Tag: Abstinence

Don’t Assume Just Because I’m Dating That I’m Having Sex

I think nowadays it’s assumed that if 2 people are dating they’re having sex. But that’s not always the case. I have been out on plenty of dates and haven’t slept with any of them. I have also dated men for long periods of time (boyfriends included) and not slept with them either. So I know firsthand that it is very possible to date & not have sex. Sometimes I like to just get out & have a nice time on a date without involving intercourse. Every man I share a cocktail with isn’t worth me sharing my body with.

Is it so bad not to sleep with every person you date? Is it so wrong not to sleep with a person just because you’re dating them exclusively or in a committed relationship? I don’t think so. It takes a long time to get to know a person and it’s usually best to do that without involving sexual intimacy. If you date a lot then you definitely shouldn’t be sleeping around (can you say whore?).

Let’s look at Taylor Swift. As we all know Taylor Swift dates a lot, but hopefully doesn’t sleep with every man that she dates. She’s only 23 years old, but she’s been romantically linked to at least a dozen different men including Jake Gyllenhaal and Taylor Lautner. Now I’m no mathematician but if you’ve been caught with 10-12 men and you’re only in your early twenties, then that’s a problem. Every man Taylor is dating shouldn’t be getting “some” from her. Now do you see what I mean?! Dating shouldn’t always mean sex.

So my thoughts are this: You don’t need to have sex just to have fun. If you’re dating for fun then do just that – have fun!

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