Tag: Thoughts

My Pet Peeves

Like practically everyone else, I have a few (give or take) pet peeves. Here are a few  –

  • When people don’t have liquid soap in their guest bathroom – what’s up with bar soap in the guest bathroom?! I don’t want to rub my hands on the same bar of soap that every person has touched since the beginning of time. Liquid is always better.
  • When the outside of the trash can is dirty – I know trash is supposed to be dirty (and smelly, and ugly, etc.) & all, but the outside of the trash receptacle should be kept clean, IMO. This indicates a sense of hygiene – no matter how much “mess” you may have, you can still keep it contained without “looking a mess”.
  • My laptop & my cell phone show 2 different times – this is something that’s not supposed to happen, but it does. Every now and then I will see two different times on my screens. Fortunately, it has never caused me to be late or anything, but don’t even get me started on my alarm clock.
  • When people face their babies towards them in a stroller – why on earth would you think that your kid wants to stare at you instead of seeing the rest of the world like you? They have to look at your face all the time during the rest of the day so why subject them to that when there are so many other things to look at? I understand facing them backwards in a car seat or even in a chair (at the dining room table or in a restaurant) but when your kid is in a stroller and you’re out for a run, turn the stroller around so that your child can take in the sights of their surroundings.
  • Leaves the floor wet after a shower – so there’s been some pretty heated discussion around this. Some people believe that the purpose of the floor is to dry your feet & that your towel is to be used for the rest of your body. But I am a firm believer of drying off completely before even exiting the shower stall or bathtub. Each foot can be dried off right before hitting the floor outside of the shower but to avoid any excess wetness on your bathroom floor, a rug can be used to absorb the water.
  • Different smells when a meal is cooking – who doesn’t love to walk into a room with the smell of good food wafting about? I do! I do! A good smelling dish can really lift just about anyone’s spirits except when there are too many good smelling dishes going on at once.
  • People who chew gum with their mouth open – we all know that chewing with our mouths open is bad, but for some reason there are people who think that chewing gum with their mouths open is okay. People who chew gum with their mouth wide open are liable to start popping their gum and making a bunch of smacking noises. It’s annoying!
  • When people complain about something that they do – why complain about a job that you chose?! I know there are aspects to every job that we don’t like, but if you are working/volunteering, etc. then keep the complaining to a minimum, otherwise, find something else to do.
  • Dirty fingernails – just gross!

What are some of your pet peeves?


Examine Your Relationships This Year

There is a saying, you can’t pick your family but you can pick your friends.
An ideal, healthy friendship relationship, whether it’s with your girlfriend or a male platonic friend, is one that, as the Word calls it, iron sharpens iron.
Proverbs 27:17 reads, Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. Sharpen means to be or make sharp and the word, countenance, means face, favor, or presence.
You want those in your presence, whether they’re close friends or acquaintances, to sharpen you, keep you on your toes, and you do the same for them.  You don’t need people around you who simply agree with you all the time.
You need people who, when trouble comes, they can speak a Word to you in due season, encourage you when you’re down, and help you see how through God’s Word and God’s love you can press on.
Examine your relationships and see which should stay and which should go away, then act accordingly.  As the saying goes, some people are in your life for a reason, for a season, or for a lifetime.
Pray about which category your friends fall, then pray and ask God how to proceed.

*Originally published on Kim on the Web.

“Don’t Give Up On Us Yet”

I was out & about recently and randomly ended up talking to 3 young African American men. They seemed to be in their late twenties, dressed rather casually and appeared to be complete strangers, but all of them had something in common – all 3 of them worked in the entertainment industry in some shape form or fashion.

As it turns out, one of the young men was somewhat of a celebrity. He is a well-known skateboarder, hailing from Alaska. He is also a motivational/inspirational speaker who is highly sought after around the world. He was in a conversation with another young man who was an author & an actor, and they were talking about the ups & downs of being in the entertainment industry. Another young man was within earshot, overheard the conversation & decided to join in. He is an actor/writer and wanted to network with other African Americans in the industry.

Our conversation ended shortly thereafter; we all exchanged contact information. But before the skateboarder & author walked away, they told me “Don’t give up on us yet.” I asked them what they meant & they said those same words, “Don’t give up on us yet.” The author said to me, “I know relationships can be tough but don’t give up on us Black men yet. We’re here…just don’t give up hope.”

I was so taken aback that I didn’t know how to respond. It was as if he was reading my inner thoughts. Little did he know that earlier that day, I was thinking about how tough dating is & how easy it would be to just give up altogether. But those 6 little words nearly brought me to tears.

Sometimes you just don’t know how some seemingly small piece of advice can go a long way. What type of advice have you received that really helped you?

And On His Instagram Page, I Found…

So, I met this guy who said he was really into me. A product of the South, he moved to L.A. a while ago and told me that he wanted to settle down, get married & have a family. Of course, these are the words every single woman wants to hear, so needless to say, I wasn’t moved at all.  We exchanged contact information and have talked on the phone a few times & even hung out once. Our conversations ranged from religion to comedy, and from politics to family. With all of our conversation, not once did he mention something so very important.

On his Instagram page (which he asked me to check out), I found out that he had not 1, but 2 kids! A little boy & a young daughter. Can you believe it?! A man who had talked to me for hours not once mentioned that he was a father, let alone a father to two children. How could he leave this “tidbit” of information out of our conversations? Did he not think I would find out eventually?

Was he ashamed of fathering 2 children? Did he not have a good relationship with them or their mothers? Was he expecting me to get to know him first before dropping this bombshell on me? Or maybe he didn’t think that it mattered that I didn’t know? Did he think that I would want to be with him more when I found out from another source that he had kids? Or maybe he wasn’t “hiding” it from me, but he certainly wasn’t forthcoming with the information either. Whatever his explanation was for not telling me just wouldn’t have made any sense to me.

Why would you not want someone to know that you have multiple children? Why would you expect someone to trust you if you are withholding such relevant information from them? No one should ever have to find out over social media that you have kids. That’s reason enough to not call them anymore.

Which is exactly what I did.

What have you found out about someone over social media that you didn’t already know about them?

Chocolate Vent Quote of the Week: “GOD IS ONLY LIMITED BY YOUR SILENCE.”

Instead, be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” {Ephesians 5:18 – 20}


FEBRUARY IS HERE! This is the time of year when I talk about Black history & all the contributions Africans Americans have made to America. I really think that the accomplishments of my people should be highlighted all year long, so I do my part by sharing notable African Americans history every week even after Black History Month is over. And since it is February, I will also be writing about dating, relationships and, of course, love!

Here’s what Chocolate Vent will look like this month –

  • Question of the Day: This will be on hold until March.
  • #SundaySermon: I’ll continue to post a weekly sermon & a quote of the week from an African American preacher.
  • #MeteorologyMonday: Highlighting famous African American meteorologists.
  • #TuesdayArt: Discovering African American artists from around the country!
  • Wednesday: #HumpDayLoveDay I will write a post about dating, love, relationships or all 3!
  • #TheologyThursday: Read about different African American preachers/pastoral leaders across the country.
  • #FashionFriday: Meet some African American fashion designers from the past & the present.
  • #SaturdayStamps: Notable African Americans who have their own U.S. postage stamp.

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I hope you are able to learn something about African American culture from my posts this month. Happy reading but more importantly Happy Black History Month!