Tag: Family

Daddy/Daughter Date Ideas For Father’s Day

Father’s Day is rapidly approaching! Unlike Mother’s Day, it’s always hard to find the perfect gift for dads because they tend to not want as much, and just seem less excitable about this day in general.

Aside from getting dad the typical dress shirt, tie, socks or some ugly do-hickey, think about doing something a little more special this year. Here are some ideas:

Go kart racing – There is nothing like Father’s Day to bring out your competitive side! Older generations often like to boast that they are the better drivers, so how fun would it be to “outdrive” your own father (especially if he’s the one who taught you how to drive in the first place). If you win against your own father, you’ll have bragging rights for months to come!

go kart

Rock climbing – Who doesn’t need exercise?! Get dad up & out and spend time getting in shape together. Be healthy together!


Dinner – Dad’s always take delight in spending quality time with their children. It means a lot to them to be able to sit down and enjoy a nice meal and good conversation, especially during Father’s Day season. Whether you prefer to cook for your dad or treat him to a nice restaurant, I’m sure your dad will appreciate it. (Or if you’re like my father who never lets me pay for anything, I appreciate it even more!)


Live theatre – It’s always nice to dress up. Even more so when you’re doing it to spend time with the man who actually raised you. Buy some tickets to take your father to a nice play or to hear some live music. Most “older” men enjoy that kind of thing, not to mention it’s nice to contribute to the arts.


Maybe a trip down memory lane – Whether you make a scrapbook or literally drive your dad around his old neighborhood, let your dad relive some of his old memories. Part of who your father is today is based on who he used to be. Remind him of where he came from & how glad you are that HE is YOUR father! 🙂

memory lane

Do you have any gift ideas for Father’s Day? Is there anything special you’ve done for your dad in the past? I’d love to hear in the comments section below –

Feelin’ Down?! How To Fight Depression During Christmas

 Christmas sadness

A lot of people tend to get depressed around this time of year. Winter has just begun and people are spending more time with family & friends during this Christmas season. For those of us without close friends or who aren’t near our family it’s easy to feel down. Here are some tips on how to fight the sadness during the holiday season:


  • Don’t worry about being alone – Being alone during Christmas isn’t the end of the world. Even though it is a very “special” holiday, it is just one day out of 365 and there will be many other times to celebrate with family or friends.
  • Consider people who aren’t as fortunate as you are – If you have to spend the holidays alone (whether by choice or not) consider spending time with others who are less fortunate than you are. You have a roof over your head, clothes on your back, food to eat and even a computer at your fingertips! Volunteer at a shelter, feed the homeless or donate clothing to the needy.
  • Celebrate with extended family – Just because you’re not related to someone doesn’t mean they can’t be considered family. You can spend this holiday season celebrating with friends, colleagues or even perfect strangers! (You never know where you might get an unexpected blessing!)
  • Try to stay as positive as you can – “Turn that frown upside down!” Even if you can’t help but to feel sad, it doesn’t hurt to try and stay upbeat & positive. Your attitude says a lot about who you are and you never know who may be looking up to you. Negative energy can not only bring you down but it can rub off on others around you. Put a smile on your face & be grateful for all you have.
  • Make someone else’s day – Writing this blog makes me happy so if there is something that you can do to make someone else’s day, do it! This is the season for giving not receiving. Go out of your way to do some good for another person.
  • Give “gifts” to yourself – Why wait for Christmas Day to open give gifts? Treat yourself to something special this holiday season. Whether it’s something as simple as sleeping in or as expensive as a vacation, just know that you deserve it. Take care of yourself so that you can take care of others throughout the year.
  • Focus on good memories – Everybody has some good memories from their past. Even if things aren’t going perfectly in your life right now, try to recollect some positivity from the past. When I think about certain things from my past (fun days from college, a trip with my girlfriends, a great day at work, etc….) it can put a big smile on my face. Reflect on the “good old days”!
  • Imagine what you can do next year to make Christmas even better than this year – It’s never too early to plan for next year. What would you like to do differently? Who do you want to spend the holiday season with? Where do you see yourself at the end of next year? Look forward to the possibilities of 2015.
  • Be grateful for whatever it is you have – Surely, there is someone who has less than you and it just doesn’t help to focus on what you don’t have. As the saying goes, “I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet.” The opposite of “grateful” is desperation and neediness. So accept where you are and what you have, even if it’s the worst possible situation or next to nothing.
  • Think of all the people around the world that are going through something – No one’s life is perfect, as we are all going thru something. Know that you are not alone and if someone else can get through it, so can you. Be grateful for where you are in life & what you have while looking forward to doing & having more.
  • Look forward to next year – Expect bigger & better things for yourself next year. I believe that 2015 will be a great year for me & I hope it is for you too!!



Being Thankful On Thanksgiving


Here are some more things that I am grateful for on Thanksgiving Day. It’s hard to narrow it down but here are my five for today:

My good looks – I know, I know. This may sound vain, but hey – if I don’t think I’m attractive, who will? Although I’m no “Halle Berry” to everyone, I certainly am grateful to God for all of His creations. (I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalms 139:14) Looking good may not mean everything, but it will always mean something.

Family – I don’t see my family nearly as often as I should, but I still love them. They are a part of who I am and who I’ve become. And although they may get on my nerves, I am grateful for my relatives (even the ones I don’t like).

Freedom in the U.S.A. – Although this country has some major issues, it is still BY FAR the best place to live in the world (Canada is a close runner up though). Having traveled abroad on several occasions, I am constantly reminded of how proud I should be to be an American. Not many others are afforded the same opportunities, rights or freedoms that we are in the States. The right to vote, the right to appeal a ‘guilty’ verdict, the freedom to express ourselves any way we choose, the freedom to carry a gun if we want and even the opportunity to open up a business anywhere we choose. America is a great place to live & for that I’m thankful!

I am not a stereotype – As an African American I have beaten the odds. I have zero children (I’m unmarried), I do not have a criminal record, I didn’t drop out of school and I am not in a rap music video. Lol! (Okay, I through that last one in there just because but hopefully you get my drift). I don’t wanna bog you down with statistics but unlike what a lot of people may think about young women, particularly women of color, I am NOT that type of woman. I am thankful that I am living my life in such a manner that others will hopefully one day look up to me, not down at me.

Good food – Today’s menu was amazing! Partially because I cooked some of the Thanksgiving meal myself but also because I realized how much I love to eat! Nothing can beat a home cooked meal with all the trimmings! I truly enjoyed my Thanksgiving dinner and am grateful to have family to share it with!

Today was Thanksgiving. What were you grateful for?!


Wait A Minute, Money Can Buy Happiness!

We humans spend a lot of time waiting in lines: People queue up for days in order to get their hands on the latest iPhone, or what feels like eons for a table at that hip new brunch place.

You may be better off spending time and money on the latter. A growing body of research has shown that experiences tend to make people happier than material possessions.

And even anticipating an experience like a concert, a ski trip or what better be a really great brunch makes us happier than purchasing the latest gadgets, according to a study published Tuesday in Psychological Science.

The study, cleverly titled Waiting for Merlot: Anticipatory Consumption of Experiential and Material Purchases, tracked how about 100 college students and over 2,200 randomly selected adults felt about material goods and experiences.

People got excited about both things and events. But they tended to feel more positive about experiential purchases, and their feelings about material purchases were more likely to be tinged with feelings of impatience.

“I think one aspect of that has to do with the nature of imagination,” says Amit Kumar, a doctoral student of psychology at Cornell University and one of the researchers behind the paper.

“If you’re waiting to buy an iPhone, you know exactly how many megapixels the camera on the new phone will have,” Kumar told Shots. People often get really creative while planning out a future vacation, he says, and just thinking about all the things they’ll be doing and all fun they’ll be having can boost their mood.

Plus when it comes to experiences, money isn’t as much of an issue, the researchers hypothesize. People may be competitive when it comes to keeping up with the Joneses, but tend to be less competitive about spending on experiences.

And as people age, they tend to find more joy in ordinary, everyday experiences like walking or gardening, compared to that trip to Fiji, another recent study found.

One reason may be that experiences give people the opportunity to bond and socialize, Kumar says. Even when if you aren’t guaranteed a ticket to a concert or a taco from the cool new food truck, people often enjoy waiting in line. “While waiting for concert tickets, people reported singing songs together, or people would be playing games with each other while they’re waiting,” he says.

And we’ve got proof of that right here at Shots. Editor Scott Hensley says he could buy tickets online for the Old Ebbitt Grill’s annual Oyster Riot, but he much prefers going downtown first thing in the morning and waiting in line with his fellow oyster aficionados.

That sounds a lot more fun than those Black Friday scuffles over flat screens and Xboxes. Indeed, Kumar and his colleagues compared news reports about people waiting in line and found that long waits for material purchases were more likely to end in violence.

We bet nobody’s gotten into a fight while waiting for that oyster party.


*Article originally published on NPR.


Pregnancy Is Not Pretty!

September is the most popular month to give birth. With close to 4 million births last year, it’s apparent that the majority of these newborns were conceived in those winter months (which will be coming up soon!). According to Baby Center, the most popular day for babies to make their entrance into the world is Tuesday, followed by Monday. Sunday is the slowest day. Scheduled C-sections and induced labors have a big influence on the fact that fewer babies are born on the weekend but spontaneous (non-scheduled) deliveries occur less often on the weekend too.

So…….since this is the most popular birthmonth, I thought I’d share some of the most interesting pregnancy photos I’ve ever seen. Enjoy viewing these expectant mothers (along with my commentary, of course) –

pregnant 19

This is actually pretty funny. She is doing everything you’re NOT supposed to do when you’re pregnant but everything you CAN do after you have the baby. Cheers!

pregnant 4

Um, I thought the sonogram was supposed to be on the inside of the stomach, not the outside.

pregnant 1

This is just creepy.

pregnant 2

Cute – both have big bellies. Except hers is excusable, his is not.

pregnant 3

I hope this picture means she’s having a girl. If not – AWKWARD!

pregnant 5

Why is he pushing in her belly button? Does he think it’s a doorbell or something?!
And what’s with the all black outfits? Having a baby is supposed to be a joyous occasion, not a tragedy

pregnant 6

I hope she’s not seriously riding a horse while she’s that pregnant. This pose would be okay for her wedding day, but not for an “I’m pregnant” photo.

pregnant 7

Is that moss? What in the world?! Where is she & what scene is she trying to recreate? I just don’t get it…

pregnant 8

Okay, now they’re just showing us how they got pregnant in the first place. Gross!

pregnant 9

I hope they’re having a boy. Otherwise, this is just weird.

pregnant 10

Okay, I hope this couple is having a girl. Otherwise, what in the world were they thinking? And why is he wearing a pair of jeans & a sleeveless shirt in a dance studio? Could he be any more under-dressed for this picture?

pregnant 11

I’m not quite sure what’s going on here – maybe she’s supposed to be in the ocean or maybe she’s like the fetus inside the womb. I’m not really sure. But whatever look she was going for, it’s not working for her.

pregnant 12

Okay, I get what they were going for here. Not all that funny, but they’re young so I guess it’s kinda cute.

pregnant 14

Just plain weird.

pregnant 15

Who uses their actual belly for the countdown to when they give birth? This reminds me of the movie Shawshank Redemption, in a strange sorta way.

pregnant 16

It’s a BOY!
(But then why are you in a flower field?!)

pregnant 17

I’m not quite sure what this is supposed to represent. The belly of Life? Or that your baby is “underground” waiting to blossom? Coincidentally, this is exactly what a funeral plot in a cemetery looks like.

pregnant 18

This is different! But I think I would much rather have a basketball cake than a basketball belly.

pregnant 13

Instead of taking this photo, I think the photographer should be calling 911. I hope that’s not how she takes a nap because she looks catatonic to me.


Gosh, this is a tough one. They all look so pregnant, actually the men more than the woman! But this will make for a funny family Christmas card!

What the heck were these expectant parents thinking? I wonder how long it took for them to look back on these photos in shame. If you know anyone who took “crazy” pregnancy photos, why did they do it? Furthermore, did anyone try to stop them? Please share in the comments section below –