Tag: Old

Forget Your Nails, Let Me Look At Your Knuckles

Nobody wants to get old. Well, maybe a few people do but for the most part aging is not the most desirable thing in the world. There are a lot of downsides to getting older so it’s no wonder that women do things to try to make themselves look younger.

For instance, a lot of women dye their hair thinking that if they go back to their original hair color they will automatically look 10-20 years younger. Ha! This couldn’t be farther from the truth. Dying your hair jet black, platinum or ruby red makes you look older, not younger. It so obvious with a bad dye job that you’re trying to turn back the hands of time, which is an okay thing to do; it just shouldn’t start with your hair follicles.

If you’re clothes are too tight or too short you’re showing your old age. Women who dress too “youthful” seem like they’re trying too hard to prove that their body still looks nice. As you age you should dress with more modesty, not with less fabric. Please don’t try to expose your wrinkles & liver spots to us all at once!

Stop using “youthful lingo”. I don’t expect you to use words like ‘’busted” or “my bad”, but you should speak like it’s ‘14, not ‘74. Remember every generation has its own vernacular, so you run the risk of messing up certain words & phrases if you try to keep up with the latest lingo from this generation.

Stay away from the club – it’s for young people. Nobody wants to be the “old guy” in the club, nor does anyone want to see the “old guy” in the club. I mean shouldn’t they be at home with their family? It’s just depressing to see someone older hanging out with a younger crowd, instead of a crowd closer to their own age. Imagine going to Chuck E. Cheese’s at 20 – it just doesn’t look right (especially if you’re not with any children). There’s just some point when you realize that certain places are meant for younger people.

Dating younger is meant for those that are older. I’m sure there are a lot of “cougars” out there & there are plenty of young men who like older women but it still looks rather ridiculous to me. Every time I see a coupe like Demi Moore & Ashton Kutcher I always think that a woman like that is trying to recapture her youth. I mean, what could you possibly have in common with a man that much younger than you are?! Although being with a younger person may make you feel youthful, you look so much older standing next to them. Doesn’t a prune look even more wrinkled sitting next to a grape? Lol!

At the end of the day, people can do whatever they want no matter how ridiculous it makes them look.

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Is Youth Really Wasted On The Young? – 37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old

This article is from Buzzfeed & makes a lot of sense. I agree  with #2, #5, #7 #10, #11, #14, #26, #27 & #33.  Which things do you agree with?

1. Not traveling when you had the chance.

Not traveling when you had the chance.

Traveling becomes infinitely harder the older you get, especially if you have a family and need to pay the way for three-plus people instead of just yourself.

2. Not learning another language.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Apatow Productions / Dreamworks

You’ll kick yourself when you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember none of it.

3. Staying in a bad relationship.

Staying in a bad relationship.

No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.

4. Forgoing sunscreen.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
SNL

Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself.

5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.

Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.

“Nah, dude, I’ll catch Nirvana next time they come through town.” Facepalm.

6. Being scared to do things.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Paramount Pictures

Looking back you’ll think, What was I so afraid of?

7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Columbia Pictures

Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you’ll dream of what you could have done.

8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.

Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.

Few things are as sad as an old person saying, “Well, it just wasn’t done back then.”

9. Not quitting a terrible job.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
20th Century Fox

Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don’t make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 years in hell.

10. Not trying harder in school.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Jive Records

It’s not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Eventually you’ll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you’d paid more attention.

11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.

Not realizing how beautiful you were.

Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that’s when we’re our most beautiful.

12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Fox

When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.

13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.

Not listening to your parents' advice.

You don’t want to hear it when you’re young, but the infuriating truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true.

14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Fox

You’ll be embarrassed about it, frankly.

15. Caring too much about what other people think.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
SNL / Paramount

In 20 years you won’t give a damn about any of those people you once worried so much about.

16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.

Supporting others' dreams over your own.

Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine.

17. Not moving on fast enough.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
NBC

Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.

18. Holding grudges, especially with those you love.

Holding grudges, especially with those you love.

What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over?

19. Not standing up for yourself.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
New Line Cinema.

Old people don’t take shit from anyone. Neither should you.

20. Not volunteering enough.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old

OK, so you probably won’t regret not volunteering Hunger Games style, but nearing the end of one’s life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness for many.

21. Neglecting your teeth.

Neglecting your teeth.

New Line Cinema

Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.

22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.

Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.

Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you’ll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.

23. Working too much.

Working too much.

No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.

24. Not learning how to cook one awesome meal.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Parkwood / Columbia

Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.

25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.

Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.

Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing.

26. Failing to finish what you start.

Failing to finish what you start.

“I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then…”

27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.

Never mastering one awesome party trick.

You will go to hundreds, if not thousands, of parties in your life. Wouldn’t it be cool to be the life of them all?

28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

Don’t let them tell you, “We don’t do that.”

29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Comedy Central

People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.

30. Not playing with your kids enough.

Not playing with your kids enough.

When you’re old, you’ll realize your kid went from wanting to play with you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.

31. Never taking a big risk (especially in love).

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old

Knowing that you took a leap of faith at least once — even if you fell flat on your face — will be a great comfort when you’re old.

32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Tri-Star Pictures

Networking may seem like a bunch of crap when you’re young, but later on it becomes clear that it’s how so many jobs are won.

33. Worrying too much.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
ABC

As Tom Petty sang, “Most things I worry about never happen anyway.”

34. Getting caught up in needless drama.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
Oxygen Network

Who needs it?

35. Not spending enough time with loved ones.

Not spending enough time with loved ones.

Our time with our loved ones is finite. Make it count.

36. Never performing in front of others.

Never performing in front of others.

This isn’t a regret for everyone, but many elderly people wish they knew — just once — what it was like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.

37. Not being grateful sooner.

37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old
NBC

It can be hard to see in the beginning, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.

Don’t Try This At Home: Getting Pregnant Later In Life

By now everyone has heard the news that recently-married Halle Berry is pregnant at the age of 46 (her first pregnancy was at 42). While I certainly wouldn’t follow in her footsteps, I do question why anyone would want to have a baby at that age. Even with modern technology we all know the challenges that women face having children later in life, such as birth defects and higher rates of miscarriage. Not to mention, the disturbance in one’s career and the sheer physical toll. But even with all of those things aside, why would you want to spend your “middle years” changing diapers & chasing after a toddler?

Other things to consider having children later in life are: fetal distress, cesarean birth, high blood pressure, diabetes, ectopic pregnancy and premature delivery. And that’s just for the mother! The baby is at risk for low birth weight, genetic disorders like Down syndrome, asphyxia, brain bleeds and stillbirth. How terrible is that?! Those are problems that occur during the pregnancy & in the delivery room. Consider what age you’ll be when your child becomes a teenager. How will your parenting abilities be as you age? Can you keep up with your children or their friend’s parents? Will you have the energy? Will you have the patience? Will you be able to keep up with the rigor of raising multiple children as you age?

According to nationalgeographic.com the average life expectancy is 81 for women and 76 for men, so why spend the second half of your life raising young children? I would think that bearing children would be best to do while you’re younger. Instead of preparing for retirement, you now have to focus on raising an adolescent. While you may be more financial stable, the more out of touch you are with the younger generation that you are now raising. Not to mention all of your friends are just about done raising their children so you won’t have the support system that you probably hoped for.

Let’s look at some other famous people who had children later in life:

  • Uma Thurman – 42 years old
  • Celine Dion – 42 years old (with twins)
  • Tina Fey – 40 years old
  • Mariah Carey – 41 years old (and she’s reportedly pregnant again)
  • Nicole Kidman – 40 years old
  • Kelly Preston – 48 years old
  • Salma Hayek – 41 years old (her husband is a billionaire)
  • Molly Ringwald – 41 years old (with twins)
  • Mira Sorvino – one baby at 41 years old, and another at 44 years old
  • Charlie Chaplin – was reportedly 73 years old
  • Steve Martin – had his first child at 67 years old (and his wife was 41)
  • Hugh Grant – fathered a child at 51 years old
  • Warren Beatty – fathered a child at 55 years old
  • Tony Randall  – over 70 years old and died shortly thereafter at 84 years old
  • Luciano Pavarotti – fathered a child at 67 years old and died shortly thereafter at 71

It is a little different when you are rich – you can pay for younger help. You can also afford the best doctors to make sure that your health & the baby’s health is in excellent condition. Plus, Halle Berry looks like she’ll be young forever! But for the average woman these resources aren’t as readily available.

I am so glad that my parents aren’t “older”. This means that they’ll be around a lot longer J

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Am I Wasting My Youth By Not Having Enough Sex?

Debbie Reynolds recently gave an interview where she said “I wish I had enjoyed more sex.” Of all the things she could’ve said that was quite a statement to make at 81 years old! But her comment made me wonder whether or not I’m having enough sex.

Admittedly, I haven’t had a lot of sexual partners but I’m already over 30 and not even close to getting married. Should I have more sex before I get too old? Perhaps I should just add more sexual partners to my roster before I get married? Now, I am not saying that I’m going to go wilin’ out but maybe it wouldn’t kill me to have a little more experience. I won’t have my looks forever (or my figure, for that matter) so why waste my youth by not having more sex now?

Everyone already thinks that the older you get the less sex you have, whether married or unmarried. And the older you get there are fewer & fewer available men to have sex with so if I don’t have my fun now, there’s a chance I may miss out altogether. I would hate for one of my regrets in life to be “I didn’t have enough sex when I was younger & nobody wants me now that I’m older.” (Lol)

The problem is that it’s not that easy to have more sex when you get older. Even in my thirties it takes a lot more energy & effort to hook up with someone who doesn’t have any drama, diseases or other issues.  Not to mention it takes a lot more physically to stay in shape than when I was in my twenties. Since I’m not sexually active now, I feel like I am doing the right thing by not “sleeping around”. I can only hope that the quality of sex that I’ll have when I get older will make up for the sex that I’m missing out on as a young woman.

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What’s The Point of Living A Long Life?

I think that living too long is pointless. Old & young people alike often say that they want to live to be 100 years old. But why?! What can you possibly do at 89 or 93 that you didn’t get done when you were 75 years old?

Don’t get me wrong – it’s nice to be able to boast about how long you’ve lived and all of the things you’ve seen in your lifetime, but there aren’t too many other advantages of old age. I just think that everything that you wanted to accomplish should have been checked off your list when you were younger.

We all know that once you pass a certain age, quality of life diminishes. So what good could it possibly do to live a life of diminished quality? There are so many things that go “south” as you get older. Everything from deteriorating health to losing your longtime friends (who are also very old). Even your own family members probably aren’t visiting you that much. Your grandchildren & great-grandchildren have a life of their own and may only see or call you on your birthday or around the holidays, at best. As you get older, you just can’t do as much as when you were younger. And that’s just the normal cycle of life.

Personally, I’m afraid to get old. I know that aging is inevitable, but I’m not looking forward to all of the physical ailments that come with the aging process. I don’t want to live too long for fear that I’ll lose relevancy in this world.

I’m more concerned about having a full life, not a long one…

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