Tag: Halle Berry

Child Support Isn’t For Women Only (Anymore)

I’m sure you may have heard by now that Academy Award® winner Halle Berry has just been ordered to pay Gabriel Aubry, the father of her child (her baby daddy), an estimated $16,000 each month for child support. That’s approximately $190,000 a year for their 6-year old daughter which is a whole lot of money for such a little girl.

Although I don’t think any 6-year old child needs $16,000 a month to survive, I do think it’s completely fair that Aubry gets a percentage of Berry’s income. Halle Berry’s estimated worth is $70 million so over the next 13 years he’s only getting about 3-4% or her current worth (get it – $190,000 for the next 13 years because she’s already 6 divided by $70 million – it’s a lot of math, I know). For Halle this amount is a drop in the bucket and shouldn’t even put a dent in her bank account. Many men may be thinking that Gabriel Aubry is a lucky man but it’s not about luck, it’s about what’s fair.

I actually think this is great! I have quite an opinion on child support which I’ll write about in another post, but I think now is a good time to explore the circumstances surrounding Halle Berry & Gabriel Aubry especially since Father’s Day is right around the corner.

The women’s movement has fought for decades for gender equality & here it is! We can’t expect a man to be forced to pay child support but not women. “What’s good for the goose is good for the gander, right?” We can’t expect women to reject their child’s father if he’s trying to take an active role in that child’s life, can we? In Halle’s case, she knew that he was a model when she met him. Most modeling careers, and by most I mean 99.99% of them, have an expiration date. So if you choose to date one then be prepared that their career will end as quickly as it started. (And don’t get me started on their career prospects after they’re done modeling)

Now there are some people who think that a grown man shouldn’t feel comfortable taking money from woman, even if she does make significantly more than he does. Men are supposed to get up & go work for what they have & not take it from a woman, right? What type of dignified grown man allows a woman to take care of him financially especially if he can take care of himself? Well, it’s not about what the man can do for himself it’s about the quality & care of the child. Remember, child support is based on the concept that the child should receive the same proportion of parental income (or lifestyle) that he or she would have received if the parents lived together. “She who makes the most, pays the most.”

I am a huge advocate of marriage before procreation but if you’re going to go the “Halle Berry route”, then have a plan. Discuss what the custodial arrangement will be in the event you break up. Agree on financial duties and holiday visitation beforehand. Halle knew she wanted a baby & was purposely trying to get pregnant. Why weren’t these particulars worked out before conceiving? Her lawyers should’ve warned her, to say the very least.

I think the lesson here is – Don’t make babies with just anyone, especially if you make more than they do.

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Don’t Try This At Home: Getting Pregnant Later In Life

By now everyone has heard the news that recently-married Halle Berry is pregnant at the age of 46 (her first pregnancy was at 42). While I certainly wouldn’t follow in her footsteps, I do question why anyone would want to have a baby at that age. Even with modern technology we all know the challenges that women face having children later in life, such as birth defects and higher rates of miscarriage. Not to mention, the disturbance in one’s career and the sheer physical toll. But even with all of those things aside, why would you want to spend your “middle years” changing diapers & chasing after a toddler?

Other things to consider having children later in life are: fetal distress, cesarean birth, high blood pressure, diabetes, ectopic pregnancy and premature delivery. And that’s just for the mother! The baby is at risk for low birth weight, genetic disorders like Down syndrome, asphyxia, brain bleeds and stillbirth. How terrible is that?! Those are problems that occur during the pregnancy & in the delivery room. Consider what age you’ll be when your child becomes a teenager. How will your parenting abilities be as you age? Can you keep up with your children or their friend’s parents? Will you have the energy? Will you have the patience? Will you be able to keep up with the rigor of raising multiple children as you age?

According to nationalgeographic.com the average life expectancy is 81 for women and 76 for men, so why spend the second half of your life raising young children? I would think that bearing children would be best to do while you’re younger. Instead of preparing for retirement, you now have to focus on raising an adolescent. While you may be more financial stable, the more out of touch you are with the younger generation that you are now raising. Not to mention all of your friends are just about done raising their children so you won’t have the support system that you probably hoped for.

Let’s look at some other famous people who had children later in life:

  • Uma Thurman – 42 years old
  • Celine Dion – 42 years old (with twins)
  • Tina Fey – 40 years old
  • Mariah Carey – 41 years old (and she’s reportedly pregnant again)
  • Nicole Kidman – 40 years old
  • Kelly Preston – 48 years old
  • Salma Hayek – 41 years old (her husband is a billionaire)
  • Molly Ringwald – 41 years old (with twins)
  • Mira Sorvino – one baby at 41 years old, and another at 44 years old
  • Charlie Chaplin – was reportedly 73 years old
  • Steve Martin – had his first child at 67 years old (and his wife was 41)
  • Hugh Grant – fathered a child at 51 years old
  • Warren Beatty – fathered a child at 55 years old
  • Tony Randall  – over 70 years old and died shortly thereafter at 84 years old
  • Luciano Pavarotti – fathered a child at 67 years old and died shortly thereafter at 71

It is a little different when you are rich – you can pay for younger help. You can also afford the best doctors to make sure that your health & the baby’s health is in excellent condition. Plus, Halle Berry looks like she’ll be young forever! But for the average woman these resources aren’t as readily available.

I am so glad that my parents aren’t “older”. This means that they’ll be around a lot longer J

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