So the latest in all-things-Kardashian is that Khloe Kardashian’s marriage to Lamar Odom is on the rocks. The source of this purported split is Lamar’s battle with substance abuse. In other words, they might be getting a divorce because he’s reportedly addicted to drugs.
Correct me if I’m wrong but don’t the wedding vows say something like, “in sickness and in health…till death do us part”? Well, we already know that most marriages today don’t last until death but what about the “sickness and in health” part?
Let’s examine the word addiction. It’s a neurologically based disease, which means that drug addiction is a chronic often relapsing brain disease that causes compulsive drug use despite any & all consequences. The repeated use of drugs leads to changes in the structure & function of the brain so while the initial decision to take drugs is voluntary, over time the changes in the brain can affect a person’s self-control and ability to make sound decisions. In other words, a person can develop an intense impulse to take drugs. Many people don’t understand how someone can become addicted to drugs. They mistakenly view drug addiction as strictly a problem brought upon one’s self & that anyone who gets addicted is weak. But that’s simply not true.
People often underestimate the complexity of drug addiction – it is a disease that impacts the brain so stopping is not simply a matter of willpower. Yes, drug addiction is preventable but it’s a disease nonetheless, just like any other chronic disease – diabetes, asthma, or heart disease. There are many reasons why someone would become addicted to drugs. No single factor can predict whether a person will become addict, just like there is no solid way to predict whether or not a person will develop cancer. So if this is the case, why are people willing to tolerate some diseases & not others?
Addiction is reportedly one of the top 10 reasons for divorce* in 2012. But if addiction is considered an illness, why are people so quick to let it end their marriage? What happened to that part of the wedding vows “in sickness and in health”? Why is it okay to give up on someone with an addiction but not any other disease? Let’s take Khloe & Lamar for instance – while we don’t know for sure if they are divorcing, is it right for Khloe to leave Lamar because he has a bonafide medical illness? We don’t know how long he’s been dealing with his alleged drug addiction but isn’t it safe to say that if anyone should stick by his side, it should be his wife?
Now, I’m not advocating someone staying in an abusive relationship, however, I do think it’s the spouse’s duty to stand by their mate through thick & thin. Besides, doesn’t it just acerbate the situation when the person closest to you doesn’t stick by your side?
So shame on you Khloe for leaving Lamar during his time of need! Marriage is supposed to be forever; at the very least “in sickness and in health.”
If you know someone who needs help with drug addiction, go to DrugAbuse.com or call 1-800-943-0566 for help. For more information on prevention, please visit the Prevention Research information page; and for more information on treatment, please visit the Treatment Research information page. To find a publicly funded treatment center in your State, please call 1-800-662-HELP or visit www.findtreatment.samhsa.gov.