The Truth About How Men Choose the Woman They’re Going to Marry

You may be incredibly sexy and great in bed. We may have sex with you both morning and night. And we may remember you fondly.

However, this is not enough to marry you. In fact, it has little, if nothing, to do with it.

The reason men marry women happens outside the bedroom. Now, you’re wondering how to get him to marry you?

Simple. We marry women who can make us better men.

It starts out when we notice that our car is cleaner and our house is cleaner. But then it goes deeper than that. A noble quality comes over us and we want to take care of you.

We want to know where you are. We care about the condition of your car and we make sure you have enough gas. Little things we never thought about become important.

We care about how you feel, not just how you look.

As a woman, you may be thinking, “That sounds great! How do I make it happen?”

The truth is there’s nothing you can do to make it happen. However, you can allow it to happen.

It’s energetic. The first and most important thing is that a man loves a woman who loves him, but not more than she loves herself. Some people call it confidence – but it goes deeper than that.

Confidence is what you can do; self-love is who you are.

The second key, which builds on the first, is allowing love to happen: You feel comfortable and worthy of being cared for not for what you do but for who you are.

Allowing love means when he checks on your car, you let him. When he wants to get you gas, you let him, rather than saying you can get it yourself.

For a man to become a better man, he needs the space and the opportunity to do so. In short, a man marries a woman who he believes makes life better – and even better, you allow it to happen.

*Originally published on Popsugar.

God, What’s Taking So Long?

Contrary to popular belief, waiting is not a bad thing.

It is not a curse that one has to wait longer than someone else for God to bring a mate into his or her life.

No need to get mad because it seems like everyone else around you is getting hitched but you.

God sees each and every one of us as individuals, so He deals with each and every one of us on individual levels according to our individual purposes and callings.

God wants to match you with the right person so the two of you can fit together like a hand in glove, and that takes time.

Anybody can just hook up with anybody for the sake of having someone.

Those who are waiting for God to present the right mate realizes that it takes time for God to prepare the other person, and for Him to prepare you, now, while single, for the mate that He has for you.

But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. James 1:4 

 
For all the promises of God in him are yea, and in him Amen, unto the glory of God by us.
But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.  2 Corinthians 1:20 
 
For God is not unrighteous to forget your work and labour of love, which ye have shewed toward his name, in that ye have ministered to the saints, and do minister. Hebrews 6:10 
*Originally published on Kim on the Web.

#BlackLivesMatter: Who Was Kajieme Powell?

The St. Louis Metropolitan Police Department released cell phone footage Wednesday of the police shooting of Kajieme Powell, a 25-year-old black man killed on Tuesday in St. Louis, according to St. Louis Public Radio.

A convenience store owner called 911 on Tuesday when he suspected Powell stole drinks and donuts from his shop, according to a recording of the call. Another woman called to report Powell was acting erratically and had a knife in his pocket.

Two officers in a police SUV responded to the calls, the cell phone video shows. When the officers got out of their vehicle, Powell walked in their direction, yelling and telling them to shoot him already.

St. Louis Police Chief Sam Dotson said Tuesday that both of the officers opened fire on Powell when he came within a three or four feet of them holding a knife “in an overhand grip.”

But the newly released cell phone footage undermines the statement, showing Powell approaching the cops, but not coming as close as was reported, with his hands at his side. The officers began shooting within 15 seconds of their arrival, hitting Powell with a barrage of bullets.

The St. Louis Metropolitan Police Department released the video and 911 calls, telling St. Louis Public Radio that it plans to act transparently.

The shooting death occurred less than four miles from where Michael Brown was fatally shot by a police officer in the suburb of Ferguson on Aug. 9.

Dotson defended the officers in a television appearance later Wednesday, acknowledging the discrepancies between his Tuesday account and what the video revealed. Though Powell’s hands were down by his sides, Dotson told CNN, he was moving toward the officer with a knife.

“The officers did what I think you or I would do, they protected their life in that situation,” Dotson said.

CNN’s Don Lemon and Chris Cuomo pushed Dotson on the officers’ decision to use lethal force, rather than opting for an alternate form of defense like a Taser.

*Originally published on Huffington Post.