As a single woman, one of the foremost thoughts on my mind is men (hey, what can I say?!). Thoughts like “Will I ever meet the right guy?”, “Why is it so hard to find someone?”, “Where are all the good men?” frequently pop up in my head.
I asked a single girlfriend how she manages to not let thoughts like these cloud her head and she told me that she wasn’t worried about finding a man or getting married because she knew it would happen at the right time. She had already prayed on it so she knew that it was only a matter of time, God’s time, before the right man came into her life. She had no worries whatsoever that she would be married (even though she’s older than I am) and wasn’t even concerned about her relationship status.
While I admire her assuredness, I am definitely not like her. I can’t help but to think about dating, relationships & why God chooses to take His time in some people’s lives and moves things right along in others. Why do some women who have done everything “right” have to struggle to find the right mate? When I discussed this with my single friend, her answer was simple – “It’s not about me, it’s about him. And he ain’t ready.”
What she said made quite a bit of sense. A lot of times, women bear this unnecessary burden of thinking that “they are doing something wrong” or “aren’t pretty enough” when it’s nowhere near the truth. Of course, I’m not saying that women are perfect, I’m simply saying that we shouldn’t blame ourselves if we are still single because the problem may not be us at all. Sometimes men just aren’t ready – Even the good ones.
Sure, a man will take you out, compliment you & seemingly do all the right things; but he still may not be ready for anything real. He may even tell you that he’s ready for a commitment or wants to be in a relationship, but that doesn’t make it true. And a woman should never take that personally, it’s just ‘he ain’t ready’. And no matter what we women do, we can never make a man get ready for something that he’s not.
So, ladies, being single is not always your fault. Single men aren’t always “ready men”.
“Yet amid all these things we are more than conquerors and gain a surpassing victory through Him who loved us” (Romans 8:37 AMP).
No matter what challenges you may be facing today—at work, home, in your health or in your relationships, God promises that even in the middle of “all these things”, you can have victory. How? Victory starts in your heart and mind. Victory starts with peace that passes understanding. That means that you can have peace when it doesn’t make sense to have peace. When the rest of the world is full of anxiety and worry, you can live in peace.
Victory “amid all these things” also means that you can have joy deep down in your soul. You can have so much joy that you can’t even explain why you have it! It’s supernatural. It’s joy unspeakable and full of His glory and power. When you begin to dwell on God’s promise of victory, something will change on the inside of you.
You may have felt like you were losing ground five minutes ago, but right now you can take hold of the victory He’s promised. Open your heart to Him and receive the joy and peace He longs to give you. Remember, the joy of the Lord is your strength, and as you embrace His joy, you’ll be empowered to rise above your challenges so you can move forward into the victory He has for you!
Father in heaven, thank You for Your promise of victory! Thank You for Your peace during the storms of life. Fill me with Your joy and strength as I put my trust in You. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.
— Joel & Victoria Osteen
So, I got a phone call the other night from a guy who seemingly thought it was okay to call me well after my “phone curfew”. The only reason I answered the phone so late was because I thought it was an emergency of some sort. Instead of a jolly “Hello”, he got a half-sleep “What do you want?” out of me. Instead of bothering to ask if I was busy or even asleep, he went right into a conversation.
Needless to say, I was not a happy camper. Not only had he woken me up out of my sleep, it was for no apparent reason. No good reason, that is. All of my responses were either half-baked or showed very little interest. Not to mention my irritability factor. So, when I got tired of his conversation, I started to go off on him.
But instead of apologizing for the late call he said only 5 words, “let’s argue in the morning”. Can you believe that?! He was bold enough to wake me up but not brave enough to take the tongue-lashing that came with it. But for him to tell me that we can postpone our argument until later (one that he started, might I add) made me even more irritated.
Who starts an argument & then wants to schedule it for a later date/time? How ironic, is that? I realize that we can be in a good mood and don’t want that mood spoiled by getting into an argument, but I wonder if men realize how difficult they make things for themselves when they do things like this.
Guys, what are you thinking when you pull stunts like this?!
God…is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]. —Ephesians 3:20
When I pray about or simply meditate on all the people who are hurting, I have a strong desire to help them all. I sometimes feel that my desire is bigger than my ability, and it is—but it is not bigger than God’s ability! When the thing we are facing in our lives or ministries looms so big in our eyes that our mind goes “tilt,” we need to think in the spirit.
In the natural, many things are impossible. But in the supernatural, spiritual realm, with God nothing is impossible. God wants us to believe for great things, make big plans, and expect Him to do things so great it leaves us with our mouths hanging open in awe.
James 4:2 tells us we have not because we ask not! We can be bold in our asking. Sometimes in my meetings people will approach the altar for prayer and sheepishly ask if they can request two things. I tell them they can ask God for all they want to, as long as they trust Him to do it His way, in His timing. It is untold what people can do—people who don’t appear to be able to do anything.
God does not usually call people who are capable. If He did, He would not get the glory. He frequently chooses those who, in the natural, feel as if they are in completely over their heads but who are ready to stand up on the inside and take bold steps of faith as they get direction from God. We usually want to wait until we “feel ready” before we step out, but if we feel ready then we tend to lean on ourselves instead of on God.
Know your weaknesses and know God—know His strength and faithfulness. Above all else, don’t be a quitter. (Joyce Meyer)