Growing up I was always called “skinny” or “bony” and HATED hearing those words. These words made it sound like I was sickly. Of course little kids didn’t know that those words were mean but there was nothing wrong with me. I just had really fast metabolism even though I ate everything in sight. Most people think that calling someone skinny is a compliment, but they’re wrong. Maybe if you’ve just lost 100 pounds and you’re proudly showing off your new figure but if you’re naturally thin like me, it’s not.
Why don’t I like to hear that dreaded “S-word”? Well, for one it makes me sound like I’m borderline anorexic. Just like my height, I can’t do anything about my metabolism so don’t talk about it.
I also hate having to justify going to the gym. Is going to the gym only reserved for people who are overweight? Exercising has tons of other benefits aside from losing weight.
Another thing is that people assume that I don’t eat a lot. That’s so not true. I do eat! Trust me, don’t let the slender frame fool you – I eat.
Also, it’s hard for me to talk to others about my weight because most people aren’t happy about their own weight. What am I supposed to say when a group of women are complaining about their size then act like I can’t be a part of the conversation because I’m “skinny”? I can try to be compassionate but my opinion is invalid since I’m the “skinny” girl, so anything I say would just seem condescending. So although I am a part of the conversation, I can’t really contribute. If you’re not happy with your weight, fine, but just leave me out of it.
Now if I were fat, commenting on my weight would not be appropriate, right? If I
was fat, obese, overweight (or whatever you want to call it) and someone said anything about my weight that would be considered rude.
Here are some “skinny” comments that I wish I could reverse (hypothetically):
Them: You’re skinny
Me: You’re fat
Them: You’re so skinny, you can eat anything!
Me: You’re so fat; you shouldn’t be eating much of anything!
Me: I’m heading to the gym.
Them: Why? You’re skinny. You don’t need to work out
Me: Yeah, well you should probably come with me
Them: You’re so skinny, you can wear anything!
Me: You’re so fat; there are a lot of things you shouldn’t wear!
There is NOTHING wrong with being slim, slender or thin. Unless fat people want me to comment on their (over)weight, I suggest they leave their comments about my weight to themselves.