Tag: Single Black female

Men Aren’t the Only Ones Who Wonder if the Grass is Greener

The notion that women are desperate to find good men and settle down right away isn’t necessarily true. Yes, at some point I would like to get married BUT there are many things to take into consideration, including picking the right person.  I’m always excited when I’m dating someone new but after a couple of months of dating, the novelty wears off & I start wondering – Is the grass greener on the other side?

Perhaps I’ll meet someone taller, better looking or who can make me laugh harder. Maybe there’s another man out there who can hold my attention longer, is more romantic or would be a better fit with my family.  Could there be a man that is even more into me, and more chivalrous? What if there’s someone better for me than the person I’m with now? It’s not that I don’t appreciate the person I’m with, I just wonder if there is someone else out there that I would appreciate even more.

One of the benefits of dating is seeing what else is out there. But even when you think you have something good, there could always be something out there that’s better. How do you really know that your grass is as green as it’s going to get?

Sometimes I look at my girlfriends’ husbands and think to myself “She could’ve done better than him”. Of course I would never say that aloud, but I certainly have had that thought. None of my friends have ever admitted whether or not they think about what their life would’ve been like had they married someone else (read: someone better), but I’m sure they’ve had that thought. It may be too late for them to look for greener grass, but I’m sure they’ve wanted to at some point.

After all, isn’t it human nature to wonder what else is out there?


Is A Lawyer the Only Man That I Can Put on Retainer?

Why is law the only profession where you can retain someone’s services? Sometimes I wish that I could keep a man on retainer so that when I’m ready to get married he would be available. Although I am sometimes discouraged by the dating scene, I’m not sure if I’m ready to settle down just yet. I’m at the point in my life where I know that I’m not getting any younger, but I feel like many men – I’m not exactly ready to be tied down either. I do meet eligible bachelors but I often wish that I had either met them when I was younger & more willing to be married, or if they could just stick around a while until I am ready to get married a few years from now.

I’m not proposing that anyone “pay” for the company of a man (although that’s perfectly legal), but it would be nice to be able to call someone up when you need companionship, to kill a spider, hang pictures or anything else for that matter. Similar to an attorney, this man would be pre-screened and come with references. This way I wouldn’t have to go through the hassle of trying to meet new men and when I need him and he couldn’t refuse.There are some men that I could go out with, but they are not the men that I want. Instead of wasting their time (and mine)  going out on dates to avoid another Saturday night alone, I would much rather call up someone that I have on “retainer” – a man that I know I’ll have a good time with.

Hey, if Prepaid Legal worked for some people, I’m just sayin…..