Being single sucks. It sucks big time. Not all the time but there are plenty of days, weeks or even years where being single & alone can be downright painful. Friday nights alone & Saturday’s spent running errands without any help and Sunday’s cooking dinner for one can be part of a pretty lonely existence. Between paying ALL the bills, taking care of yourself when you’re sick & having no one to share your day with can make you feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders without any help.
Making sure that the household is running smoothly has traditionally been the women’s job, but it’s a lot easier to do when there’s a man making sure that everything outside the home is running as it should. But as a single woman, I don’t have that luxury. I don’t get to have a man take care of some things while I take care of others. I don’t have a man to protect me, lead me or be in my corner when life gets rough. And as a woman, I think this is something all women need.
Loneliness can also get you in trouble. Some women may handle it better than others, but being alone (when you have the desire to be with someone) can breed a lot of insecurity, sadness and for some – desperation. That’s a terrible place to be both mentally & physically. Why is it so hard to find someone who can help sort out this thing called “life”? How can we bear this burden by ourselves with no foreseeable partner in sight?
This post may sound like I’m complaining & maybe in a way I am. It’s quite stressful to have to deal with everything, and I do mean everything, all on your own. No shoulder to cry on, nobody to lean on and no help whatsoever. Sure, I hear married people complain about how hard marriage is but it is much harder to have to do everything alone. I’m not saying it can’t be done but I’m sure if given the choice, those who are divorced will contend that it is easier to have (the right kind of) help.
Being single when you don’t want to be really & truly sucks.
How do you deal with your singleness when you feel burdened by life?