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Chocolate Vent’s Question of the Day – What profession do you consider is overpaid?


Dear 2018,

I am so glad you are over. I have been waiting for over 180 days for you to be gone & it finally happened. That’s right, I knew about half way in that you weren’t any good but I stayed the course, hoping that you would get better but you never did. But if anything, as time went on, you got worse.

You have put me through so much: Life, death, sadness, fear, anguish & so much more. I had such high hopes for you. I thought you were going to be good to me. My hopes & expectations were invested in you because of the year before. In 2017, I had a great year! Things fell into place throughout that year, so when it came to a close, I just knew you were going to be even better. But it wasn’t; you were a letdown. You didn’t live up to the expectations of the year that came before you.

What happened to you? Why didn’t you come thru for me? Why did you cause me so much pain & heartache and leave me without any happiness? It’s almost like you set me up to either have a much worse year or possibly the best year of my life in 2019. It’s too early to tell, but I am praying that 2019 is better to me than you were.

I am so glad to be done with you!

Is there anything you miss from2018?!

#ThursdayReads: Chester Himes

Chester Himes, in full Chester Bomar Himes, (born July 29, 1909, Jefferson City, Mo., U.S.—died Nov. 12, 1984, Moraira, Spain), African-American writer whose novels reflect his encounters with racism. As an expatriate in Paris, he published a series of black detective novels.

The domination of his dark-skinned father by his light-skinned mother was a source of deep resentment that shaped Himes’s racial outlook. The family’s frequent relocations, as well as the accidental blinding of his brother, further disrupted his childhood. Himes attended Ohio State University. From 1929 to 1936 he was jailed at the Ohio State Penitentiary for armed robbery, and while there he began to write fiction. A number of his stories appeared in Esquire and other American magazines. After his release from prison, he worked at numerous odd jobs and joined the Works Progress Administration, eventually serving as a writer with the Ohio Writers’ Project.

His first novel, If He Hollers Let Him Go (1945), details the fear, anger, and humiliation of a black employee of a racist defense plant during World War II. Lonely Crusade (1947) concerns racism in the labour movement. Cast the First Stone (1952) portrays prison life, and The Third Generation (1954) examines family life.

In the mid-1950s Himes moved to Paris. There he wrote chiefly murder mysteries set in New York City’s Harlem. These include The Crazy Kill (1959), Cotton Comes to Harlem (1965; film, 1970), and Blind Man with a Pistol (1969; later retitled Hot Day, Hot Night). Among his other works are Run Man, Run (1966), a thriller; Pinktoes (1961), a satirical work of interracial erotica; and Black on Black (1973), a collection of stories. He also published two volumes of autobiography, The Quality of Hurt (1972) and My Life As Absurdity (1976).

Himes, who moved to Spain in 1969, died there in 1984. In 1985, A Case of Rape was first published posthumously.

Countdown To 2019!

As we head towards the end of the year, I want to encourage all of us to pause, review our year-long goals and assess the probability of completing them in the next 40ish days. If the probability is high that you will meet your goals, congratulations on your ability to create reasonable goals, sustain your habits, and stay on target! For the rest of us, it’s time to kick in “Plan B.

Develop Attainable Goals

One of the most difficult time management skills to learn is how to develop goals that are attainable in a specific period of time. The problem is that many of us create goals based on what we hope (or even dream) of accomplishing in a given time frame. This is commonly done by pulling numbers and deliverables out of thin air without the slightest idea of how or when we will do the work to achieve our lofty goals.

We often set audacious goals because making reasonable ones seems so small and uninspiring. But when we create unrealistic goals, we set ourselves up to feel disappointed, discouraged and demoralized. I see people set unattainable goals all the time and they tend to result in 1 of 2 negative outcomes. Some set such big goals (i.e. “finish my book”) that they never start writing because it seems far too enormous to tackle. Then, these same people find themselves at the end of another year with unmet goals, unfinished projects, and the awful feeling that they work all the time but aren’t moving forward. At the other end of the continuum are people who are incredibly productive. But because they set goals that are literally unattainable, they don’t meet them. Then they end the year with feelings of failure and frustration, despite having made significant progress on other projects.

Consider a PLAN B That Connects Your GOALS to TIME

I encourage you to review your goals for the year. I know it’s difficult, but let’s take an open and honest look at our goals without criticism, judgment or guilt. Instead, start by appreciating the optimism that you felt when you wrote your goals and acknowledging all the work that you have completed already.

Here’s what you can do to make the rest of your year a success –

  • Prioritizeyour work
  • Develop consistent daily habits
  • Create support and accountability
  • Learn to say “no” often and without guilt
  • Understand what is holding you back
  • Identify your resistance
  • Start to think about your career as a book with many chapters
  • Interrogate your perfectionism
  • Release yourselves from the need to be perfect
  • Develop a spirit of compassion towards yourself

As you revise your goals for the remainder of the year, try to move beyond just listing your goals by figuring out how you will accomplish the goals and when you will do the work. In other words, apply the same process you would use to create a strategic plan for the next 40 days.

Step #1

Go through the next four weeks in your calendar and block out all of your existing time commitments: meetings, appointments, travel, etc.

Step #2

Take a long, hard look at your remaining goals and try to figure out the steps that are necessary to complete them. This clarity is essential if you are going to begin accurately estimating your time.

Step #3

Go ahead and map the actual work tasks onto your calendar. Then block out time in your calendar to complete each of those tasks.

The value in this exercise is that it will force you to take an abstract idea, break it down into its constituent parts, and connect that work with time. The ugly reality is that if you are unable to find the time in your calendar to complete the tasks that will get you to your goal, then you are unlikely to achieve the goal. If you are not sure how long it actually takes to complete various tasks, take your best guess and then multiply that guess by 2.5 (the average factor by which most people I work with underestimate how long writing tasks take to complete). Still can’t find time for all the work necessary? Then it’s time to get real and prioritize. Maybe you won’t finish everything but you could realistically complete part of your tasks. I know it’s painful, but adjusting your expectations and planning the work now sure beats feeling like a failure at the end of the year. Why? Because you will feel better having scheduled and completed several tasks that move you closer to completing your goals than you will avoiding the whole thing and starting a new year with no progress. For now, just try to gently ask yourself: what can I realistically accomplish in the next 40 days? Then carve out the time in your calendar to accomplish the tasks that will move you towards reaching your goals.

I hope that this week brings you the courage to assess your goals, the creativity to revise them, and the discipline to write every day!