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What Did You Leave In 2017?

Every time a new year begins, people tend to reflect on what didn’t happen in the year that just ended. As I reflect on 2017 I realize that while it was a pretty good year for me, there was a lot that I just didn’t get to. There were some great things that happened but there are some accomplishments that I left on the table last year.

One thing I can say that I would like to leave in 2017 are bad habits. This encompasses a lot including eating out too much (this put a hurtin’ on my wallet!), financial stress, and feeling bad about things beyond my control. I won’t go into each of these topics individually, but I do feel that I could’ve had a better year had I not allowed these habits to drag on so I’ve decided not to carry into the new year.

It’s easy to look back & feel sorry for yourself because of what happened or what didn’t happen during any given timeframe. I’ve been there, done that many times and it hasn’t gotten me anywhere. I realize that there’s no point. Even biblically speaking, once God forgives you He forgets (of course God doesn’t literally forget anything, but He doesn’t hold it against you anymore) Micah 7:18. So that begs the question – what are you holding on to in 2018 that you should leave in 2017?

Now that a new year has begun, I can work on areas of improvement and look forward to having a fresh outlook in the new year without the guilt of not doing everything I wanted last year.

What are some of the things that you wish you had done last year?        

You Can Handle It!


“No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13, NKJV)

TODAY’S WORD from Joel and Victoria

We all go through challenges, disappointments and unfair situations. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and think, “This is too much. I can’t deal with this illness. I can’t handle this difficult child.” Or, “I can’t take this traffic. It’s driving me crazy.” But, God promised He will never let us face more than we can bear. Nothing that comes your way in life is too much for you.

This is what Joseph did. He was betrayed by his brothers, thrown into a pit and spent years in prison for something he didn’t do. But, he didn’t get depressed. He didn’t start complaining. His attitude was, “With God, I can handle it. God is still on the throne. I’m going to stay in faith and keep being my best.” In the end, he was made second in charge over all of Egypt.

Today, if you are feeling burdened and overwhelmed by circumstances, know that with God, all things are possible. No person can keep you from your destiny, no bad break, no disappointment, no sickness. Keep believing, keep hoping, keep praying and keep moving forward because you can handle whatever comes your way!


Father, thank You for equipping me with everything I need to face the day. I know that with You, all things are possible. I trust that You are working all things together for my good in Jesus’ name. Amen.


— Joel & Victoria Osteen

Do You Have Any Friends That Could Be Lovers?


I recently listened to a podcast where a (married) man was discussing good ways to find a mate. He said one of the primary places to find someone is by looking at the very people around you, as there just might be someone in your circle worth dating. Sure, they’re “just friends” now, but you never know what could come out of a friendship. I’m sure you’ve heard this before but you know their personality, their positive & not-so-positive qualities, and of course, their true colors.

Since this isn’t the first time I’ve heard this advice, I decided to stock of the men who are already in my life. It’s very difficult for me to look at them as anything more than friends, namely because of our personality differences or my lack of attraction to them (or theirs to me) but for argument’s sake, I decided I’d do a rundown of my male friends. Of course, I’ve changed all of their names but I kept my description of them true to character. Here’s what I’ve got so far –

  1. Al – Al is freshly divorced, with the emphasis on “fresh”. While he’s got a good personality, smart & a good dancer (cuz that’s so important, right?!), he’s been married before (and not just once either) and I don’t like leftovers. Now he doesn’t have any children, yet, but with a couple of marriages under his belt it would appear that the common denominator in his failed marriages = HIM. So while he’s clearly “marriage material”, he’s not “stay-married material”.
  2. Christian – Christian is an honest, hard-working guy. He’s never been married before & has no children (at least none that he knows about). The problem with Christian is that he’s broke. Yes, that’s right – he has NO money. Although he’s more than 5 years older than I am, his career isn’t flourishing the way he’d like it to so he is struggling. He’s in the entertainment industry, which can be very difficult to break into, but this means that he’ll be forever chasing a dream while I’m the one paying the bills. No bueno!
  3. Barry – Barry is like my best guy friend. He’s nice, easy going, fun to hang out with & totally gets me. The problem is that he’s physically unattractive. He’s short, balding and out of shape (and by out of shape, I mean he’s really fat). I do like spending time with him because we can talk about any & everything and laugh all the time but I am turned off by him romantically & physically. I’m sure if there was a physical attraction, I might be able to date him but it’s just not there (and probably never will be).
  4. Stephen – Stephen is a nice person. He’s tall, suave, educated & the best part – he has NO kids. He’s cultured, well-read and seemingly well-liked by many. The problem is that he’s out of my age range. While I’m okay with dating men who are a few or even several years older than me, anything over a decade older is a bit much. Stephen is well past a decade older than me so unfortunately, he’s not a good candidate for marriage, only for friendship.
  5. Michael – Ah, good old Michael. Michael is actually my favorite, the only problem is that he has a kid. Anyone who knows me, knows that I prefer NOT to date men with kids so unfortunately he’s not really of any interest to me. I know, I know, men with kids (in this case – 1 kid) should be given a chance but I just don’t think he’s worth making an exception for. I’ll write more about this later, but basically I’m not interested in a man who is still raising children. He has other issues, but this is the biggest one – kids affect your life so much, financially, your time & attention, etc. Michael is fun to be with & is definitely “my type”, but I can’t get over the fact that I will never be first place in his life.

Men, women – have you inventoried your friends? If so, what do you think – any opportunities for a future romance?



Test me in this,” says the Lord Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it. I will prevent pests from devouring your crops, and the vines in your fields will not drop their fruit before it is ripe,” says the Lord Almighty. “Then all the nations will call you blessed, for yours will be a delightful land,” says the Lord Almighty. {Malachi 3:10-12}