Tag: Relationships


Chocolate Vent’s Quote of the Week: “INHALE BLESSINGS. EXHALE PRAISE.”

Taste and see that the Lord is good;
blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.” {Psalm 34:8}

Dating Advice For Women

Women, do you wanna know what advice men want to give us? Read below to get some insight on how men really feel, directly from the horse’s mouth –

  • “Encourage me!”
  • “I need a partner, not a mom”
  • “Sweats & no makeup is just as cute as being dolled up”
  • “Just because your man has a critical opinion of you doesn’t mean he’s lost interest in you.
    Just fix it”
  • “Don’t be mean”
  • “Exercise good hygiene”
  • “Remember, men have feelings too”
  • “Stop entertaining men you don’t want to commit to”
  • “Say what you mean & mean what you say”
  • “I love natural hair!”
  • “Stop expecting us to give you our best effort when you’re still exploring your options”
  • “Stop trying to compete with me”
  • “Be true to who you are”
  • “Don’t be afraid to be spontaneous”
  • “Learn to trust (again)”
  • “Don’t be inconsolable – if I can’t calm you down, then why call me?”
  • “Don’t always listen to your friend’s advice”
  • “Have at least 3 dishes you can cook really well”
  • “Learn to apologize earnestly”
  • “Stop bringing up old stuff”
  • “A man shouldn’t be “like” you. You need a yin to your yang”
  • “Listen to understand & not to respond”
  • “Don’t think being crazy is ‘cute’”
  • “Don’t put everything over social media – leave something for just the two of us”
  • “Stop thinking that every man wants you – they don’t!”
  • “Everything doesn’t always click on the first date. Give things a chance”
  • “Don’t listen to Steve Harvey”
  • “Reciprocate some of the actions you want to see from him”
  • “Go in without expectations”

How To Attract Love

I came across a meme that expressed several ways to attract the love you’re looking for. Read below & let me know what you think in the comments!

  • Acknowledge red flags as soon as they surface
  • Know what it is that you are looking for
  • Be able to describe what it is you’re looking for
  • Be emotionally available
  • Raise your standards (if they’re not high enough)
  • Be who you want to attract
  • Don’t get stuck on 1 option – there is more than one person out there for you
  • Look for love in everyone
  • Don’t be afraid to take a chance!

Lean and Depend on Jesus

My trust and assured reliance and confident hope shall be fixed in Him. —Hebrews 2:13

Proverbs 17:1 says that a house full of sacrifices with strife is not pleasing to the Lord. In other words, we could make all kinds of sacrifices of time and effort to try to help people, yet God is not pleased unless we stay in peace. Pursuing peace means making an effort. But we cannot maintain peace simply by our own fleshly effort. We need God’s help and we need grace, which is His power assisting us and enabling us to do what needs to be done.

The effort we make must be in Christ. So often we just try to do what is right without asking for God’s help, and that type of fleshly effort never produces good fruit. The Bible calls this a “work of the flesh.” It is man’s effort trying to do God’s job. What I am saying is, be sure you lean on God and ask for His help. When you succeed, give Him the credit, the honor, and the glory because success is impossible without Him. Jesus said, Apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing (John 15:5).

It takes most of us a long time to believe this scripture enough to stop trying to do things without leaning on God. We try and fail, try and fail. It happens over and over until we finally wear ourselves out and realize that God Himself is our strength, our success, and our victory. He doesn’t just give us strength—He is our Strength. He does not just give us the victory—He is our Victory. Yes, we make an effort to keep peace, but we dare not make an effort without depending on God’s power to flow through us—failure is certain if we do.

– – Joyce Meyer

Stay Single Until…

Stay single to learn to love yourself.

In order to be able to love someone, you have to learn to love yourself first. You have to respect yourself and you mustn’t doubt your decisions ever.

You have to build your character and make it indestructible, so no one can tear it down. This is pretty much preparation for the battle (read: relationship).

You have been training your whole life to be able to defend yourself when the time for battle comes. You don’t want someone to crush you right at the start.

There is no reason for obsessing with the fact you’re single. Most girls are pretty fretful when it comes to the issue of being single or not.

A lot of them rather chose to be in any kind of relationship (good or bad) than to be single. They are afraid their ships will sail and they won’t get another chance.

You should make the best of your situation and enjoy your life. Use the time while you are single and party like there’s no tomorrow. Instead of forcing yourself to find someone to be with, dedicate your time to your friends and family.

Love your life and be patient. Don’t jump into relationships just to fill your void, just to be with someone so you won’t be alone. Don’t value your self-worth by whether you are in a relationship or not. Erase your insecurities and simply enjoy your SINGLE life.

Stay single until…

Stay single until you meet the person who makes you smile up to the point your cheeks go numb and your eyes light up. Wait around for the person who gives you butterflies every time you see him.

Stay single until you find a person who is excited to see you. He won’t make lame ass excuses to bail on you just because he doesn’t feel like seeing you or has some better things to do. After all, what can be more important than meeting you?

Stay single until you meet someone who is proud of you. He won’t show you off as a trophy or a prize won. He will show you off to his friends or a complete stranger just because he is proud of your accomplishments as if they were his own.

Stay single until you find a person who is, above all, in love with your character. That person will love your quirks and flaws because they are the ones which make you unique—what makes your character one of a kind. He will respect the fact you have your bad days because you are entitled to have them as we all are. He won’t expect you to ‘wear’ a happy face all the time.

Stay single until you meet someone who wants to spend all of his free time with you. If he hasn’t got the time, he will find it or simply include you in his life. He will share his interests with you and he will, most definitely, pay attention to the things that make you happy.

Stay single until you find someone who truly misses you. That person will call you for no reason, merely to check up on you, not because he is bored but because he wants to.
Stay single until you meet the person who inspires you and makes you want to try even harder in everything that you do. He makes you want more. He gives you the strength and courage to take a step forward.

Stay single until you find a person who actually gives a damn about you.

*Originally published on HerWay.net