Tag: Fitness

Annoying Things People Do At The Gym

Many times I’ve written about my likes & dislikes at the gym. A lot of the things I see at the gym are either very distracting or just plain ridiculous. Now, I’d like to share with you some of the annoying things I see from people at the gym:
Not workout – Why bother coming if you know you don’t really plan to get in a good sweat? Watching yourself in the mirror does not count as exercise.

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Asking me if you can go in between my reps – Leave me alone! You can use it when I’m done. Forgive me for not allowing you to use the machine that I’m working on. Just come back when the machine is empty because I’m not moving. I’ve already wiped down someone else’s sweat & I’m not about to wipe yours.

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Not putting their weights away – I don’t lift 200lbs on the leg press so why should I have to put it away just so I could use it? People need to just put their weights back before they walk away. What’s even worse is when people leave their plates leaning up against the places where people walk and either trip or crush their toes. Someone could be seriously injured causing them to miss out for several weeks on their exercise just because you were lazy & negligent.

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Spitting in the water fountain – That’s just gross!

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• Too much hairspray or perfume – I shouldn’t have to stay away from an entire area just because you overdosed on beauty products. The only overwhelming stench I should smell is sweat & B.O.

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Not wiping their sweat off of the equipment when they’re done using it – Oh my goodness this drives me insane! I wipe down equipment before and after I use, so why shouldn’t everyone else?! Your sweat is no better than anyone else’s, buddy!

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People who try to chat me up – Don’t you see I have headphones on? I am usually very focused on my workout so I don’t have time to discuss last night’s TV episode or my weekend plans. And don’t think just because I’m taking a break you can have an extended conversation with me either. If I didn’t start talking to you first, keep it moving.

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Play on the phone – Your music playlist should already be programmed into your phone. Other than hitting play & occasionally pressing pause, why are you pressing any other buttons on your phone when you should be pressing the buttons on the treadmill instead?!

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Women who are stronger and/or better looking than me – How dare they come to the gym when they are already looking fit & trim? Those people shouldn’t be allowed in. The nerve of some people, I tell ya!

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I Hate Hand Dryers!

My gym recently switched from paper towels to hand dryers in the restrooms. While I understand this may save them money, it certainly has cost me convenience. Sure, you get to dry your hands a lot faster and it does feel good to have hot hair blowing on your hands (especially if you just washed with cold water). Not to mention that if you’re not feeling particularly social, you get to turn your back on everyone else in the restroom while you dry your hands. Regardless of all this, there are still a lot of disadvantages to using a hand dryer instead of using good old fashioned paper towels.

 Here are some of my gripes about hand dryers:

•    Water sprays everywhere – A big wind machine blowing water everywhere can get very messy. And depending on how you hold your wet hands under the dryer, there’s no telling where that water will blow. It could hit the wall, the floor, your clothes or worse yet someone else. Who wants someone else’s dirty water sprayed on them?

•    Only one person can use them at a time – At least with paper towels, you can grab a few, step aside & let someone else grab some to dry their hands. In other words within the time span of 1 minute at least 10 people can dry their hands. With those dryers it’s got to be one person at a time which means not only will you have to wait to wash your hands, you’ll also have to wait to dry them. So what do you do while you’re waiting on a dryer? I guess you can stand around trying not to get splashed by the person already using the dryer!

•    Not sanitary – Everyone doesn’t wash their hands (nor do they use soap) so the door handle can be quite gross. But without paper towels, there is simply nothing to grab it with. What’s a woman to do? You know your hands are clean, but you don’t know what kind of germs that door handle could be infested with.

•    Having paper towels is job security for janitors – Don’t they realize that every time you replace a paper towel rack with a hand dryer, you’re costing another janitor their job? Who else comes in to pick up all the paper towels off the floor, empty the waste basket and refill the plastic trash liner? When you eliminate the need for all of that, you are adding to the unemployment crisis! (Okay, not quite but still you get my point)

•    Loud & annoying – Let’s face it; these dryers are as loud as they are annoying. I come to the bathroom for peace and simplicity, not to hear a Boeing 747 take off. Plus if I’m in the middle of a conversation with someone else in the bathroom I always end up getting cut off because no one can hear over the load roar. The deafening noise from the dryer should not be the way I end my bathroom experience.

I guess at the end of the day these hand dryers may be here to stay, so I guess I have to get used to them, but this doesn’t mean I have to like them.

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Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others

Continuing with the theme of ‘love’ this month, I thought I’d share this article. It’s long but worth the read (and sorry in advance about the formatting)  –

This book is based on over 3,000 interviews conducted by Molloy and his researchers. They interviewed couples coming out of marriage license bureaus, and then a control group. The results reflect the statistical tendencies of marriage. Many of the lessons are common sense, but what sets this book apart is its specificity and the statistical backup for its assertions.

Editor’s note: One interesting fact is that this book got positive but mixed reviews on Amazon. It seems that the statistical truths that women who are A) over 35, and B) overweight are much less likely to marry were not well-received by those women who fell into those categories.

The Six Basic Guidelines For Women To Get Married

  1. Insist on it.
  2. If you find yourself in a dead-end relationship, move on.
  3. Love yourself first.
  4. Commit yourself to the idea of getting married
  5. Keep in shape, watch your weight, and take care of your appearance
  6. Time is running out—use time wisely in your search for the marrying man

To maximize your chances of marrying, only date the marrying kind:

Most men will not consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment

  • For 80% of high school graduates, 23
  • For 80% of college graduates, 26
  • For college men, the high-commitment period is 28-33
  • For men who go to graduate school, 30-36
  • After the age of 37-38, the chances that he’ll commit drops dramatically. After 43, it drops even more
  • A 40+ man who has been married before is more likely to remarry than an equivalent bachelor is to marry

Most men will not contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years (hence the high-commitment periods)
Men become likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene

  • E.g. They realize that they’ve become the sleazy old guys who hang out at the bars and hit on younger girls

Men do have a biological clock, based on their desire to be an active father (especially to their sons)
Misc. negative traits and warning signs

  • Men who see marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain
  • Men whose parents divorced when they were young
  • Men who live with their parents

Other key facts

  • Men often marry women whose religion, politics, values, and socioeconomic status match theirs
  • Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry
    • 60% of the newly married men reported that they had a friend who had married within the last year.
    • Those men who didn’t have any married male friends were 2-3 times as likely to say that they weren’t ready to marry.
    • The majority of men who had seen their friends get married said that if they met the right woman, they’d think seriously about getting married.

Avoid stringers, men who string along women but never commit. To filter them out, insist that he commit after six months. Then stick to it, no matter what excuses he gives.
Consider unpolished jewels, men who are just as nice, intelligent, hard-working, and successful, but lack looks, height, or social skills.

  • a. 88% of men over 50 who were marrying for the first time were marrying divorced women. The women told the researchers that they had already tried the tall, suave, type, and he didn’t make a very good husband.

First impressions are important

1. Men are attracted by the physical, but marry character

  • a. Newly engaged men said that what attracted them to their fiancées was how classy, positive, energetic, enthusiastic, and upbeat their future wives were.
    • i. While 68% gave a physical description of their fiancée, only 20% said that what attracted them was how gorgeous and sexy their fiancée was. Over 60% described their personalities, even if the women in question were very beautiful.
  • b. Therefore, be positive!

2. All wives are trophy wives—men marry women whom they admire and like to show off (but not for their physical appearance)
3. Dressing appropriately sends the message, “I am wife material.” Men marry women they perceive as “situational virgins” who move easily in their world.

a. Editor’s note: In other words, don’t dress like a ho. Men see a sexy outfit as an invitation to have sex.
b. Most men decide within 10 minutes of meeting a woman if she’s appropriate for marriage, or just for a casual affair.
c. Over 80% of men said or bragged that their fiancée was the kind of woman they were proud to introduce to friends and family
d. Over 70% of men said that they knew that their future bride was a “nice girl” the minute they met
e. Only 7 out of 2,000 men interviewed said that their fiancée was dressed in a very sexy outfit when they met.

4. If you want to marry a man who is more attractive than you, go for a very good-looking man because he will actually place less emphasis on looks. Women see their own looks as a gift of nature equal to or superior to brains and talent. In contrast, 67% of very good-looking men think of their looks as a minor asset, and say they would rather be smart, rich, or talented. Do the following:

a. Approach him. Very attractive men don’t make passes at women because they don’t have to.
b. Let him put you on a pedestal. Don’t treat him any differently than you would another man, just because he’s good-looking.
c. Let him see your talents and accomplishments. Very good-looking men often marry women who have qualities they lack—education, professional accomplishment, social standing, and ambition.
d. Make demands on him. Advise him to go back to school or get a better job.

5. Making a good impression on his family is almost as important as making a good impression on him.

a. 5% said that it was their family that had convinced them that the woman was something special
b. 30% said that their family’s positive opinion had influenced them

What kind of women get married?

1. Women with a large number of female friends are more likely to marry than women with a large number of male friends
a) Men don’t go out of their way to introduce their female friends to other men

2. If you reach 30 and want to get married, you have to make finding a husband a primary goal. Once your friends start getting married, they are less likely to have an active social life with you. Don’t be the last one off the bus!

3. Women who get married, even those with high-powered careers, make getting married a priority that they work at.

4. The larger the number of single men and women you work with, the better your chances of marrying
a. If you work in an industry with few eligible men (e.g. the fashion industry, where most male colleagues are gay), or have other disadvantages, you’ll have to work harder outside of work to overcome them. It’s unfair, but suck it up.

5. Women with unrealistic expectations often remain single

a. Much of the time, these expectations are imposed by others, who think that the men she brings home aren’t “good enough for her.”
b. Give men a second chance—20% of brides to be said that they didn’t like their husband when they first met him.

6. Self-confident men are attracted to accomplished, self-assured, and talented women
7. Women who waste their time with stringers or men who don’t care for them hurt their chances of marrying

a. Women who marry refer to the men who broke up with them as losers. Women who don’t marry often make men who don’t reciprocate their feelings the center of their universe and still speak well of them.
b. Don’t date married or gay men.

8. Women who live with their parents are less likely to marry
9. Being slender attracts more men, therefore increasing your chances to marry
10. Women who put effort into looking their best are more likely to marry than those who don’t

11. However, men find women who are active and don’t spend all of their time primping more attractive

12. Women who make an effort to seek out the company of single men are more likely to marry
a. Women who marry date more frequently than those who don’t, even it’s Mr. Wrong.
b. Women who marry are three times as likely to participate in masculine activities in which they had no real interest.
c. Women who marry are twice as likely to have made lifestyle sacrifices (changing jobs or moving) to meet eligible men.

13. Women who have active social lives are more likely to marry
a. Go out on Friday and Saturday, when other single people go out

The stages in a relationship

1: Living up to expectations

  • Men believe that they can size up a woman in 5 minutes. They’re usually wrong. If a man doesn’t call, it’s because he realizes that he made a mistake.

2: Getting to know you. The following types of women are more like to get asked out on additional dates

a. Women who date more extensively
b. Women who have male friends or brothers (and thus have a better understanding of men)

  • c. Women who worry less about impressing their dates and more about having fun
    d. Women who don’t have sex on the first date
    e. Women who object when they don’t approve of the man’s plans
    f. Women who are friendly and positive
    g. Women who are a good audience and show interest and/or a concern for his welfare

    Sidebar: Why men don’t call
    As men see it, they don’t need a reason not to call. They do need a reason to call.
    The woman gets too serious too soon
    The woman is not as positive as they had thought.
    90% of men find catty remarks a turnoff

3: Needs and lifestyles

  • This stage is about separating attraction from compatibility.
  • If your lifestyles aren’t compatible, end the relationship as quickly and painlessly as possible

4: Steady dating (range: 3 weeks to 3 months)

  • Men don’t typically think of themselves as dating until after 4-6 dates
  • Women typically think of themselves as dating after 2-3 dates, hence the problem
  • The primary reason men drop women during the first month or two is that the women come on too strong, too soon.
  • 50% of men have broken up with a woman because she got serious prematurely
  • Never speak of marriage, children, or your future together for the first 6 dates.

5: Romancing the woman

  • Men are always trying to please the women they like. Just relax and enjoy your stay on the pedestal (because it’s likely to be brief).

6: Getting comfortable (3 months+). This is the stage where the couple stop feeling they have to be on their best behavior and start being themselves.

  • The fact that your man doesn’t bring you roses, but instead plops on your couch to watch TV and takes you for granted is actually a natural stage and the hallmark of almost all serious relationships—not a deal-killer. But, don’t be a doormat. If you don’t complain, or, even worse, try to do everything for him, it will make him think you are just there for his convenience.
  • Women who withhold doing household chores usually get more respect from men
  • The women who insist on being treated well are 2x as likely to end up marrying their man. No one marries a servant.
  • Insist on being monogamous

7: Committed couplehood (range: 6 months to 1 year; 73% said that within 9 months, their partner had become the center of their lives).Successful couples:

  • Are monogamous
  • If his family member makes a negative comment about you, he should defend you. 79% of marrying men said that they came to their financees’ defense.
  • Hang out together without any particular plans. When just being together, you are a successful couple.
    Put their partners interests above their friends and family

8: Premarital couplehood.

  • Committed couples are:
    • Openly affectionate, and make sacrifices for each other
    • Become confidants. More than 90% of couples who get married are.
  • But remember that men are sensitive to criticisms of their family, and men don’t share their feelings easily

9: The proposal stage

  • Most men propose after going out with a woman for 18 months.
  • If at the end of 22 months, a man has not proposed, the chances that he will start to diminish.
  • For 3.5 years, the chances diminish gradually. After that, it plunges. After 7 years, your chances are virtually zero.

Speaking of Marriage

1. Men who discuss marriage are more likely to propose
2. If you want to discuss marriage, you’re going to have to bring the subject up, because many men never will
3. 73% of marrying women said that they put pressure on their man to propose
4. If a woman is convinced that marriage is essential to her happiness, she is more likely to marry.

  • a. If a man is convinced that being married is essential to a woman’s happiness, he is more likely to propose

5. When a man who has been dating a woman for months says he hasn’t thought of marriage, he’s probably just being honest. Men don’t think about these things.

  • a. 1/3 of husbands who had said no at first had forgotten that they did so
  • b. 2/3 remembered, but most thought it wasn’t a big deal.
  • c. When told that saying this upset their wives, the men generally responded, “What did she want me to do, lie to her?”
  • d. More than 90% of men who said they weren’t ready didn’t think the answer was a rejection, just a fact.
  • e. The best response is, “Maybe it’s time for you to think about it.”
  • f. Statistically, this is actually one of the most encouraging answers a woman can receive; many of these men proposed within 4 months.
  • 6. Men don’t get subtle hints—a woman has to discuss marriage directly and, to make sure he gets the point, ask follow-up questions.

7. When a man says he isn’t ready, it usually doesn’t mean he will never marry.

  • Often, it’s because they don’t have enough money.

8. Men rarely respond positively when challenged.

  • a. Over 50% of men say that when presented with a choice, “Marry me or get lost,” they chose to get lost.
  • b. Over 50% of men say that when a woman walks out, they let her go.
  • c. Instead, come back to the subject later. Send the message, “I love you, but I need marriage.” Don’t let them off the hook.
    • i. “How could you do this to me? You hurt me.”
    • ii. “The reason I’m so hurt is that I love you.”

Marrying after 40

1. The best places to meet eligible men are clubs and groups based on common interests. Join organization that have single men as members.

  • a. 21% of engaged women over 40 said that they had met their fiancée at an athletic club
  • b. Sports clubs that focus on activities that attract singles (trips, bicycling) are best
  • c. Next best are tennis, and golf.
  • d. Third come professional or social organizations that are overwhelmingly male, like engineering associations or collectors of sports memorabilia.
  • e. Fourth come organizations that have a singles scene, or sponsor events that give singles a chance to socialize with other club members.
  • f. Dances, picnics, and charity golf or tennis tournaments are also a good place to meet men.

2. Have an active social life

  • a. Women who go out twice a week, even just to dine with other women or do volunteer work, are 3x as likely to marry than those who don’t go out.
  • b. Going out three times a week boosts your chances even further.
  • c. However, going out more than 5 nights a week decreases your chances.

3. Though men often date women who are much younger, they usually marry someone close to their own age.

4. The most common reason men over 40 were attracted to their fiancées was that they took good care of themselves. So stay in shape!

5. When asked what attracted them to their fiancées, younger men cite virtue, talent, or accomplishments. 62% of men over forty cited “niceness” (congeniality, agreeableness, a relaxed, low-maintenance attitude, and acts of kindness).

6. Older men may be in a hurry to get married; delay them, don’t dump them, if you aren’t ready yet.

7. Men who attend religious services are more likely to marry.

Divorced men, widowers, and single fathers

1. Young widowers without children are the most marriageable men on earth
2. Single fathers with young children have little or no energy for a social life
3. Most widowers are not ready for a relationship until 2 years after their wife passed away
4. Men whose wives died of lingering or painful illnesses are less likely to remarry.
5. The more amicable a man’s divorce, the more likely he is to remarry
6. The younger a man is, the more likely he is to remarry

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*This article is an excerpt from the book “Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others” by John T. Molloy (the author of “Dress for Success”)

My Gut Overfloweth – Further Observations From The Gym

It’s been a while since I’ve posted about my time at the gym. So this week I thought I’d share some more observations for your reading pleasure –

  • I can’t go to a gym class where the instructor is overweight – If she tells the class to run in place, she’ll just stand there and watch. If she tells us to do 20 crunches, she won’t do any. If she tells us to do jumping jacks, she’ll jump down to tie her shoe. I mean really, all gym instructors must look the part. I don’t want someone leading the class who looks like me. I want someone leading the class who looks better than me!
  • Why do gyms always have such small parking lots? –In a perfect world everybody would walk or jog to the gym but it’s like they forgot that the people who work out need to have a place to park their car. I understand that membership at a gym fluctuates from month to month so you never know exactly how many people will be there at any given time but once the parking lot is full, they should stop accepting new members
  • I hate the loud music that the gym has playing – Why do they blast the music so loud that I can’t hear the songs playing from my own iPod? Everyone walks around with headphones so obviously people want to listen to their own music. We don’t want to hear the gym’s playlist; we want to hear our own. Isn’t it called an iPod, not a gymPod?
  • Why am I forced to bring my own towels to the gym? – I hate that my gym charges me to use their towels. I get that washing & drying isn’t free but unless you want my sweat dripping everywhere, I suggest you let me borrow a towel for free while I work out
  • Why bother coming to the gym and not even really try to exercise? – Some people put enough weight on the machines that only a 12 year old could lift. What’s the point? A lot of    people go to the gym just to say they went to the gym. If you’re gonna go through the trouble to dress & drive to the gym you should at least break a sweat once you get there

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I’ll Take 1 Man To Go: Tall, Funny & Smart But Hold The Muscles

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know that I like to write about my experiences in the gym. Click here to read more about that. Even though I haven’t worked out that much this week I’d still like to share my latest observances –

  • Why do men have big arms but skinny little legs? – We’ve all seen men who have very muscular arms but toothpicks as legs. Why aren’t men as vigilant about working out their lower body as they are their arms? I know the arms are one of the most visible parts of the body but don’t forget about your legs too
  • The gym is a good place to ogle & not feel bad about it – The point of working out is to improve your body (and your health too). So if I can’t enjoy the results of your hard labor, men, then why bother? The gym may be sweaty & funky, but it certainly offers a nice view. =)
  • Two grown men shouldn’t work out together – There should be a minimum amount of weight required to lift before you need a workout partner. If you are doing bicep curls you do not need a partner. Bench press yes, bicep curls no
  • If you’re in the gym wear gym clothing – Why do some people show up with cargo pants on? The gym is a place to wear comfortable, loose clothing so you shouldn’t be wearing anything that involves a zipper
  • If you’re going to wear gloves you should be lifting some serious weight – I’ve seen men lift 50 pound weights with gloves on. Why? Fifty pounds is not really heavy (at least for a man, it isn’t) so if that’s all you can lift, preventing calluses should be the least of your concerns

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Don’t Call Me Skinny Unless It’s Okay To Call You Fat

Growing up I was always called “skinny” or “bony” and HATED hearing those words. These words made it sound like I was sickly. Of course little kids didn’t know that those words were mean but there was nothing wrong with me. I just had really fast metabolism even though I ate everything in sight. Most people think that calling someone skinny is a compliment, but they’re wrong. Maybe if you’ve just lost 100 pounds and you’re proudly showing off your new figure but if you’re naturally thin like me, it’s not.

Why don’t I like to hear that dreaded “S-word”? Well, for one it makes me sound like I’m borderline anorexic. Just like my height, I can’t do anything about my metabolism so don’t talk about it.

I also hate having to justify going to the gym. Is going to the gym only reserved for people who are overweight? Exercising has tons of other benefits aside from losing weight.

Another thing is that people assume that I don’t eat a lot.  That’s so not true. I do eat! Trust me, don’t let the slender frame fool you – I eat.

Also, it’s hard for me to talk to others about my weight because most people aren’t happy about their own weight.  What am I supposed to say when a group of women are complaining about their size then act like I can’t be a part of the conversation because I’m “skinny”?  I can try to be compassionate but my opinion is invalid since I’m the “skinny” girl, so anything I say would just seem condescending.  So although I am a part of the conversation, I can’t really contribute.  If you’re not happy with your weight, fine, but just leave me out of it.

Now if I were fat, commenting on my weight would not be appropriate, right? If I
was fat, obese, overweight (or whatever you want to call it) and someone said anything about my weight that would be considered rude.

Here are some “skinny” comments that I wish I could reverse (hypothetically):

Them: You’re skinny

Me: You’re fat

Them: You’re so skinny, you can eat anything!

Me: You’re so fat; you shouldn’t be eating much of anything!

Me: I’m heading to the gym.

Them: Why? You’re skinny. You don’t need to work out

Me: Yeah, well you should probably come with me

Them: You’re so skinny, you can wear anything!

Me: You’re so fat; there are a lot of things you shouldn’t wear!

There is NOTHING wrong with being slim, slender or thin. Unless fat people want me to comment on their (over)weight, I suggest they leave their comments about my weight to themselves.

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I Love Seeing Old People At The Gym. It Gives Me Hope

I often write about the “good times” I have at the gym. =) Well, now it’s time for some more observations from my week at the gym:

  • Men, don’t adjust yourself in public please – This definitely merits a separate post (which I will write one day), but I think it’s gross! I understand that moving around a lot while working out may constitute an “adjustment” but at least go to the restroom, turn away from the crowd or wait until you’re in private. How often do you see a woman digging around in her sports bra to move “things” around?
  • No peeking – No one should be allowed to peek over at my machine to check my speed or see what level of incline I’m on. What I’m doing when I work out is my business and my business only. So what if I’m on the treadmill on a level 1 incline for 30 minutes? I may not be going very fast, but that might be the most that I’m able to do.  Some people don’t even get that much exercise in a whole week. All I’m saying is – keep your eyes on your own machine., thank you very much.
  • Farting in public – Some people just can’t hold it in, can they? All that grunting on the machines can really move the gas around in your stomach but constant offenders shouldn’t be allowed back. It’s already sweaty in the gym. Don’t funk it up any more than it already is.
  • No Talking Zone – I understand a lot of people think that the gym is a good place to meet people (which it is) but it’s all about timing. If I’m on a machine gettin’ my sweat on then it is not a good time to try to holla at me. But if I’m walking around, standing in front of the fan or getting a smoothie then that would be the best time to come up to me.
  • Thank goodness for football season! – I know the gym will be much emptier on Monday evenings now. Yeah!!

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