- Share what’s on your heart, then receive what’s in theirs.
- All forgiveness does is accept the person for who they are and release them from the judgment of who we think they should be.
- Right, wrong, real or imagined people cheat for reasons that are true and rational to them even if their reasons are factually or morally flawed.
- Without context an affair is nothing more than an act committed by two consenting adults who happen to be married to other people.
- People don’t step outside the marriage to cheat, they do it inside the marriage.
- Both parties need to own up to the pre-cheating that takes place in their relationship before the affair.
- The only thing more pathetic than a bitter woman in her 30s is one in her 40s.
- The inability to maintain one’s self-respect in a relationship can make one ‘lost’.
- People get distracted in ways that either prolong or hinder their recovery process after a breakup.
- Limit the opportunities for the unnecessary escalation of drama and hostility.
- Adopt an attitude that promotes authentic expression from a place of personal dignity.
- Forgiveness benefits the person who is doing the forgiving the most.
- Managing things & people rather than feelings are NOT what foster intimacy.
- Forgiveness and mercy play a vital role in the recovery process.
- The goal is to take the focus off the things we THINK should have happened or NEED TO happen and put the focus on WHAT IS happening.
- Those stuck in grievance tend to stay in conflict.
- When we practice forgiveness and mercy it helps us make the transition from ‘posturing’ to ‘partnership’.
- Forgiveness addresses the evil intent we create when we turn someone else’s behavior into a story that tries to explain their intent.
- To fully forgive someone you must come to terms with the personality & character of them not just their behavior.
- Holding someone up to standards they can’t keep is unloving.
- Forgiveness does not release a person from their responsibilities it just gives them more opportunities.
- You must create a level playing field and take the frustration of unrealistic expectations & the shame of judgment out of your relationship.
- Forgiveness takes place when you can acknowledge each other’s strengths & weaknesses w/out all the judgmental blaming that causes you to compete for the moral high ground.
- It’s not the presence of conflict that escalates or deescalates a situation, it’s the absence of honor.
- Honor is the foundation every stable relationship rests on.
