Tag: Dating

#HumpDayLoveDay: Viola Davis + Julius Tennon

Many years before becoming “Academy Award winner Viola Davis,” the actress was just another woman navigating single life in Los Angeles, a city in which she felt incredibly lonely. One day, Davis was complaining to a friend about not knowing many people in LA, and within earshot was a man that Davis would come to know very well: Julius Tennon, her future husband.

As Davis shared on the OWN series “Black Love,” Tennon overheard Davis lamenting on that fateful day, so he introduced himself and gave her his card.

Though Davis was eager to meet a nice man, she was ashamed of having bad credit at the time, and delayed calling Tennon, an actor and former college football player, for several weeks. When they finally connected, Davis and Tennon set up their first date ― a date during which Tennon was open, honest and, as Davis puts it, terrifying.

“I was terrified, because he told me exactly who he was ― he was absolutely honest about his past,” she says.

On the date, the two had a great time together, and when Tennon dropped Davis off at her home, he shared his feelings directly. “He just said, ‘You are a very beautiful and nice woman, and it was a pleasure spending time with you,’” she recalls. “And he shook my hand.”

Tennon left, but called Davis 20 minutes later.

“I said, ‘You got home already?’” Davis recalls. “He said, ‘No, I’m at the Ralph’s down the street, but I just wanted to tell you again what a great time I had and what a beautiful woman you are.’”

Twenty minutes later, Davis’ phone rang once more. “He called again: ’I just want to tell you I got home, and you are a beautiful woman. I’m about to go to sleep, and I just wanted to tell you to have a good night,” Davis says.

The rest, as they say, is history. 💗

*Originally posted on HuffPo.

 

Dating Advice For Women

Women, do you wanna know what advice men want to give us? Read below to get some insight on how men really feel, directly from the horse’s mouth –

  • “Encourage me!”
  • “I need a partner, not a mom”
  • “Sweats & no makeup is just as cute as being dolled up”
  • “Just because your man has a critical opinion of you doesn’t mean he’s lost interest in you.
    Just fix it”
  • “Don’t be mean”
  • “Exercise good hygiene”
  • “Remember, men have feelings too”
  • “Stop entertaining men you don’t want to commit to”
  • “Say what you mean & mean what you say”
  • “I love natural hair!”
  • “Stop expecting us to give you our best effort when you’re still exploring your options”
  • “Stop trying to compete with me”
  • “Be true to who you are”
  • “Don’t be afraid to be spontaneous”
  • “Learn to trust (again)”
  • “Don’t be inconsolable – if I can’t calm you down, then why call me?”
  • “Don’t always listen to your friend’s advice”
  • “Have at least 3 dishes you can cook really well”
  • “Learn to apologize earnestly”
  • “Stop bringing up old stuff”
  • “A man shouldn’t be “like” you. You need a yin to your yang”
  • “Listen to understand & not to respond”
  • “Don’t think being crazy is ‘cute’”
  • “Don’t put everything over social media – leave something for just the two of us”
  • “Stop thinking that every man wants you – they don’t!”
  • “Everything doesn’t always click on the first date. Give things a chance”
  • “Don’t listen to Steve Harvey”
  • “Reciprocate some of the actions you want to see from him”
  • “Go in without expectations”

Dating From A –> Z (literally!)

Need some date ideas? From A to Z, here are some things you can suggest for a fun evening out –

A – aquarium, arcade, art gallery

B – biking, brewery, bonfire, B&B, boating, bowling, batting cages

C – camping, cook, comedy show

D – dancing, dinner, dive bar, drive-in movies, dog walking

E – escape room, exercise

F – football, fishing, festival, fondue restaurant, frisbee golf

G – game night, go-kart racing, ghost tour, garden, greenhouse

H – hiking, happy hour, hockey game, horseback riding

I – inline skating, ice cream, ice-skating

J – jazz music, splurge on junk food

K – karaoke, kayaking, kickboxing

L – line dancing, live music, laser tag

M – massage, museum, mini-golf, music

N – new restaurants, new experiences

O – opera, open theatre, anything outdoors

P – picnic, photoshoot, paint, progressive dinner

Q – a quadruple date

R – road trip, race track, rock climbing, read together

S – scavenger hunt, watch a sunset, stargaze, staycation

T – theme park, top golf, touristy stuff, trampoline park, play tennis

U – unplug, hear a university lecture together

V – volunteer, vineyard, volleyball, visiting with others, vintage shopping

X –  eXploring

Y – yoga, peruse yard sales

Z – ziplining, zoo

Broken

Be broken into a million pieces.

Only then will your heart no longer be confined
by the precious delusion of your own destiny.

And perhaps you will stop being a house with a few
windows for the light to pour in.

Instead you will be the ground and the sky.

You will be the echo of your mother’s cry
and the imprint of your father’s feet.

You…will be everything!

          Aida Millett

3 Things Your Man Needs You To Do

Women, there are certain things your man may want you to do, but there are some things that he needs you to do. While I probably will never be able to cover all those needs, here are at least three things that are very important to a man:

 

  1. Acknowledge – Men have egos that need stroking. This means when they do something, anything even the smallest thing, they need to get credit for it. Sure, we all like a little recognition from time-to-time, but men appreciate (and sometimes more than women) when their gestures don’t go unnoticed.
  2. Adore – Who doesn’t like to be adored?! Having a woman who makes a man feel like he’s on top of the world is priceless. Expressing adoration for your man, especially in public, can make a man truly appreciate the woman he’s with. He might also appreciate you more if you show him how much you really adore him.
  3. Announce – if you are proud of someone, you shouldn’t be afraid to let others know. Just a good man wouldn’t be ashamed to “shout it from the rooftops” when he’s in love, a good woman shouldn’t have a problem proclaiming to her friends & family members what a good man she’s got. And especially when her man is around.

Men, what else do you need from us?!