Category: Christian

Go THROUGH The Valley

Instead of focusing on life’s failures – which in most cases are perceived failures and not actually failures because in Christ you never fail; I’d like to encourage you to focus on that which is good. Focus on the many blessings God has given you – whether it’s life, health, strength, food on the table, clothes on your back, sharp cognitive abilities and the ability to love like God loves. (Romans 5:5) Dig deep into your soul and find the blessing – it’s not hard to find and it’s truly there. Be thankful for all He has done for you and brought you through.  (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

No matter what, let God turn your shame into a shout. Don't lay in the valley, go THROUGH thevalley with the Lord on your side - allowing Him to carry you while focusing on that which isgood. (Psalm 23:4) Philippians 4:8 states, Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. 

The word, think in this Scripture in the Greek means, meditate on or consider.  God wants us to meditate on, consider or shall I add focus on things that are just (righteous and acceptable by God), pure (clean, modest and sacred), lovely (acceptable and pleasing) and of good report (sounding well).

So focus on healing, restoration, peace, inner joy, forgiveness, laughter, love and all of that which is good and you will find in your life every thing that has been lacking will be restored and that which was lost will now be found – including the many years you thought satan had taken away from you forever. 

And I will restore to you the years that the locust  hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpillar, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you. And ye shall eat in plenty, and be satisfied, and praise the name of the Lord your God, that hath dealt  wondrously with you: and my people shall never be  ashamed. And ye shall know that I am in the midst of Israel,  and that I am the Lord your God, and none else: and my people shall never be ashamed.  Joel 2:25-27

*Originally published on Kim on the Web.

You’ve Tried iPods & iPads, Now You Should Try iPray

Technology is bringing communication to a whole new level. It’s easier to keep in touch with others and learn about things we would not have otherwise known. However, we should at least use some of this technology to grow closer to God. He is always available, night & day, especially online. Using the latest technology we can ask questions, access the Word of God and even virtually fellowship with others!

  • Glo BibleGlo is an interactive Bible that brings the text of the Scripture to life through HD video, high-res images, zoomable maps, 360-degree virtual tours, an atlas, timelines and a topical index. The app launches with a visual index of all of the books of the Bible, and then distills it down to each level of the Bible, from Book to Verse.
  • YouVersion – You can highlight with custom colors—just like a real paper Bible. You can also share verses with friends using social networks, email, or text; bookmark passages to either share, or memorize, or to keep track
  • Bible – Listen and read at the same time for an immersive Bible experience with friends and family around the world. Provides a huge number of foreign translations and also both dramatized & non-dramatized audio.
  • Bible Gateway (my personal favorite) – You can create a visually appealing eReader. Offers reading plans, commentaries & dictionaries. It provides advanced searching capabilities, which allow readers to find and compare particular passages in scripture based on keywords, phrases, or scripture reference
  • Holy Bible – It aggregates the Bible text on a simple, well-spaced and well organized page so that the reader’s eye can easily process the block of text in front of them. The feature icons are simple and clear, and there’s no confusion as to what they do
  • Sermon Notes – This site was built specifically for sermon preparation. It features a quick and easy note taking feature layered on top of an expendable Bible Reader. Although built for speaking, it’s also great for studying on the go
  • Touch Bible Loaded – With Touch Bible you can read two translations at the same time, keep study notes while you read and search options. There are adjustable font sizes, bookmarks and Dial-a-Verse , which is a way to look up scripture quickly
  • Good News Bible – Full text of one of the bestselling versions of the Bible optimized for the iPad. Includes a graphically rich timeline with relevant information on events and people of the Bible. A Who’s Who section about all the important characters in the Bible & 52 characters quizzes with 9 theme quizzes to test your knowledge. There are hundreds of inspiring spiritual quotations and even a section on the relevance of Bible to the modern times
  • Blue Letter Bible – Offers powerful study tools. You can dig deep into the Word using commentaries, encyclopedias, maps/images & much more. One of their most used tools is the Lexicon search, which gives users immediate access to the original Hebrew & Greek words. You can also create a customized homepage and sidebar to include exactly what study tools you want
  • Through the Word – A concise audio guide to the entire Bible, one chapter at a time. It’s also a reading and journaling app that will equip you to read the Bible, understand it, apply it, and make it a habit

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How Can You Spend Quality Time With Your Children When You Have So Many Of Them?

I was talking to a friend who was telling me about one of her girlfriends who had married a man that had about 6 children (I say about 6 children because I couldn’t remember the exactly number). They had one child together before getting married but between their one child together and all of his own children their house was always full. I asked my friend why on earth her friend would marry someone who had 6 children already and her explanation was fairly simple: Although it sounded like a lot of stepchildren (and it is), it never really posed a problem because most of them were grown or lived somewhere else.

Apparently, her friend married someone in his late 40’s (she’s in her early thirties) that started having children in his teenage years. Four of his six children were over the age of 18 and already out of the house (and off of child support). Although he does have a lot of children he was only financially responsible for two of them. I mean most American households have only 2 children, so the question arose – how can you take care of your children when you have so many?

Let me state up front that I think money is only a single factor in taking care of children. Sure, it allows you to hire a nanny or provide material things for your children but having money doesn’t buy you more quality time with your children when you have a lot of them.

Take for example Jim & Michelle Duggar who have 19 children. Although they are reportedly living debt free and have the financial means to care for all of their children, there just aren’t enough hours in the day for 2 parents to be devoted to 19 different children. Even with their “buddy system” of an older child caring for a younger child, the mother & father should be responsible for raising all of their children.

Another example would be Ms. Nadya Suleman who has 14 children, with no husband and no real job. Aside from being broke, she has to hire multiple nannies just to keep all of her children in line. And to that I say, “Your Honor, I rest my case”.

Children need more than the love of their parents and they need more than their parents money. Children need quality time with their parents.


“There Are No Atheists In The Foxhole”

As a military man, my dad told me a long time ago that there is no such thing as an atheist when you’re on the battlefield. It has been declared that whenever someone is in distress regardless of their religious (dis)beliefs, they call on the name of God. Whether someone is in severe pain or has a family member on their deathbed, they often call out God’s name. Why is it that someone who has no association with religion whatsoever would even utter the name of Jesus or God? Well today is the day that proves JESUS is real. Real & alive!

Today is Resurrection Sunday, otherwise known as Easter, and I am proud to say that as a woman of God I am excited about what this day means for you & me. Resurrection Sunday is the MOST important day to all Christians.  Christians, Protestants, Lutherans, and even Catholics can all agree on the purpose of this day. Resurrection Sunday is the day that Jesus Christ rose from the grave, redeeming the entire human race. You see, the reason that I believe in Jesus Christ instead of any other religion is because Jesus is alive! What good does it do to worship a god who promotes vigilantism? Why believe in a god who is dead?  Why would I bow to a statue? Judaism, Hinduism, Buddhism and the Muslim faith are vastly different but I serve the only living God.

So, what does this mean to you? This means because of the crucifixion of Jesus Christ and through his resurrection, we have the opportunity to receive the gift of salvation directly from the Lord.  Not from the Pope, not from a priest or a pastor but directly from God himself. Salvation guarantees us eternal life with God himself. This is so much better than getting an invitation to the White House! John 3:16 tells us “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whosoever believe in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life.”

Happy Resurrection Sunday! CHRIST HAS RISEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Do Men Sign Prenups? Rich Woman, Poor Man – What Happens When The Woman Has All The Money?

It seems like almost every celebrity couple signs prenuptial agreements before getting married. But those are usually situations where the bulk of the money is coming from the man or both parties have individual wealth (think Michael Douglas & Catherine Zeta Jones or Sarah Jessica Parker & Matthew Broderick). But I wonder what happens when the woman is the breadwinner in the relationship. Does she make the man sign a prenup before marrying him?

I started to think about all of the female celebrities that have married “regular” men (or have gotten close to marriage). Here’s the list of some of the couples that came to mind and their net worth, according to

  • Michelle Obama & President Barack Obama – As a VP of Community Affairs, Mrs. Obama was pulling in close to $300,000 / The then-Senator about $160,000 per year
  • Teresa Heinz & John Kerry – Our Secretary of State only makes about $187K, and he’s married to an heiress of Heinz ketchup thought to be worth close to 1 billion dollars
  • Oprah Winfrey & Stedman Graham – Okay, Oprah makes like a gazillion dollars a year
  • Reality TV star Bethenny Frankel & Jason Hoppy – Last year Bethenny made 8 figures; I’m guessing Jason made about 6
  • Jennifer Lopez & Mark Anthony – Jlo is worth about $250 million, whereas her soon to be ex-husband is “only” worth about $40 million (largely due in part to being married to her)
  • Songstress Mariah Carey & Nick Cannon – Mariah’s net worth over $500 million, compared to a “paltry” $15 million for Nick


Surely, some men are willing to sign a prenup to be with the woman they love. They recognize that bringing less money into the marriage doesn’t make them any less of a man, and that money isn’t everything. But don’t men hold all the cards? For example, on the television show Real Housewives of Atlanta, Grammy award winning singer/songwriter Kandi Burruss has stated repeatedly that she believes in prenups. However, this was before she got engaged. Now if Kandi’s fiancé (Todd) doesn’t want to sign a prenup, then she may lose him altogether. There are plenty of women who would love to be with Todd and wouldn’t make him sign a prenup (grant it, most of these women aren’t millionaires but still, you get my point).

So if you are a rich woman, do you take the risk of losing a good man by making him sign a prenuptial agreement just so you can save some money? Or, do you follow your heart and marry the man of your dreams knowing that having money can’t replace a having a husband?


You Can Dress Up For The Club, But You Can’t Dress Up For Church?

I was in church yesterday and noticed that a lot of the young woman (around 30 years and younger) were inappropriately dressed. Some were dressed up like they were going to the club, but others were dressed too casual, as if they just went going grocery shopping. And I just couldn’t understand why anyone would be okay to coming to church dressed inappropriately.

People like to quote the Bible by saying, “Come as you are” which based off of a parable that Jesus told (Matthew 22). In this parable, Jesus describes a wedding reception prepared for a king’s son. Those that were invited refused to come, so the king tells his servants to go and invite any & everybody since those that “deserved” to come did not come.  This is often drawn parallel to the fact that people will not be turned away from heaven based on how they dress. Many people misinterpret this verse thinking that this means they can dress any way they want for church, however, this verse is referring to the way a person is “dressed on the inside”; how they are spiritually. No matter what’s going on in their life or where they are mentally, physically, or emotionally anyone can come before God or into the house of the Lord. It’s one thing if you don’t have proper attire. You can’t wear what you don’t have. If you’re struggling to make ends meet and don’t own any nice church clothes then surely, you are not expected to spend money you don’t have just so you can go to church. But if you have proper clothing and don’t wear them, then shame on you!

Those of us who are Christians and are truly walking in the Spirit have to remember that we are living  examples of Jesus everywhere we go, but especially in the house of the Lord. When we come to church wearing our favorite sports jersey or tennis shoes, we are setting a poor example to others that any attire is acceptable in church. And it isn’t. For women who wear low cut revealing tops or too-tight bottoms, please understand that you should not dress in a way that will cause a distraction to others in church based on the way you choose to dress. Dressing provocatively distracts men from focusing on the Word and even I get distracted because it makes me wonder why a woman would wear that kind of clothing to church!

I will admit that there aren’t any scriptural references on how a person should dress for church. But that’s no excuse as there are a lot of things the Bible doesn’t spell out specifically but we know we shouldn’t do (think smoking cigarettes). Most of us dress up for church for cultural & historic reasons more than anything else. I choose to dress up for church because I believe in bringing my best to the house of the Lord. Why would I wear jeans to church when I have a skirt hanging in my closet? Why would I dress nicely for a date, and only wear a t-shirt for God? Why would I wear high heels to a job interview but Ugs to church? This just doesn’t make any sense.

Bring God your best.