There comes a point in every relationship or dating situation when a woman knows that it’s over. Whether it’s his fault or hers, there comes a point when she knows she’s not interested anymore. So, it’s only a matter of time before she breaks things off with the guy that she seeing.
Personally, I was seeing a guy & in the beginning, everything was great. He called often, texted on occasion & we spent quality time together. But for some reason, things started to taper off. I believe in communicating my expectations with the person I’m dating so I told him that if he was truly interested in me he needed to step things up. If he wasn’t interested in me, there would be no hard feelings but there really wasn’t any point in wasting my time or his. He claimed that he understood and that he would do better because he wanted to continue to see me. I felt comforted by his words and even more comforted when the phone calls started to pick up after this conversation.
But it was only a matter of weeks before he went back to his usual non-calling self. The phone calls became infrequent again but now even the text messages weren’t enough to hold my interest. I believe in giving a man a chance but if he has been made aware that there’s a problem and chooses not to correct it then my problem becomes our problem. And our problem can lead to our break up.
Not too long ago he sent me a picture of him dressed in a suit. And anyone who knows me knows that I am a sucker for an African American man in a suit. He looked really good but I didn’t know how to respond. I hadn’t heard from him in nearly a week and now all of a sudden I get a random photo? Well this may not seem like a big deal (and it really isn’t), but I knew the writing was on the wall: I was no longer a priority of his.
Of course, this didn’t sit well with me because I really liked this guy and I thought things with him would actually take off. But now that I have confirmed that he’s just not that into me, I have a decision to make. I either need to just keep hanging on or let him go and move on with my life.
The funny thing is he doesn’t even realize that he’s skating on thin ice. He probably thinks everything is okay between us because he just sent me a fine looking photo and what woman wouldn’t want that? But I need more than just an occasional picture, call or text message to feel special. Little does he know that he will soon be crossed off my list of potential suitors to make way for men who actually want to date me. If he doesn’t get it together & start showing me more attention, he is at risk of me dropping him altogether.
A man should never be a priority in my life when I am not 1 in his.