I never understood why people say that you can’t help who you fall in love with. Really? I get that once you fall in love you’re in love. But how did you get there? Or rather, how did you allow yourself to get there?
You see, as soon as I meet a man and learn something about him that I don’t like or can’t deal with, I immediately distance myself from that man. There is no dating, no phone calls, and no contact whatsoever. So since I’m not communicating with him, it is literally impossible for me to fall in love with him. Do you see my point?
Not controlling who you fall in love with is like saying that the letter “C” is the first letter of the alphabet. But in reality before you get to the letter “C” you must pass letters “A” & “B” first. Which means that you have to get to know a person before falling in love with them – A & B always comes before C. Now do you get my point?
I have an acquaintance that ended up marrying a man that she least expected to end up with. When asked why she chose him, she said “I didn’t like him at first but we started dating and before I knew it, I was in love. You can’t help who you fall in love with.” I’m sure everyone has a friend like this. I don’t understand why you would continue to date someone you don’t like, and even go so far as to fall in love. All of these things are within our control.
All I’m saying is that the words “communication”, “conversation”, “dating” & “like” all come before the word “love” in the dictionary.