You know that old saying, “Misery loves company”? Well, it’s not necessarily true. Sure, feeling down & out can suck and being hurt calls for comfort but that doesn’t mean I want everyone I know & love to feel the same way I do. Basically, just because I am unhappy, doesn’t mean that I want everyone else to feel the same way I do.
I had a friend who recently got into a relationship – an exclusive relationship – with a woman he’s known for a while. He seems to be very happy & in love. I’ve even asked him when he plans on proposing (I may be jumping the gun here, but neither one of them is that young so it’s only a matter of time). I’m sure by this time next year he’ll either be married or at least engaged. Every time we talk, he mentions her & all the date nights they have and how beautiful he thinks she is. No, their relationship is not perfect but he has nothing but good things to say about her. Black love is alive!
I am very happy for him, but I’m going to be honest…….sometimes it’s hard to hear about his great new relationship. It’s hard to know how much he is enjoying life now that he has found someone to share it with. On the other hand, it may be hard listening to all of his gushing but it does me good to hear about someone falling in love. It lets me know that it’s still possible to find someone at any age that you will want to spend your life with. It signifies that I shouldn’t give up on dating but instead learn how to truly be happy for others, just as I would want them to be for me.
What do you think? Is there any part of you that is NOT jealous when someone you know is happily in love & you’re not? Or does it bother you to hear them talk about it? Please share in the comments section below –