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Is It Me?

As single people get older, it’s natural to question why their status is still: Single.

I’m a good catch; why haven’t I been “caught” yet?

Is it me? Is it them?

Why can’t I find anybody?

How come I haven’t been found yet?

When am I going to meet someone special?

Why is everyone meeting someone but me?

Why is dating so hard?

What am I doing wrong?

You may have even questioned your looks or even your entire worth causing your self esteem to plummet. Perhaps it’s a “I want to repel everyone around me” vibe? Or perhaps it’s something about your personality that’s turning off the very people you’re trying to attract.

Worse yet, it could be that your standards are too lofty (not to you, of course but to everyone else). Is it something that you could be doing differently? Or is it time to “lower your standards” as it may have been suggested to you before?

Whatever the reason may be that you’re still single know that you are not the only one who feels this way. Lots of us are wondering what’s causing us to remain single and why it’s so hard to meet someone special. Find comfort in knowing that others are out there hoping to meet their future mate too – and you just may that one!

What are your thoughts? Sound off in the comments section below –

Networking Is A Lifestyle

  1. Chase Fear. Don’t Run From It. Don’t be “afraid” to make a courage resume. This should be a document that outlines things that you’ve done that you were once afraid of but you did it anyway. Include how things turned out, what you learned from it and how it has improved you. Very similar to a real resume, it’s just a resume of life.
  2. Be Your Own Ten. Take a moment & think about who is a “10” in your book. Is it someone famous like an artist or an intellect? It may even be someone in your family or circle of friends. Or it could be someone that you don’t know but admire from afar. Either way, you should be on that list. That’s right – you should be on your own list. You shouldn’t have to sell yourself to yourself. Once you define what your standards are, you should be the first person who can meet all those standards, putting you at the top of that list.
  3. Rule Your Lane. We all have different strengths. Some of us learn that earlier in life than others, but nonetheless, it is our job to play up our strengths (and not out weaknesses). Whatever your strengths are, build on them. You may have heard the saying, “If you’re going to be a janitor, be the best janitor you can be.” Basically, don’t just stay in your lane, RULE your lane.
  4. Come to work to work. Take the initiative and have a sold work ethic. Be prepared to do the job you are getting paid for. Leave personal problems at home & don’t bring any drama into the work place. Don’t just show up, show out!

  5. Build Your Team. Know who to cut off & who to keep in your life. Some people should be kept at a distance & others should be drawn in when appropriate. Network with the right people, influential people & even people “below” you. But don’t forget about your peers – network at your own level – because those will be the people who come up with you.
  6. Execute Your Standards. What good is having standards if you don’t stick to them? Once your standards are defined, you can resolve your history and move forward. Other people will see your successful execution & know that you mean business.


And remember, you have everything you need to get everything you need.


Have Faith to Believe in the God you serve.

Believe in His love for you, and that He loves you so much that He will never leave you nor forsake you. (Hebrews 13:5)

Even during those times when you feel most alone, remember that He is right there watching over you, hoping you will simply look to the hills and see Him – realizing that He’s right there, and that He’s been there all along.  (Psalm 121)

Have faith to believe that God is with you, that His anointing is available for you to keep you and to walk in His perfect will.  Yes you can live holy and pure before God.  It’s in you.  His power is in you.  His ability is in you.  It’s God who works in you to give you the desire to do His will in the first place. (Philippians 2:13) With every expectation from God He always makes a way.  He always makes provision so that you can successfully walk it out. (1 John 5:4, 2 Corinthians 2:14)

Have faith to believe in God’s love in you working through you – causing you to love the unlovable and forgive those who wronged you whether intentionally or unintentionally.  The power to forgive is within you, all you have to do is acknowledge and activate it with love.  (Romans 5:5)

Have faith to believe in love again.

Sure you may have been hurt in the past, but don’t allow that hurt to dictate your present or your future.  Allow God to heal your heart and open it to love again in due season.  In the meantime, learn to love yourself and embrace God’s love for you, and the fact that He loves you so much that He sent His very best, His own Son, Jesus, to die for you.
Have faith to believe in yourself.

Believe that what God has for you is for you, including the plan and perfect will He has laid out for your life before the foundation of the world.  (Jeremiah 1:5, Ephesians 1:4)

Believe that still small voice you hear when you pray – believe that it’s God speaking to you as long as it lines up with His Word.  (1 Kings 19:12)

Believe that whatever He asks you to do that you can do it, and that there is always a great reward on the other side of obedience, even if that reward mainly comes from within.  (Hebrews 11:6)

Have faith to believe…again…don’t lose hope…keep believing…keep confessing…keep walking out God’s plan for your life with joy.

And Nehemiah continued, “…This is a sacred day before our Lord. Don’t be dejected and sad, for the joy of the Lord is your strength!” Nehemiah 8:10 (NLT)
*Originally published by Kim on the Web.

EVEN MORE Relationship Advice You’ve Been Too Afraid To Ask For

  1. When a man’s thinking is respected, he feels cherished. When a woman’s feelings are cherished, she feels respected.
  2. Feminine woman women feel their way in & out of life.
  3. A feminine woman will hear out her man’s input & try to use as much of his solution as she can.
  4. Communicate first to investigate compatibility, in order to separate your fantasy from reality.
  5. Feminine energy must feel good to do good. Masculine energy must do good to feel good.
  6. Always pay attention to your feelings. Don’t rationalize away negative feelings, no matter who tells you to. If it doesn’t feel good then don’t do it.
  7. You need chemistry, compatibility and communication in order for a relationship to work.
  8. Ladies, men fall in love with your virtue not your body.
  9. You must never ask a man for more, better or different love so pick a man who gives the way you like to receive.
  10. Respect and cherish each other daily.
  11. Always carry your part, even when the person you’re with doesn’t.
  12. When dating you can either: Accept, Reject, Tolerate or Rebuild.
  13. Don’t try to rebuild a man – when you do you are acting like his mother.
  14. Let a man be a man until you are a team then you can slowly negotiate for changes..
  15. We are basically attracted to someone in three ways: physically, mentally, emotionally. The best anyone can hope for is satisfaction with 2 out of the 3.
  16. It’s easy to love the perfect one that does not exist. Except what you can in your mate, otherwise no one would ever stay in a relationship.
  17. Love is internal, not external.
  18. We are all defective so commit to the relationship and do your best on your side of the equation.
  19. The idea of accepting or rejecting a man versus power tolerating him and his imperfections are a big part of getting married.
  20. Women shouldn’t shack up – most men want to marry virtue, and he’s typically getting more out of that type of arrangement than you are.
  21. Relationship commitment takes over where the commitment to a person ends because a human being cannot be good enough every day to be worthy of a commitment.
  22. Energy is the currency of exchange in relationships, and that energy comes either in active maleness or passive femaleness.
  23. Couples should get “permission” before sharing their feelings with their partner.
  24. We women become upset with men who do not respond sensitively to situations that we feel emotional about.
  25. Little faults deserve little rejection and lots of love.