Earlier this week, I posted an article from a magazine published in 1958 on ways to attract a husband. Some of the ideas were pretty good, but some not so much. I pulled some of those not-so-great ideas & thought I’d share my thoughts here:
- Have your car break down at strategic places. Depending on where you live, being stuck on the side of the road can be dangerous. Plus, what if it’s cold or even snowing outside? Should you still chance being stranded? Also, there’s just no guarantee on how long it will take before a cute guy shows up to help you.
- Attend night school & take courses men like. I’m not sure that people in night school are looking for serious, long-term relationships. Typically, these students are already working a full time during the day, may even have families and have limited hours to date (since they have to study after class). So while it might be fun to take woodshop or an auto mechanics class in the evening, there’s no guarantee that any of your classmates will be single, let alone looking to date a woman who is there to learn the same thing.
- Look in the census reports for places with the most single men. Yes, there are some places, like Alaska, that have more men than women but that doesn’t necessarily mean you should uproot your entire life just to “potentially” meet someone. Sure, if you’ve already connected with someone who happens to live long distance, but unless you’re just looking for an adventure, I wouldn’t say it’s safe to bet on an unsure thing.
- Read the obituaries to find eligible widowers. Not only does this sound downright creepy, it’s just not “normal.” only if you are 70 plus & looking for love should you check the obituaries, otherwise please keep your search to those in the land of the living who are not currently grieving.
- Sit on a park bench and feed the pigeons. Unless you live in New York City, this just doesn’t sound practical. A lot of cities even advise you not to feed their wildlife, whether it be squirrels, ducks, etc. Besides, I have yet to meet one man who finds animal-feeding an attractive quality in a woman.
- Become a nurse or an airline stewardess – they have very high marriage rates. These professions might have had high marriage rates (and probably still do), but I’m sure their divorce rate is equally high as well. Not to mention, not all men prefer women who work in those professions.
- Volunteer for jury duty. Really?!
- Be friendly to ugly men – handsome is as handsome does. You really should try to be friendly to all men (and women too) regardless of how they look. Grant it, it’s probably “better” to talk to a good-looking ugly person, but it might not be “easier”. Good looking people can be intimidating, not to mention they might not necessarily want to talk to you (unless you’re really good looking too). Besides, how does it benefit you to talk to someone you’re not attracted to? You might as well focus your energy on someone you don’t have to force yourself to look at.
- Don’t take a job in a company run largely by women. The vast majority of large companies are run by men; however, a lot of the smaller ones aren’t. what if you want to run your own company? What if you work in a female-dominated environment – like a hair salon or a clothing store.
- Get a job demonstrating fishing tackle in a sporting goods store. I like the concept of getting a job in a predominately male environment (see #9), but men making those types of purchases typically only respect employees who know about the product they are there to buy.
- Don’t be afraid to associate with more attractive girls; they may have some leftovers. While this may be true, this using the assumption that will want to associate with you. And even if they did have some good-looking “leftovers”, is it really kosher to date them? That would make for an awkward friendship, one would think.
- Change apartments from time to time. Okay, not only is this inconvenient it can be costly and just plain unnecessary. Besides, why should you have to uproot your whole life with the hope of possibly meeting someone? You shouldn’t…
Men, what pieces of advice do you have for women looking to get married?