There’s nothing more disheartening than thinking you’ve met “the one” … your Mr. Right or Mrs. Right and they end up being all wrong. So were they always all wrong or did you ruin them … perhaps you were looking at them through rose colored glasses. This is something I kept wondering about until I read this great article called Looking for Mr. Right when all you see in Mr. Wrong. Talk about an aha moment!! It’s like they wrote it for me and my current challenges. We’re all looking for that special someone, perhaps some of you have found them … perhaps you THOUGHT you found them and you really didn’t. So, then, how do you know?
Calling Mr. Right or Mrs. Right!! Hellooo anyone home?
What makes them so right or so wrong? Well … here’s some things that stood out for me from the article …
- RIGHT: comes complete, no assembly required and just fits, don’t need to mold or maneuver to fit them into the box
WRONG: they are a “work in progress” and you’re always trying to mold them into the person you want
- RIGHT: they are on the same page as you
WRONG: “can’t even read the book”
- RIGHT: knows who they are and what they want in the relationship
WRONG: does not know what they want and self sabotages
- RIGHT: consistent
WRONG: inconsistent, changing feelings “as often as their underpants”
- RIGHT: puts their romantic partner first making them important part of their life
WRONG: puts themselves first and is always busy, too busy for you
- RIGHT: works on the relationship, attempts to make things work
WRONG: comes with lots of baggage, creates excuses because of past relationships
- RIGHT: won’t let exes interfere with current relationship
WRONG: still hung up on ex and will let them interfere
- RIGHT: **single**
WRONG: NOT single … even if they’re “going to break up”, they’re still not single
- RIGHT: treats partner with respect, spends quality time with them, makes plans to do activities together
WRONG: just wants to “hang out”, usually last minute, typically not in public, wants sex or booty call
- RIGHT: looking for a relationship
WRONG: looking for no strings sex
- RIGHT: shows they care with words AND actions
WRONG: sends mixed signals … all talk and no action
- RIGHT: dependable
Sound familiar … I have to say YES!! This is definitely the cause of my recent heartache … MR. WRONG!!! Although I knew all this stuff, it makes it more real when you see it spelled out like that huh? Now perhaps not all of the above applies but if most of it does then you have to ask yourself if you’re wasting your time. I sure was!
Best advice from the article?
Always attracting Mr. or Mrs. Wrong? I know how you feel …
“Bad boys aint no good … Good boys aint no fun … Lord knows that I should … Run off with the right one … Me and Mr Wrong get along so good … Even though he breaks my heart so bad … We got a special thing going on.” (Mary J. Blige Mr. Wrong)
Do you always end up with Mr. or Mrs. Wrong? Have you found your Mr. or Mrs. Right? Are you Mr. or Mrs. Wrong? Would love to hear from you in the comments!!
*This article was originally published on Single Dating Diva.