It’s Not Who You Know; It’s Who You Are: Advice From One Woman to Another (Part 1)

  1. Expect the best – This is what you deserve! It’s easy to hold on to old baggage from a previous relationship. But all of that should be left in the past – right where it belongs. Know that the next person you date will have their own baggage & will expect the best out of you as well.
  2. Don’t chase a man; allow him to chase you – Men are naturally inclined to be the “hunters”. They enjoy chasing so you’re not doing them any favors by taking that away from them. I know some men may say they like an aggressive woman, but at the end of the day if he’s a REAL man, then as the hunter, he should NEVER want to be the hunted.
  3. Let a man know you are not JUST girlfriend material but actual, wife material – A man should be able to tell this about you right away. How do you dress? How do you carry yourself? How do you treat not just him, but others around you? Setting this standard in the beginning will save you time because he will know that you are not into dating someone who isn’t interested in marriage.
  4. Don’t deal with a cheap man – Men who are cheap need to be shipped to an island somewhere where they don’t have to spend any money & can hunt and forage for everything that they need. If a man is cheap now while you’re dating then he will be cheap during your marriage & who wants that? No one, that’s who!
  5. Don’t deal with a man who doesn’t have his stuff together – Enough said.
  6. Don’t live with a man who hasn’t given you a ring – The old adage “why buy the cow when the milk is free” still rings true even today. Even if you truly believe that you ARE wife material, why settle by playing “wifey”? There is a BIG difference between playing house & actually building a life together. After all, you wouldn’t go to your job and do the work without being hired, would you?!
  7. Learn as much as you can about as many things as you can – In this technology era, there is no reason why you can’t find out something about any & every topic there is out there. Not only can you now just “google it”, you have infographics, images, and even videos to clearly explain whatever it is that you don’t know. No one expects you to have the whole dictionary memorized but most men do find smart women to be very attractive.
  8. Treasure your girlfriends – Good girlfriends are hard to come by. So make sure you let your friends know how much you appreciate them. Be sure to celebrate their birthdays, promotions or any big events in their life. Basically, let them know that you are there for them.
  9. Put something in your name – A real woman should own something, whether it’s a car, a house or even just one stock. Every grownup (man & woman) should have their government name on at least one possession during their lifetime.
  10. Learn one signature dish – Ladies, every man likes to eat even if he doesn’t eat a lot. A good woman should have at least 1 good dish she can prepare well. There isn’t anyone who doesn’t appreciate a woman who can “burn” in the kitchen (in the good sense, that is!).
  11. Stay current with the news – There is so much going on today in the world, our country & even in our own backyards. It doesn’t hurt to stay on top of it because you’ll come across as more intelligent and you’ll also be able to contribute, or even better, initiate conversation on current events.
  12. It doesn’t hurt to know a little something about sports either – Ladies, football season is upon us! Learn about the sport by studying the teams, the team colors (I always get them confused), the coaches and the star players. Don’t have a clue on where to begin? Click on Oprah’s website to start learning. Touchdown!
  13. Take care of yourself – Aging is automatic but aging gracefully is not.
  14. Make sure you look good every time you leave the house – You just never know who you might run into. It could be an old co-worker, a longtime friend you haven’t seen in a while, your arch-enemy, or worse yet – your ex!
  15. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind – Last but not least, say what you feel. Why do you think I started this blog?! Anyone who can’t handle how you really feel isn’t meant for you. BE YOURSELF!

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Men, do you have any advice for single women? Married women, do you think I missed anything here? If so, please share in the comments below. Also if you liked what you read, please share via on Facebook or Twitter using the ‘Share” buttons below. Thanks –

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