Tag: Mother’s Day

To All The Beautiful Black Mothers!

On this Mother’s Day, we give honor to all our female ancestors who survived the middle passage…endured the unspeakable horror of enslavement and who had the courage to live, laugh and love in a post-slavery America so we can be here today….

On this Mother’s Day, we release your pain from our genetic DNA so we can fully embrace all that your vibrant spirits have divinely brought to our existence on this day. YOU WERE….so I CAN BE.

We thank you for all that you were –
Resilient…courageous…kind….loving…..intelligent…..dedicated…..resourceful…dynamic…..outspoken….pioneering…..talented…..sisterly…….motherly……spiritual…..everything always to everyone…especially to me.

We Honor You Mother
We Thank you Mother
We Love you Mother
And GOD We Thank You…Honor You….and Praise You for Our Mothers.

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How To Work A Food Buffet

This past weekend, my father treated my family to an all-you-can-eat Mother’s Day buffet at a nice hotel. I am not a fan of buffets – some people use their hands (gross!), food can fall into the food container next to it and there are always too many kids running around. However, if you show up early enough or if the buffet is “expensive” enough you can usually avoid all of that. Needless to say, we went to a more upscale buffet (if there is such a thing) on Mother’s Day and I had a good time.

Since I have not been to a buffet in a while, I was completely lost as to where to begin, what I should eat, or how much food I should put on my plate at one time. After I got home and took a nap I thought I would write down how to work a buffet in the event I ever go back. And in true Chocolate Vent fashion, I thought I would share these rules with you!

  1. First, you gotta circle around the entire buffet at least once. You have to know what is available, what is fresh, and more importantly, what is still hot. This also allows you to be nosey and look at what other people are eating to see if you want what they have. Plus, you need to get a good mental picture of how many times you think you’ll be able to go back.
  2. Once you know what is there, you can start on your first course. I recommend going for the starter dishes, like soup, because they are not filling and it gets your stomach ready for what’s to come.
  3. Then I recommend sampling everything that you’ve ever wanted to try before but haven’t been able to. On Sunday, I tried something new myself. It was called a “pea shot”, which was basically about 5 tablespoons of pureed peas with a dollop of whipped cream and caviar on top. As you could imagine it didn’t taste all that great. It was my first & last time ever taking a “pea shot” (still can’t believe I chugged baby food). Only at a buffet would I have been able to experience such a thing!
  4. After sampling you should go for the delicacies, the seafood or anything that you wouldn’t normally (or can’t afford to) eat. Since everything is all-inclusive, you might as well take advantage of the ‘finer foods’ that the buffet has to offer. And even though some people think that ordering a drink will take up unnecessary space in their stomach, I say, be sure to order a beverage. It will definitely help wash all the food down that you’re about to eat.
  5. The next course is when you can get down to business! It’s now time for the meats, the potatoes and everything else that you would normally eat. You’re done with experimenting for the day, so go ahead & eat what you like.
  6. After you’re finished with everything that you like, you should go for a salad or even some fresh fruit. This will help cleanse your palate and settle the food in your stomach (I’m no doctor, but it sounds right to me).
  7. Finally, it’s time to indulge in a dessert or two (or three, or four). At this point, you’re probably stuffed so know that it’s okay to stop & take a break.
  8. The final & most important rule of all: Repeat steps 1-7  🙂

Happy Buffet-ing!

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Would I Be A Good Mother?: Maybe You Don’t Know What Kind of Parent You’d Be Until You Are One

On the heels of Mother Day, I started wondering whether or not I would make a good mother. I mean, I’m not sold on having children in the first place but in the event that the Lord sees otherwise I don’t even know how the whole motherhood thing would work for me.

I have so many hangups on what motherhood is supposed to be like that I don’t even know if the actual role would match up with the job description I have in my head. From what I can tell raising a child properly takes a lot of ingredients that I don’t have:

  • Patience – This is probably the largest trait that I’m missing. I have patience for children (after all, they’re just kids and they don’t know any better) but I don’t have patience for adults with kids. How am I supposed to deal with all of the parents of my children’s friends? What if I don’t get along with the other parents in the PTA or on the playground? I can’t deal with people who aren’t good mothers.
  • Housekeeping skills – I’m just going to come out & say it: I don’t like to clean. I do it out of necessity but don’t really enjoy it. I feel like there are so many other things I’d rather do with my life than to clean up after a kid and their friends (after a large birthday party or sleepover)
  • Time management – I usually have a pretty crowded schedule. Where on earth would i find time to include a child’s activities? I know, I know, I would HAVE to adjust my schedule and sacrifice some of my activities because we all know that children should come first. It seems so much easier said than done though. Seriously, after a long day at work, going to the gym, running errands and cooking dinner I just don’t see how I would have time to be a good mom to my kids by doing things such as checking their homework, reading to them, after-school activities and the like. Because we all know husbands aren’t good for much around the house (lol)!

Would having these things make me a good mother? No of course not, but I do think that you need more than just “love” to be a good parent. So how is someone supposed to know if they would be a good parent? There’s no checklist or survey to fill out. There’s no application required or background check that will determine whether or not you’ll be a good parent. Do people think that just because they consider themselves a good aunt or a good uncle that they would make a good parent even though having nieces & nephews is nothing like having your own children?  How is a man supposed to know if the woman he wants to marry will make a good mother? How does any woman know that she’ll be a good mother to all of her children and not just her favorite? The conundrum is that you don’t know what it takes to be a mother until you are one. But the problem I have with parenting is that once I decide to become a mother, I can’t take it back.

So all in all, I guess I’ll never really know what kind of mother I’ll be until I become one (Jesus, help me!).