Tag: Married

You Have To Get Off Your Couch In Order To Meet Your Spouse

A lot of my friends are single but like me they spend a lot of time not going out. It seems like when you are in your 20’s it is fun to dress up for dates and stay out until the wee hours of the morning. But as you get older all that “going out” stuff gets old. It can be such a hassle to find a cute outfit, fix your hair, put on makeup, wobbling around in 4-inch heels only to end up alone at the bar.

So after a history of bad outings or horrible dates you just decide to stay at home. After a long work week it’s much easier to stay at home and rest up or take care of personal things like laundry, paying bills or hitting the gym. Going out seems like such a pain & more trouble than it’s worth. And when you stop going out, you stop wanting to go out.

For me, it’s gotten to the point that going out is something that I don’t really need to do every weekend. Or even every other weekend for that matter. In lieu of large crowds, expensive drinks & lame pickup lines my living room coach suddenly looks really appealing. And before I know it a whole month can pass by and I haven’t left my couch.

The question then becomes, how will you ever meet someone if you never leave your couch? It takes a lot to go out and sometimes leaving the house just doesn’t pay out. But unless I want to enjoy the rest of my weekends alone on my couch, I need to get out to meet someone.  Sometimes it really doesn’t matter where you go. You can meet a man at a bar, the club, the library, a skating rink or even at a pool hall. And not all of these places require dressing up. I’ve even hooked up with men from the gym (and you know I was not looking cute there!).

So ladies (and gentlemen), even when you don’t feel like it – get up, get dressed & get going!  Sitting on the coach is okay every now & then, but staying on the couch is not going to get you any closer to meeting your future mate.


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Could I Be The Other Woman?!

So today, I’m going into single-woman relapse. My big plans this weekend included washing my hair and reorganizing my underwear drawer. Such a shame, isn’t it? It’s lonely times like this that make me wonder what it would be like to have some companionship, even if it means becoming “the other woman”.

I have had more married men hit on me than should be allowed and while I always turn them away, the thought of entertaining their advances has crossed my mind lately. I am not the type to “steal another woman’s man” but sometimes loneliness can make you think of things that you haven’t thought of before. I know better than to be someone’s mistress, but sometimes I think that some affection is better than no affection. I just get tired of being alone and don’t know when or where my next boyfriend will be.

Let me state for the record that I do not approve of or condone extra-marital affairs. I do not have respect for any man or woman who choose to step outside of their marriage or the lovers that enable them. There are no excuses whatsoever for having an affair; obviously there is a reason why God has made this a commandment.

All I’m saying is that I think I’m starting to see the appeal in being “the other woman”. Here are some infamous mistresses: