
Your Destiny Awaits

Just saying what's on my mind…even the crazy things!
Author: Chocolate Vent
As single people get older, it’s natural to question why their status is still: Single.
I’m a good catch; why haven’t I been “caught” yet?
Is it me? Is it them?
Why can’t I find anybody?
How come I haven’t been found yet?
When am I going to meet someone special?
Why is everyone meeting someone but me?
Why is dating so hard?
What am I doing wrong?
You may have even questioned your looks or even your entire worth causing your self esteem to plummet. Perhaps it’s a “I want to repel everyone around me” vibe? Or perhaps it’s something about your personality that’s turning off the very people you’re trying to attract.
Worse yet, it could be that your standards are too lofty (not to you, of course but to everyone else). Is it something that you could be doing differently? Or is it time to “lower your standards” as it may have been suggested to you before?
Whatever the reason may be that you’re still single know that you are not the only one who feels this way. Lots of us are wondering what’s causing us to remain single and why it’s so hard to meet someone special. Find comfort in knowing that others are out there hoping to meet their future mate too – and you just may that one!
What are your thoughts? Sound off in the comments section below –
“And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” {Matthew 28:20}
*Originally published on Kim on the Web.
It’s been a while since I’ve posted anything about dating or relationships, but here goes –
Dating is rough. No matter where you live, how old you are or what type of job you have, it’s hard to meet someone who is compatible, attractive and ready to commit all at the same time. Meeting people is the easy part; meeting the right person is the hard part. But after so many dates, it’s easy to want to give up on dating altogether.
Having to get dressed up (even for a virtual date), fix my hair and have an “on” personality requires a lot of energy. Hoping to meet someone you can bond with & possibly have a future with is quite difficult and can oftentimes leave one very discouraged when things don’t seem to work out time & time again. Of course, this doesn’t mean you can stop dating altogether. Instead, it means the opposite – you must continue to date despite not having the desire to do so (and in some cases, date even more than you were before).
This is what I call “Demotivated Dating”. It means you’re still going out on dates, just not as enthusiastic about it as you once were. It means that you still desire a mate or significant other, just not as fervent in your approach as you used to be.
What does “Demotivated Dating” look like? Well, it might mean that while you still go out on dates, you may not dress up as much as you used to or budget as much time for each individual date. It may also mean that you don’t go out on as many dates as you used to or space your dates out so that you can have ‘me time’ in between.
For me, “Demotivated Dating” means that I still date with purpose but am not as hopeful about the outcome. I know that there are men out there who may be just as demotivated as I am, so there may not be a whole hearted attempt on their end to date either but we still see each other because you just never know if that person may be “the one”. Dating takes a lot of time & energy and when you start to lose hope, you give a lot less of both of those elements when out on a date.
I’m trying to get motivated again when it comes to dating. I’m trying to get excited about the possibility of meeting my Mr. Right one day, but the longer it takes, the more discouraged I become.
Are you the same way? Are you discouraged when it comes to finding love? Are you just not as motivated as you were before when it comes to dating? Let me know in the comments below —
“Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” {Hebrews 11:1}
“So Judah gathered together to ask help from the LORD…” (2 Chronicles 20:4, NKJV)
Scripture says that we are to acknowledge God in all of our ways. One way to acknowledge God is to simply ask for His help. On the way to the grocery store, under your breath, “God, help me to find what I’m looking for. Help this to be a productive trip.” That’s acknowledging God. You’re saying in effect, “God, I need You right now. I want You in my life.”
That simple acknowledgement is an act of faith. It opens the door for Him to direct your steps, even in the little things. God will help you find what you may not have found. He will put you at the right place at the right time. And sure, you can do this without God’s help. You can do it in your own strength. But when you learn to hear His voice in the little things, you’ll be confident to hear Him in the big things. When you acknowledge God, He breathes His favor on you. You’ll come into an anointing of ease. What should have been a struggle won’t be a struggle. That’s God crowning your efforts with success.
Today and every day, ask Him for help and let Him lead you and guide you in every area of your life!
Father, today I confess that I need You. I ask for Your help. I don’t want to try to do it on my own. I know that Your ways are higher. Your ways are better. Lead me and guide me as I daily surrender to You in Jesus’ name. Amen.
— Joel & Victoria Osteen
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” {Matthew 7:7}