Recently, I had a very nice date with a nice guy. After meeting him a few weeks prior, he called me every few days, sent text messages to follow up & made it a point to get to know me before asking me out. When I finally decided to go out with him, it was for no other reason than the fact that I enjoyed our phone conversations up to that point.
While I typically opt to meet my date at the date venue, this time I decided to be a lady & allow him to come pick me up. (For safety concerns, I think that it’s usually best for a woman to meet a man for the first few dates but in this case, I made an exception because we knew some of the same people). He showed up at my door – well, outside of my apartment building – with an array of beautiful flowers & a great big ole grin! He seemed very happy to see me and wasn’t shy about it at all. I took the flowers & returned back to my apartment to put them in some water and when I came back out he had the door open for me as if I were climbing into a limousine and he was my chauffeur. I slid into his car & he took off, safely getting us to our dinner destination.
The week before he had asked me what my favorite type of food was. Once I gave him my response, he then sent me a list of 3 restaurants to choose from for our date. I researched each restaurant, gave him my choice & he made reservations right away. I love it! After that, we went to the movies where we were able to walk right in because he had purchased the movie tickets online before the date. How considerate is that?! He had the whole evening planned out to a tee. How many men do that?!
I know, I know, the date seemed great so what was there not to like about him?! Well, he’s got some “issues” that don’t quite sit right with me. First off, he has a child (and ya’ll know how I feel about dating men who have kids. If you don’t, read about it here). Yes, his son is a grown adult who lives on his own but, still, most men with grown children are not looking to start all over again. And in fact, he said that he didn’t want to have any more children. Secondly, he wasn’t that tall. If you’ve been reading my blog for a while you know I’m not a short gal. I don’t mind wearing flats; I just don’t want to have to wear them all the time. Thirdly, and I know this sounds crazy but his voice annoyed me. He doesn’t have much bass in his voice so he could easily be mistaken for a woman. I don’t know if he ever has, but it wouldn’t be too far-fetched if he was. And last but not least, because of our age difference, he was looking for something far more serious than what I’m looking for.
Yes, he treated me well and yes, he did everything right but that doesn’t make him a perfect guy. The things that I mentioned, even if they seem trivial to you, would’ve gotten under my skin & caused a larger problem in the future (okay, maybe not his height but everything else).
He really is a nice guy & I’m sure he’ll meet a wonderful woman someday. I’m just glad that I had the opportunity to go on a great date with such a great guy!