Tag: Thoughts

Self-Love Tools (pt. 1)

There are many ways to love yourself but sometimes we need help doing so. Below are a few different ways you can practice self-love:

Acupuncture is used as a form of health maintenance and prevention; and to cure pain and disease. If you’re not afraid of needles, acupuncture can be quite relaxing.

Affirmations are phrases you can create to transform negative behaviors or thought patterns into positive ones. Affirmations, to be effective, need to be stated in the positive, present tense, and reinforced regularly. The beauty of affirmations is that you can recite and repeat them anywhere and anytime. You can get creative with affirmations, you can write them down, recite them out loud, sing them, record them-then listen, silently affirm them, even, paint/draw images. Ideally you will use affirmations regularly & often, injecting as much feeling and excitement as you can muster.

Aromatherapy is an ancient healing art that uses essential oils extracted from herbs and flowers to apply to the skin or to be inhaled. It can be used to address a specific emotional disorder, organ dysfunction, physical disorder or pain, discomfort, alleviate psychological disorder, breathing disorder, skin disorder, even bad orders and others.  A lot of massage places offer aromatherapy as part of their “treatment”.

Arts: Painting, sculpting, writing, dancing, performing, and acting are all forms of expression which are liberating and get your juices flowing. It, also, assists in integrating your left/right connection. Artful pursuits stimulate your senses as you lose yourself in beauty, expression and creativity. Immerse yourself in the arts and you will rediscover your childlike wonder; a time of fun and innocence and endless possibilities.

Breath work:  This is the conscious use of breathing techniques to improve physical, mental, and spiritual health. Breath work assists in relaxation, meditation, calming, emotional release, and rebirthing.

Feng Shui has been practiced for over 4,000 years. Feng Shui is about creating harmony between humans and its surroundings. Having auspicious Feng Shui attracts health, wealth, harmony in relationships, career opportunities; improve sleep and creativity, among other things.  Feng Shui truly works.

Fitness encompasses exercise, diet and rest. All three are interconnected for overall fitness and wellness. Create a fitness regimen and stick to it. Incorporating a fitness ritual into your life is essential to mind & body & spirit.

Gratitude – Live with an attitude of gratitude. Continually and consistently look for opportunities to be grateful. Be genuinely grateful for your blessings. Being grateful not only promotes inner joy, but it also invites more fortunate blessings.


Hypnosis: Hypnosis is used to reach into the subconscious mind for solutions to problems in the conscious mind. It is like being in a state of deep mediation or transcendence. Everyone has experienced hypnosis countless times; for example, when absorbed in a great book or movie, upon awakening.  Contrary to what is perceived in movies and television, hypnosis doesn’t put you under a spell or turn you into a robot that loses all control of what is happening to them. When you are under hypnosis it is similar to being in a waking state. You are in control of your behavior and often can recall the whole experience.  It is often used to reprogram or cure bad habits, disorders, addictions, and stress.

Journal:  Journaling is simply the act of sitting or lying down and writing what you are feeling. You can do it consciously and deliberately or you can write ‘fast and furiously’ discovering as you go pent up feelings you had been suppressing. Journaling is a phenomenal way to reach deep inside and excavate your feelings. Journaling is a great way to express how you feel, and work through issues that are troubling you. Best of all, it is a great way to record your life blessings and life occurrences.

Mantras: Mantras is an expression, idea, sacred word or phrase, chant, or sound that is repeated to assist in meditation, transformation of consciousness, calmness, drumming, even during yoga. Mantras assist in experiencing a higher or deeper consciousness or spiritual connection.

Massages:  Massage uses hand strokes and manipulations to stimulate or relax the body. It is a relaxing and soothing way to assist in the elimination of toxins from the body, reduce swelling after injuries, relax yourself, soothe the nervous system, and reduce stress. There are a number of different massages, Swedish being a relaxing and soothing technique, but there are also deep tissue, medical massages, etc. Don’t make the excuse that you can’t afford them. You can go to a massage school, for only a fraction of the price.

So, what will it be? How will you choose to love yourself this week?!

My Pet Peeves

Like practically everyone else, I have a few (give or take) pet peeves. Here are a few  –

  • When people don’t have liquid soap in their guest bathroom – what’s up with bar soap in the guest bathroom?! I don’t want to rub my hands on the same bar of soap that every person has touched since the beginning of time. Liquid is always better.
  • When the outside of the trash can is dirty – I know trash is supposed to be dirty (and smelly, and ugly, etc.) & all, but the outside of the trash receptacle should be kept clean, IMO. This indicates a sense of hygiene – no matter how much “mess” you may have, you can still keep it contained without “looking a mess”.
  • My laptop & my cell phone show 2 different times – this is something that’s not supposed to happen, but it does. Every now and then I will see two different times on my screens. Fortunately, it has never caused me to be late or anything, but don’t even get me started on my alarm clock.
  • When people face their babies towards them in a stroller – why on earth would you think that your kid wants to stare at you instead of seeing the rest of the world like you? They have to look at your face all the time during the rest of the day so why subject them to that when there are so many other things to look at? I understand facing them backwards in a car seat or even in a chair (at the dining room table or in a restaurant) but when your kid is in a stroller and you’re out for a run, turn the stroller around so that your child can take in the sights of their surroundings.
  • Leaves the floor wet after a shower – so there’s been some pretty heated discussion around this. Some people believe that the purpose of the floor is to dry your feet & that your towel is to be used for the rest of your body. But I am a firm believer of drying off completely before even exiting the shower stall or bathtub. Each foot can be dried off right before hitting the floor outside of the shower but to avoid any excess wetness on your bathroom floor, a rug can be used to absorb the water.
  • Different smells when a meal is cooking – who doesn’t love to walk into a room with the smell of good food wafting about? I do! I do! A good smelling dish can really lift just about anyone’s spirits except when there are too many good smelling dishes going on at once.
  • People who chew gum with their mouth open – we all know that chewing with our mouths open is bad, but for some reason there are people who think that chewing gum with their mouths open is okay. People who chew gum with their mouth wide open are liable to start popping their gum and making a bunch of smacking noises. It’s annoying!
  • When people complain about something that they do – why complain about a job that you chose?! I know there are aspects to every job that we don’t like, but if you are working/volunteering, etc. then keep the complaining to a minimum, otherwise, find something else to do.
  • Dirty fingernails – just gross!

What are some of your pet peeves?

Examine Your Relationships This Year

There is a saying, you can’t pick your family but you can pick your friends.
An ideal, healthy friendship relationship, whether it’s with your girlfriend or a male platonic friend, is one that, as the Word calls it, iron sharpens iron.
Proverbs 27:17 reads, Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. Sharpen means to be or make sharp and the word, countenance, means face, favor, or presence.
You want those in your presence, whether they’re close friends or acquaintances, to sharpen you, keep you on your toes, and you do the same for them.  You don’t need people around you who simply agree with you all the time.
You need people who, when trouble comes, they can speak a Word to you in due season, encourage you when you’re down, and help you see how through God’s Word and God’s love you can press on.
Examine your relationships and see which should stay and which should go away, then act accordingly.  As the saying goes, some people are in your life for a reason, for a season, or for a lifetime.
Pray about which category your friends fall, then pray and ask God how to proceed.

*Originally published on Kim on the Web.