Everyone knows women talk a lot. Not only do we talk a lot, we talk all the time. I am definitely guilty of this stereotype but I don’t mind because as a woman it’s pretty much expected of me. When I don’t talk, men think that there’s something wrong me. So I almost feel obligated to keep talking, as weird as that may sound.
As much as most women talk, the question is – do we do as good of a job listening as we do talking? The truth of the matter is I’m sure that we don’t. You may have heard the old adage “God gave us 2 ears & 1 mouth for a reason: So we can listen twice as much as we talk”. But why is it so hard for women to listen in the first place?
I would like to think that one of the reasons women talk so much is that we are just better at it. Men already expect us to do most of the talking which means that we’ve had a lot of practice. We express ourselves verbally because we are more emotional and are especially good at talking our way out of things. If you were good at doing something wouldn’t you continue to do it too?
Another reason I think women talk so much is because we have so much more to say. Think about it, we already engage in more conversation in & outside of work, we talk on the phone a lot more with our friends and we probably even eavesdrop a little bit more giving us more things to talk about. We like to gossip and never have a shortage of things to discuss.
I would like to think that everything I say is witty, funny or amazingly interesting! But then it dawned on me – the only way I have new things to talk about is by listening to other people. As much as it pains me to listen (and not talk), I recognize that men want to be heard just as much as we do. Conversation, after all, is a 2-way street.
Listening is like cleaning the toilet – even if you don’t like to do it on a regular basis, it always makes things a whole lot better when you do.