Just because it is 2013 doesn’t mean that men are allowed to slack off on chivalry or courting a woman properly. Apparently, there are a lot of men out there who prefer “residential dating”, meaning cooking dinner or watching movies at home, rather than taking a woman out on a date.
It seems that these men would rather eat-in towards the beginning of the courtship and go out to dinner more frequently once they are in a committed relationship. Their rationale is that they shouldn’t invest in someone until you know for sure whether or not you want to be with them. But I think that thought process is backwards and that a woman shouldn’t be cooking in the beginning of a relationship but going out to eat more instead.
The problem with the stay-at-home date is that you don’t get to see how your date interacts with other people and it invites intimacy (read: sex) into the relationship a lot sooner. Yes, it shows a lot of thought & effort when someone cooks for you but the whole point of dating is to get to know someone not impress them with your cooking skills. There’s nothing wrong with grabbing a beer (or in my case, a glass of wine) and hanging out at a sports bar or getting appetizers at a local spot. Plus now that it’s Spring and daylight savings time is here, why would you even want to be indoors? Take me to the lake for a walk or the beach for some sun. We could even hit a sporting event & order hot dogs, or you could let me beat you in a round of miniature golfing (lol!)
Personally, I’m not impressed by a man’s extravagance, but more by his resourcefulness. So if you can’t think of ways to get to know me outside of your house, then we can’t date.
I already know that men complain that dating is expensive but I would like to know that I am worth your hard earned dollars.