When you think of the most confident women you know, like Malala Yousafzai or Oprah Winfrey, what is it these ladies have in common that allows them to approach life so fearlessly? They carry themselves with an air of success, grace, and determination. The energy changes when they enter aare memorable.
See how many of this list of pitfalls you avoid and how you measure up as a confident woman:
1. They don’t gossip.
Confident women don’t talk about other women, they talk about their dreams, plans and aspirations.
2. They don’t doubt themselves
You won’t hear them second-guessing their decisions. Hesitation isn’t part of their process. They know what they are doing and why they are doing it at all times. They think their decisions through thoroughly but once they decide, they decide.
3. They don’t follow trends
Confident women aren’t trend followers they are trend setters. They spend no time thinking about what is “in” and instead they make choices based on what they like. They are finely attuned to their own needs and preferences. And they are not afraid to ask for what they want.
4. They never suppress feelings
When something is on their mind, you will know it. They tell it like it is. With confidence comes the ability to speak your mind in a way that others hear you.
5. They never compromise self-care
Confident women know that they need to take care of themselves to be their best. They value a healthy work/life balance and they take time to eat right, sleep well and to spend an occasional moment being pampered just because it feels good.
6. They never listen blindly
Confident women like to gather their own evidence and come to their own conclusion. They think outside-the-box, because if they don’t do their own fact-finding, they know they might not see the big picture.
7. They don’t try to please people
When a woman is self-assured, she does not need external approval. This allows the confident woman to be her true self and trust that people who like her, like her for who she truly is. She leads from her heart and has the inner-strength to handle opposition.
8. They don’t waste time on worrying.
Time is valuable so spending it concerned about what-ifs, should-haves or could-have-beens is not useful to the confident woman. She knows that worry is like paying interest on a loan before you have been approved.
9. They don’t have regret
They learn from the past and they recognize where they have made poor choices but there’s no regret. Being able to learn from the past rather than regret it oozes confident.
10. They aren’t afraid to get messy
Sure they know the value of a good first impression and they like to look their best, but they don’t care if they are caught in a rainstorm or if they get sandy feet while walking on the beach. They find joy in the experience whether that is getting stuck in a downpour or falling in the pool.
11. They don’t see failures as defeats
In fact, they are usually the ones who can tell you how many times Henry Ford went bankrupt before he became successful (three!). They recognize that on the path to success their are always bumps in the road. The ease with which they recover allows them to keep moving forward in their determined fashion.
12. They don’t cave to peer pressure
This is largely due to the fact that they don’t feel peer pressure. Pressure is reserved for those who stress about what others think. And the confident woman just doesn’t.
13. They don’t make unconscious choices
Confident women are in touch with their purpose and they use this to intentionally guide their decisions. This dauntless way of living intentionally is part of what draws others to them.
14. They don’t ignore their instincts
Even when all the facts seem to point one way, if their gut says the other, that is the way they go. They know that instinct is our strongest ally in decision making so they listen to it religiously.
15. They don’t glorify busy
Productive is different than busy. They get the job done, they just don’t feel overwhelmed as they are doing it.
16. They don’t take things personally
They understand that your opinion is about you, not about them. While they value your input, if you don’t agree with their choices, they still make them. And they still like you.
17. They don’t find silence uncomfortable
In fact, silence recharges them. They enjoy alone time where they can explore personal growth and take time to reenergize.
18. They don’t aspire to be popular
They value authenticity in others and only want friends with whom they share a deep connection. They like challenging conversations and this doesn’t lead to popularity but they don’t care.
19. They don’t need personal trainers
Or alarm clocks for that mater. They motivate themselves and are excited to get the jump on their day – no snooze buttons for them.
20. They don’t want fans they want supporters
They probably have 900 Facebook friends and a ton of followers on Instagram but what they value is the content of their newsfeed, not the numbers. Quality over quantity every time.
21. They don’t equate who they are with what they have
They know that stuff doesn’t define them so their choices in clothing and cars is based on what they like not on how they want to be perceived.
22. They don’t deny themselves
They realize that there is balance to everything. They might be on a health kick but they will gladly treat themselves to an occasional ice cream. They like to get to the gym, but they know the world won’t end if they skip a work out.
Confident women don’t need anyone to like them. Which is probably why everyone does!
*Article originally published on Life Hack.