Tag: Christian

He Ain’t Ready!

As a single woman, one of the foremost thoughts on my mind is men (hey, what can I say?!). Thoughts like “Will I ever meet the right guy?”, “Why is it so hard to find someone?”, “Where are all the good men?” frequently pop up in my head.

I asked a single girlfriend how she manages to not let thoughts like these cloud her head and she told me that she wasn’t worried about finding a man or getting married because she knew it would happen at the right time. She had already prayed on it so she knew that it was only a matter of time, God’s time, before the right man came into her life. She had no worries whatsoever that she would be married (even though she’s older than I am) and wasn’t even concerned about her relationship status.

While I admire her assuredness, I am definitely not like her. I can’t help but to think about dating, relationships & why God chooses to take His time in some people’s lives and moves things right along in others. Why do some women who have done everything “right” have to struggle to find the right mate?  When I discussed this with my single friend, her answer was simple – “It’s not about me, it’s about him. And he ain’t ready.”

What she said made quite a bit of sense. A lot of times, women bear this unnecessary burden of thinking that “they are doing something wrong” or “aren’t pretty enough” when it’s nowhere near the truth. Of course, I’m not saying that women are perfect, I’m simply saying that we shouldn’t blame ourselves if we are still single because the problem may not be us at all. Sometimes men just aren’t ready – Even the good ones.

Sure, a man will take you out, compliment you & seemingly do all the right things; but he still may not be ready for anything real. He may even tell you that he’s ready for a commitment or wants to be in a relationship, but that doesn’t make it true. And a woman should never take that personally, it’s just ‘he ain’t ready’. And no matter what we women do, we can never make a man get ready for something that he’s not.

So, ladies, being single is not always your fault. Single men aren’t always “ready men”.

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Chocolate Vent Quote of the Week: “THE WINDSHIELD IS ALWAYS BIGGER THAN THE REAR VIEW MIRROR.”

The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love. He will not always accuse, nor will He harbor His anger forever; He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. 
For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His love for those who fear Him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.” {Psalm 103:8-12}
 

Chocolate Vent Quote of the Week: “GOD IS NOT FINISHED WRITING YOUR STORY, SO STOP TRYING TO STEAL HIS PEN.”

Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” {Hebrews 12:2}

Exceedingly, Abundantly, Above and Beyond!

God…is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams]. 
—Ephesians 3:20

When I pray about or simply meditate on all the people who are hurting, I have a strong desire to help them all. I sometimes feel that my desire is bigger than my ability, and it is—but it is not bigger than God’s ability! When the thing we are facing in our lives or ministries looms so big in our eyes that our mind goes “tilt,” we need to think in the spirit.

In the natural, many things are impossible. But in the supernatural, spiritual realm, with God nothing is impossible. God wants us to believe for great things, make big plans, and expect Him to do things so great it leaves us with our mouths hanging open in awe.

James 4:2 tells us we have not because we ask not! We can be bold in our asking. Sometimes in my meetings people will approach the altar for prayer and sheepishly ask if they can request two things. I tell them they can ask God for all they want to, as long as they trust Him to do it His way, in His timing. It is untold what people can do—people who don’t appear to be able to do anything.

God does not usually call people who are capable. If He did, He would not get the glory. He frequently chooses those who, in the natural, feel as if they are in completely over their heads but who are ready to stand up on the inside and take bold steps of faith as they get direction from God. We usually want to wait until we “feel ready” before we step out, but if we feel ready then we tend to lean on ourselves instead of on God.

Know your weaknesses and know God—know His strength and faithfulness. Above all else, don’t be a quitter. (Joyce Meyer)

Promotion Comes From The Lord

TODAY’S SCRIPTURE

For not from the east nor from the west nor from the south come promotion and lifting up. But God is the Judge! He puts down one and lifts up another.” (Psalm 75:6–7, AMP)

TODAY’S WORD 

Have you ever noticed that people tend to act differently around those they think can do something for them — people who appear to have status, wealth or influence in life? I believe that the way we treat people is a test. At times, God will bring people across your path that may seem insignificant. They may not appear to be able to do anything for you, but in reality, they are divinely linked to your destiny. They hold the key to your promotion and increase. Will you treat them with respect and honor even if you think they can’t do anything for you?

The truth is, the people that we’re playing up to or trying to win their favor may be the ones that will open a door for us. But, they don’t hold the key to your destiny. Promotion doesn’t come from them. Promotion comes from God. And God will use the most unlikely people to open doors of opportunity for you — a hotel bellman, a maid, an intern, or an unpopular kid at school. Let’s pass the test and treat everyone like Jesus put them in our path because He probably did. Remember, God is watching and promotion comes from Him.

A PRAYER FOR TODAY

Father, thank You for promotion. Thank You for ordering my steps and leading me on the right path. Today I choose to honor and respect everyone, and in turn, I choose to honor You in Jesus’ name. Amen.

— Joel & Victoria Osteen