon will air three original 30-second PSAs that feature kids portraying distinguished African Americans, including Maya Angelou, Muhammad Ali and Malcolm X. The PSAs, which were produced by Because of Them, We Can™, will air throughout February and also will be showcased on a dedicated web site (http://www.nick.com/thanks) that provides kids and families with additional information about Black History Month.
“Through this partnership, Nickelodeon is using the power of our screens to amplify a positive message and connect kids to the lessons of the past that underscore the remarkable contributions of African Americans,” said Marva Smalls, Executive Vice President of Public Affairs, Nickelodeon. “The Because of Them, We Can™ campaign encourages a new generation of kids to learn about African-American history in a way that makes them part of the narrative and is relevant to them.”
“We are excited to share these videos through the lens of Nickelodeon, empowering their viewers and hopefully, awakening their potential,” said Eunique Jones Gibson, Founder, Because of Them, We Can™. “Our goal is to connect kids to heroes, past and present, and create a banner of excellence for all people, young and old, to live by.”
Kids can log on to http://www.nick.com/thanks to stream the Because of Them, We Can™-created spots; learn interesting facts about other noteworthy historical and modern day African-American icons; view additional Black History-themed video clips; and get more information about the Because of Them, We Can campaign™. Nickelodeon’s social media channels will also support the initiative with daily tweets of images from the Because of Them, We Can™ initiative via @NickelodeonTV and posts on Nickelodeon’s Facebook page throughout the month.
The Because of Them, We Can™ photo campaign was launched by activist and photographer Eunique Jones Gibson to inspire young people and create images that positively represent African Americans. The initiative has expanded beyond still images to include video content, a book and products designed to empower people of all ages and colors.
About Because Of Them, We Can
Founded in 2013, Because of Them, We Can is a viral photo campaign that aims to build the self-esteem in children by providing them with positive imagery to serve as a constant reminder of their potential. Because of Them, We Can celebrates America’s rich history and promising future through images that refute stereotypes for our children by educating and connecting them to heroes who have paved the way. For more information, please visit www.becauseofthemwecan.com.
Throughout Black History Month 2015, The White House Initiative on Educational Excellence for African Americans and the Because of Them We Can Campaign are collaborating to empower and educate by highlighting important African American figures that have supported the learning and development of African Americans of all ages. Beginning February 1st, we will share images and fun facts or teachable moment designed to encourage learning about the hero of the day as well as sharing that information with loved ones, especially children youth.
The Because of Them We Can campaign was the concept of artist, tech expert and entrepreneur Eunique Jones Gibson. Ms. Gibson has previously been honored for her idea to use images of young people dressed as important historical figures as a teaching and awareness tool when she was named a White House Champion of Change for STEM access & diversity in 2014. The campaign includes images ranging from scientists to community activists; Nobel laureates to cultural icons gracing the pages of her 365-page table book. “I am excited and honored to share the Because of Them, We Can campaign and work with the White House Initiative on Educational Excellence for African Americans to ensure the images educate and empower” said Eunique Jones Gibson.
“Through the partnership I hope to further the campaign’s mission of building the esteem of both children and adults, while helping them reflect on a living legacy of greatness.”
The inspiring photos are reminders of the many people who served as groundbreaking leaders, but many times aren’t highlighted in history books.
The team at the White House Initiative on Educational Excellence for African Americans works to make sure people of all ages and backgrounds can connect excellence to the African American community. “The Because of Them We Can Campaign literally connects young Black children to the heroes and sheroes upon whose shoulders they stand,” said David J. Johns, Executive Director of the White House Initiative on Educational Excellence for African Americans.