The other weekend I went to an outdoor black tie event where there was wine tasting, food and entertainment. I was in a formal evening gown & some of the other women were dressed in after-5 cocktail attire. A 5-piece live band played which included a young female singer, and they played jazzy tunes all evening long.
There was a young nice looking, tall man who started talking to me as I stood watching everyone else mingle (he had no wedding ring on, either). We didn’t talk about anything in particular, just niceties but naturally I assumed that since he struck up a conversation with me, he might be interested in getting to know me. Grant it, he didn’t say anything flirtatious or anything like that but why else would he be carrying on a conversation with me?
As it turns out, he was married & his wife was on the other side of the event. When his wife came around to him, he made it a point to be overly affectionate with her in my presence. Why did he do that? It was as if he was trying to tell me something:
- Trying to show me that he’s taken – If you choose not to wear a wedding band, that’s your choice, but there’s no need to gloat about being married when your wife comes around. I never even implied that I was interested in him, so I don’t know what point he was trying to prove.
- Remind himself that he loves her – Sometimes people do things not to benefit others, but really to serve as a reminder to themselves. Maybe while talking to me, he felt a pang of guilt & thought that by being touch feely with his wife, it would stop him from trying anything with me.
- To make his wife feel secure – His wife probably already knows that he’s a flirt, which would cause her to be insecure when she’s not in his presence. If that’s that the case, it would stand to reason that all of that PDA (public display of affection) was to put her mind at ease & had nothing to do with me. Besides, what wife doesn’t want to be loved on by her husband when there are other women around?
Now of course, he could be that affectionate all the time but why did it feel like he was just showing off?
Has this ever happened to you? Have you seen someone act as if they were trying to make you jealous?