While unmarried, our goal is to please God, and not worry about pleasing people. As First Lady Serita Jakes said during this year’s MegaFest, “Have you gotten so caught up in pleasing people that you’ve forgotten who you are?”
Don’t lose your identity in trying to please others. Live for God and live to please Him while single.
Today I want to go over the next verse in 1 Corinthians 7 which states:
But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:33
This Scripture is very important because some people get it twisted. Some people think one should get married solely for the purpose of companionship (a very conversation I was having with a gentleman earlier today) or for the purpose of getting the most they can get out of the relationship.
Whereas Scripture informs us that a married person’s number 1 goal shifts from pleasing God (1 Cor. 7:32) to pleasing their spouse (1 Cor. 7:33).
A shift takes place once you get married, and not just spiritually when the two become one in the sight of God, or physically when the two become one in the bedroom, but also your mind should shift into thinking, “Okay, I’m
married now. My #1 priority is now to please my spouse”
Not the church. Not your pastor. Not your mama’nem… your spouse!
The way God sees it, in pleasing your spouse, God is pleased.
God is pleased when two married people learn to submit to one another as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:21), because, to God, two married people that are both His child are really one. He doesn’t love one more than the other, and he wants both of them to make each other happy. Even Scripture talks about when you don’t make each other happy that your very own prayers are hindered, because of inward division (1 Peter 3:7).
There is power in oneness, and God is a God of unity.
When two people can come together not just for show in front of a hundred people and for the sake of cute wedding pictures – but for the purpose of committing to serve one another in order to have a lasting marriage, then God is happy. God is pleased. God smiles.
So before you rush to the altar because you just want to be with somebody, make sure it’s the right somebody who you see yourself respect and valuing his opinion as your spiritual covering and somebody you wouldn’t mind pleasing all the days of your life because you’ve lived a fulfilled life as a single and now you’re ready to give.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.