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How NOT To Attract A Husband (Part 1)

Earlier this week, I posted an article from a magazine published in 1958 on ways to attract a husband. Some of the ideas were pretty good, but some not so much. I pulled some of those not-so-great ideas & thought I’d share my thoughts here:

  1. Have your car break down at strategic places. Depending on where you live, being stuck on the side of the road can be dangerous. Plus, what if it’s cold or even snowing outside? Should you still chance being stranded? Also, there’s just no guarantee on how long it will take before a cute guy shows up to help you.
  2. Attend night school & take courses men like. I’m not sure that people in night school are looking for serious, long-term relationships. Typically, these students are already working a full time during the day, may even have families and have limited hours to date (since they have to study after class). So while it might be fun to take woodshop or an auto mechanics class in the evening, there’s no guarantee that any of your classmates will be single, let alone looking to date a woman who is there to learn the same thing.
  3. Look in the census reports for places with the most single men. Yes, there are some places, like Alaska, that have more men than women but that doesn’t necessarily mean you should uproot your entire life just to “potentially” meet someone. Sure, if you’ve already connected with someone who happens to live long distance, but unless you’re just looking for an adventure, I wouldn’t say it’s safe to bet on an unsure thing. 
  4. Read the obituaries to find eligible widowers. Not only does this sound downright creepy, it’s just not “normal.” only if you are 70 plus & looking for love should you check the obituaries, otherwise please keep your search to those in the land of the living who are not currently grieving.
  5. Sit on a park bench and feed the pigeons. Unless you live in New York City, this just doesn’t sound practical. A lot of cities even advise you not to feed their wildlife, whether it be squirrels, ducks, etc. Besides, I have yet to meet one man who finds animal-feeding an attractive quality in a woman.
  6. Become a nurse or an airline stewardess – they have very high marriage rates. These professions might have had high marriage rates (and probably still do), but I’m sure their divorce rate is equally high as well. Not to mention, not all men prefer women who work in those professions.
  7. Volunteer for jury duty. Really?!
  8. Be friendly to ugly men – handsome is as handsome does. You really should try to be friendly to all men (and women too) regardless of how they look. Grant it, it’s probably “better” to talk to a good-looking ugly person, but it might not be “easier”. Good looking people can be intimidating, not to mention they might not necessarily want to talk to you (unless you’re really good looking too).   Besides, how does it benefit you to talk to someone you’re not attracted to? You might as well focus your energy on someone you don’t have to force yourself to look at.
  9. Don’t take a job in a company run largely by women. The vast majority of large companies are run by men; however, a lot of the smaller ones aren’t. what if you want to run your own company? What if you work in a female-dominated environment – like a hair salon or a clothing store.
  10. Get a job demonstrating fishing tackle in a sporting goods store. I like the concept of getting a job in a predominately male environment (see #9), but men making those types of purchases typically only respect employees who know about the product they are there to buy.
  11. Don’t be afraid to associate with more attractive girls; they may have some leftovers. While this may be true, this using the assumption that will want to associate with you. And even if they did have some good-looking “leftovers”, is it really kosher to date them? That would make for an awkward friendship, one would think.
  12. Change apartments from time to time. Okay, not only is this inconvenient it can be costly and just plain unnecessary. Besides, why should you have to uproot your whole life with the hope of possibly meeting someone? You shouldn’t…

Men, what pieces of advice do you have for women looking to get married?

100+ Ways to Get A Husband

Want to get a husband the old fashioned way? Take a look at McCall’s list from sixty years ago! (I’ll do my own review in a separate post.)

This list was originally published in 1958 by McCall’s. McCall’s was a monthly American women’s magazine, published by the McCall Corporation, that enjoyed great popularity through much of the 20th century, peaking at a readership of 8.4 million in the early 1960’s. At the peak of McCall’s popularity, the dynamic between men and women was in a very different place.

  1. Get a dog and walk it.
  2. Have your car break down at strategic places.
  3. Attend night school – take courses men like.
  4. Join a hiking club.
  5. Look in the census reports for places with the most single men. Nevada has 125 males for every 100 females.
  6. Read the obituaries to find eligible widowers.
  7. Take up golf and go to different golf courses.
  8. Take several short vacations at different places rather than one long one at one place.
  9. Sit on a park bench and feed the pigeons.
  10. Take a bicycle trip through Europe.
  11. Get a job in medical, dental, or law school.
  12. Become a nurse or an air-line stewardess – they have very high marriage rates.
  13. Ask your friends’ husbands who the eligible men are in their offices.
  14. Be nice to everybody – they may have an eligible brother or son.
  15. Get a government job overseas.
  16. Volunteer for jury duty.
  17. Be friendly to ugly men – handsome is as handsome does.
  18. Tell your friends that you are interested in getting married. Don’t keep it a secret.
  19. Get lost at football games.
  20. Don’t take a job in a company run largely by women.
  21. Get a job demonstrating fishing tackle in a sporting goods store.
  22. On a plane, train, or bus, don’t sit next to a woman – sit next to a man.
  23. Go to all reunions of your high school or college class. There may be widowers there.
  24. Don’t be afraid to associate with more attractive girls; they may have some leftovers.
  25. Go back to your home town for a visit – the wild kid next door may have become a very eligible bachelor while you were away.
  26. Don’t room with a girl who is a sad sack and let her pull you down to her level.
  27. Get a part-time job in a convention bureau.
  28. Change apartments from time to time.
  29. When traveling, stay at small hotels where it is easier to meet strangers.
  30. Learn to paint. Set up easel outside engineering school.
  31. Stumble when you walk into a room that he’s in.
  32. Forget discretion every once in a while and call him up.
  33. Carry a hatbox.
  34. Wear a Band-Aid. People always ask what happened.
  35. Make a lot of money.
  36. Learn several funny stories and learn to tell them well – but make sure you don’t tell them to him more than once.
  37. Walk up to him and tell him you need some advice.
  38. Dropping the handkerchief still works.
  39. Have your father buy some theater tickets that have to be got rid of.
  40. Stand in the corner and cry softly. Changes are good that he’ll come over to find out what’s wrong.
  41. Don’t let him fish for your name the next time you meet. None of this “guess who” stuff.
  42. If you’re at a resort, have the bellboy page you.
  43. Buy a convertible. Men like to ride in them.
  44. Learn how to bake tasty apple pies. Bring one in to the office and let the eligible bachelors taste it.
  45. Laugh at his jokes.
  46. If there’s a wallflower among the men you know, why not cultivate him? For all you know, he may be a diamond in the rough.
  47. “Accidentally” have your purse fly open, scattering its contents all over the street.
  48. Men like to think they’re authorities on perfume. Ask his advice on what kind you should wear.
  49. Get better-looking glasses – men still make passes at girls who wear glasses – or try contact lenses.
  50. Practice your drinking with your women friends first.
  51. If you dye your hair, pick a shade and stick to it.
  52. Wear high heels most of the time – they’re sexier!
  53. Unless he happens to be shorter than you are!
  54. Tell him he’s handsome.
  55. Take good care of your health. Men don’t like girls who are ill.
  56. If you look good in sweaters, wear one on every third date.
  57. Dress differently from the other girls in the office.
  58. Get a sunburn.
  59. Watch your vocabulary.
  60. Go on a diet if you need to.
  61. When you are with him, order your steak rare.
  62. Don’t tell him about your allergies.
  63. European women use their eyes to good advantage. Practice in front of a mirror.
  64. Buy a full-length mirror and take a good look before you go to greet him.
  65. Change the shade of your stockings and be sure to keep the seams straight.
  66. Get that fresh-scrubbed look by scrubbing!
  67. If he has bought you any trinket or accessory, wear it.
  68. Use the ashtray; don’t crush out cigarettes in coffee cups!
  69. Polish up on making introductions; learn to do them gracefully.
  70. Don’t be too fussy.
  71. Stick to your moral standards.
  72. Don’t whine – girls who whine stay on the vine!
  73. Show him you can have fun on a cheap date – but don’t overdo it!
  74. Don’t let your parents treat him like a potential husband.
  75. Ask your parents to disappear when you’re entertaining!
  76. Double-date with a gay, happily married couple – let him see what it’s like!
  77. Tell his friends nice things about him.
  78. Send his mother a birthday card.
  79. Ask his mother for her recipes.
  80. Talk to his father about business and agree that taxes are too high!
  81. Buy his sister’s children an occasional present.
  82. On the first date, tell him you aren’t thinking of getting married!
  83. Don’t talk about how many children you want.
  84. If he’s a fisherman, learn to scale and clean fish.
  85. Don’t tell him everything about yourself at the start. Hold something in reserve.
  86. When you’re out strolling with him, don’t insist on stopping at every shop window.
  87. Don’t tell him how much your clothes cost.
  88. Learn to sew and wear something you have made yourself.
  89. Don’t gossip about him.
  90. Never let him know he’s the only one, even if you have to stay at home one or two nights a week!
  91. Don’t be a pushover when he’s trying to make a date.
  92. Very early in your dating, why not get a favorite song that you both regard as your own?
  93. Find out about the girls he hasn’t married. Don’t repeat the mistakes they made.
  94. Don’t discuss your former boyfriends.
  95. If you are widowed or divorced, don’t constantly discuss your former husband.
  96. Be flexible. If he decides to skip the dance and go rowing on the lake, go – even if you are wearing your best evening gown.
  97. Hide your Phi Beta Kappa key if you own one – later on, junior can play with it.
  98. Turn wolves into husband material by assuming they have honor.
  99. Resist the urge to make him over – before marriage, that is!
  100. Learn where to draw the line – but do it gracefully.
  101. Remain innocent but not ignorant.
  102. Make your home comfortable when he calls – large ashtrays, comfortable chairs.
  103. Learn to play poker.
  104. If he’s rich, tell him you like his money – the honesty will intrigue him!
  105. Never let him believe your career is more important to you than marriage.
  106. Buy him an amusing or particularly appropriate present every once in a while. But don’t make it too expensive.
  107. Clip and mail him some funny cartoon that means something to both of you.
  108. Don’t tell dirty stories.
  109. Stop being a mama’s girl – don’t let him think he’ll have in-law trouble, even if you know he will!
  110. Point out to him that the death rate of single men is twice that of married men.
  111. Go to Yale.
  112. Get a hunting license.
  113. If your mother is fat, tell him you take after your father. If he’s fat too, tell him you’re adopted!
  114. Stow away on a battleship.
  115. Rent a billboard and post your picture and telephone number on it.
  116. Paint your name and number on roof and say, “Give me a buzz, pilots.”
  117. Start a whispering campaign on how sought-after you are.
  118. Sink at a fashionable beach at high noon!
  119. Ride the airport bus back and forth from the airport.
  120. Bribe Ferris-wheel operator to get you stuck on the top of a Ferris wheel.
  121. Stand on a busy street corner with a lasso.
  122. Carry a camera and ask strange, handsome men if they would mind snapping your picture.
  123. Ask your mother to take in male boarders.
  124. Make and sell toupees – bald men are easy catches!
  125. Advertise for male co-owner of a boat.
  126. If you see a man with a flat, offer to fix it.
  127. Carry a tow chain in the trunk of your automobile.
  128. Let it be known in your office that you have a button box and will sew on bachelors’ loose buttons.
  129. Don’t marry him if he has too many loose buttons!

*Originally posted on https://modesthonesty.com/2018/10/21/129-ways-to-get-a-husband-in-1958/