TGIF is probably one of the most commonly heard expressions used towards the end of the week. There’s always a lot of excitement leading up to the weekend either because of your plans or because there’s no work. Don’t get me wrong, I really used to like Friday’s. It’s casual day in the office, there were always fewer meetings and everyone usually left the office early. People seem to be in a better mood too. Plus everyone knows Friday is date night or time to head out to the club – a time you can usually let your hair down.
Then I realized something. Friday was only 3 days away from Monday, where we start the work week all over again. On Fridays people at work sometimes make last minute requests from you or don’t want to work that hard so you have to pick up the slack. Fridays can be stressful especially if you have something due on Monday morning. And yes, I get to leave the office early but Friday is when traffic is the absolute worst.
And what happens when you don’t have a date on Friday night? Or any plans at all? Then there really isn’t anything to look forward to on a Friday except your couch & television to keep you company. Aren’t most people tired from the work week anyway? Even if you do have plans, a weekend of activities means more money you’ll have to spend. Someone wise once said, “Weekdays are for saving, weekends are for spending.” (Okay, I’m the one who said that but you get the point)
So now my new favorite day of the week is Thursday. Thursday means you’ve gotten over the midweek hump and the promise of an entire weekend is ahead of you. There are still plans to be made and an entire 3 days to look forward to. Not to mention there is always better television programming on Thursday versus on Friday. I just love the anticipation of it all!
So the next time a Thursday rolls around, enjoy it as much as you can. Friday just means more traffic, rushed work and a weekend of spending money ahead of you.
A lot of my friends are single but like me they spend a lot of time not going out. It seems like when you are in your 20’s it is fun to dress up for dates and stay out until the wee hours of the morning. But as you get older all that “going out” stuff gets old. It can be such a hassle to find a cute outfit, fix your hair, put on makeup, wobbling around in 4-inch heels only to end up alone at the bar.
So after a history of bad outings or horrible dates you just decide to stay at home. After a long work week it’s much easier to stay at home and rest up or take care of personal things like laundry, paying bills or hitting the gym. Going out seems like such a pain & more trouble than it’s worth. And when you stop going out, you stop wanting to go out.
For me, it’s gotten to the point that going out is something that I don’t really need to do every weekend. Or even every other weekend for that matter. In lieu of large crowds, expensive drinks & lame pickup lines my living room coach suddenly looks really appealing. And before I know it a whole month can pass by and I haven’t left my couch.
The question then becomes, how will you ever meet someone if you never leave your couch? It takes a lot to go out and sometimes leaving the house just doesn’t pay out. But unless I want to enjoy the rest of my weekends alone on my couch, I need to get out to meet someone. Sometimes it really doesn’t matter where you go. You can meet a man at a bar, the club, the library, a skating rink or even at a pool hall. And not all of these places require dressing up. I’ve even hooked up with men from the gym (and you know I was not looking cute there!).
So ladies (and gentlemen), even when you don’t feel like it – get up, get dressed & get going! Sitting on the coach is okay every now & then, but staying on the couch is not going to get you any closer to meeting your future mate.
A couple of weekends ago, a friend was telling me how she was driving under the influence on New Year’s Eve. Of course, she knows better than to drink & drive but I suppose she thought she hadn’t had too much to drink and was perfectly capable of driving. I asked her why she didn’t give her keys to someone else and her response was “No worries, I was taught how to drive while drunk”. When I heard that, I almost dropped the phone!
At the time her comment seemed ludicrous but the more I thought about it, the more I thought about how parents are teaching their children things with the disclaimer of “Don’t do this but in case you do, here’s how.” In my friend’s instance, I’m sure she was taught not to drink & drive but in the event she found herself in a predicament where she did have a few drinks, then she should drive slowly and carefully.
Another illustration of this is when parents tell their teenage children not to have sex, but still arm them with birth control just in case. How can you teach someone NOT to do something but still give them the tools to get it done? I know, I know – kids are having sex anyway so it’s up to the parents to teach them about using protection. The flaw with this argument is that parents are essentially saying that it’s okay to have sex as long as you protect yourself – and that’s dead wrong.
I think that you should reinforce what you teach to your children and if they rebel, let them realize the consequences of their actions for themselves. It’s called “Tough Love” folks…