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Networking Is A Lifestyle

  1. Chase Fear. Don’t Run From It. Don’t be “afraid” to make a courage resume. This should be a document that outlines things that you’ve done that you were once afraid of but you did it anyway. Include how things turned out, what you learned from it and how it has improved you. Very similar to a real resume, it’s just a resume of life.
  2. Be Your Own Ten. Take a moment & think about who is a “10” in your book. Is it someone famous like an artist or an intellect? It may even be someone in your family or circle of friends. Or it could be someone that you don’t know but admire from afar. Either way, you should be on that list. That’s right – you should be on your own list. You shouldn’t have to sell yourself to yourself. Once you define what your standards are, you should be the first person who can meet all those standards, putting you at the top of that list.
  3. Rule Your Lane. We all have different strengths. Some of us learn that earlier in life than others, but nonetheless, it is our job to play up our strengths (and not out weaknesses). Whatever your strengths are, build on them. You may have heard the saying, “If you’re going to be a janitor, be the best janitor you can be.” Basically, don’t just stay in your lane, RULE your lane.
  4. Come to work to work. Take the initiative and have a sold work ethic. Be prepared to do the job you are getting paid for. Leave personal problems at home & don’t bring any drama into the work place. Don’t just show up, show out!

  5. Build Your Team. Know who to cut off & who to keep in your life. Some people should be kept at a distance & others should be drawn in when appropriate. Network with the right people, influential people & even people “below” you. But don’t forget about your peers – network at your own level – because those will be the people who come up with you.
  6. Execute Your Standards. What good is having standards if you don’t stick to them? Once your standards are defined, you can resolve your history and move forward. Other people will see your successful execution & know that you mean business.


And remember, you have everything you need to get everything you need.

Who Exactly Is Mr. Right?!

The right guy does the right things. Ladies, if you are dating a guy & he’s doing the following things (it’s even better if he goes above & beyond):

  • He supports you – whether it’s your career, life goals or anything else, the right man shows up when you need him to & even offers to help. He may even research whatever project your working on so he can speak on it intelligently. He will also tell all his friends & family to support the woman he cares about and wouldn’t feel intimidated by it. Sure, in a perfect world a woman wouldn’t need a man to have her back but sometimes we do. A good man will actively show his support.
  • He tells you that he’s proud of you – every little girl likes to hear that her father is proud of her. And that doesn’t change when we grow up. The only difference is that as a woman, we also like to hear that from the other important man in our life – our man. A good boyfriend has no problem letting his woman know that she’s doing a great job & that he is proud of her and proud to be her man.
  • He wants to help, not be waited on – in a world of people who have a “Me first” mentality, the right man will step up to help and not sit down only to be served. Sure, there’s a time & place for a man to be served but a good man also wants to serve his woman.
  • He’s good with kids or special needs individuals – anyone who has the “patience of Job” is a good person & worth keeping around. Even if you don’t have kids or don’t want kids, it’s still good to know that the man you are with can handle all types of individuals.
  • He makes plans – men who don’t make plans really aggravate me! If you ask for my phone, number, ask for my time & ask me out, then you should be man enough to plan an actual date. It’s really not that difficult – the internet is full of date ideas and if you still can’t figure it out, then just ask! I can’t stand it when a guy asks me every single time what I wanna do before taking me out. A man who makes plans (especially good ones) is a good man.
  • He actually likes doing stuff with you (and for you!) – hanging out & spending time together is how good relationships are built. It’s one thing to spend time with someone out of routine, it’s another to do so because you actually want to.

He tries to connect with your friends – it’s a good feeling when your friends & your man all get along. When a man genuinely tries to “impress” your friends in an effort to make you happy, then he is a good man. Plus, the more he gets to know your friends, the more he’ll get to know you.

MEN, Take Yourself Off The Dating Market If –


Some of you don’t deserve to be dating! You may not want to hear this, but some of you are not in a position to court a lady, let alone enter into a relationship and/or marriage. As the saying goes, some of you “need to have several seats”.

Sure, we all have our baggage but some of us only have a carry-on & some of us have a UHaul’s worth. When you have a lot of things going on, sometimes it’s best to ‘right your wrongs’ before getting someone else involved in your mess.

Here are some scenarios where I think men need to take a break from dating:

You have no money. Why on earth are you dating if you don’t have any dough?! Dating requires not only energy & time, but also money. Without it, the relationship probably won’t last very long & at the very least the woman you are seeing won’t be happy. If money is tight (which can happen), then focus on getting your money right. Money may not be everything, but it sure means something.

You have young children. While the brunt of raising children typically falls on the mom, men still have a huge responsibility when it comes to raising their children. Many men assume that when their child is little they don’t have to do as much (after all, they can’t breastfeed & they usually aren’t as good as braiding little girls’ hair or packing school lunches).  But when your kid is little, that’s when they need you the most. Even if the mother is doing the majority of the day-to-day parenting tasks, you should be there to pick your kid up from school, help them with their homework or be at their sporting events (if they live locally). Basically, your free time should be with your babies, not your bae.

You’re too busy. Whether it’s work, school or family no one wants to feel like they aren’t a priority. After all, why invite someone into your life if you don’t have time to give them the attention they deserve? Most men aren’t good at multi-tasking, so there’s nothing wrong with taking care of business before trying to take care of someone else.

You are still hurt from a past relationship. If you are still in pain over another woman, you’re not ready to take on a new one. Why bring old feelings into a new relationship? Figure out what went wrong and take the time to properly heal before potentially hurting someone else’s feelings by bringing them down with you. It sucks to hurt, but it sucks even more to hurt someone else.

You are taken. This should be rather obvious, but some people still need to hear it. If you are married, separated, legally separated or in a relationship of sorts you should not be dating because you still belong to someone else. Cheating is NEVER okay (that’s why it’s called ‘cheating’, “ahem, ahem”), so if you are already with someone don’t go pursuing someone new.

What other good reasons are there for a man to stop dating?