- Honor keeps relationships from going toxic because it protects the dignity of everybody involved.
- When you honor someone, you can discuss your issues with them without threatening their dignity.
- As our admiration grows for a person so does our desire for intimacy.
- It’s hard to mistreat someone when you have a sincere appreciation for their partnership.
- As long as a man is willing to put in the work, we women must accept him based on who he is working to become.
- Men can become charming & romantic but not intimate or transparent. Women desire one but need the other.
- When you are walking on a path of forgiveness, you don’t respond to dysfunction the same.
- People aren’t disappointments until expectations are put on them that they were never gonna meet anyway.
- It’s okay to grieve the loss of unrealistic expectations. It’s also okay to grieve the loss of realistic expectations.
- Mercy should never be based on the worthiness of the person receiving it.
- Compassion flows out of the emotional resilience one has in their heart, not of the worthiness of the 1 in need.
- The mercy phase is a time of grief where we let go of the delusion of control & prevention about what we can’t fix, manage or sustain.
- We must take off the masks that hide us, put down the armor that shields us and give up the behaviors that numb us.
- Judging gets in the way of authenticity and it doesn’t change behavior.
- I don’t do blame, I do responsibility.
- It’s okay to be afraid; it’s not okay to act out of fear.
- People who use words like: can, could, may and might create a more supportive and hopeful environment for their partner.
- To show mercy you must give them an opportunity – knowing they have the capacity to blow it and that you have the capacity to recover from them blowing it.
- We all need the grace to grow within a relationship.
- There’s the sabotage list of the closed-minded, and the support list of the open-minded.
- Supportive words are: can, could, may and might.
- Sabotage words are should, shall, ought and must.
- Put obedience over passion.
- Be the date that you want to have.
- Marriage should always be THE goal, not an option.