Every 4th Phone Call… (and other ways to play “hard to get”)

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I’ve been listening to a lot of dating advice lately (online, from my friends, married people, etc.) and while the advice I hear has been a mixed bag, there has been at least one piece of consistent advice. Men like women who play “hard to get”. Now of course, no man wants a woman who completely ignores him, is rude or is actually disinterested but for some reason there is always some attraction to a woman who plays hard to get.

What does playing hard to get mean? Well, it can mean different things for different people. For some women playing hard to get can be as simple as staying busy, almost too busy, so that the man she likes thinks she’s not that interested in him. Playing hard to get can also mean keeping phone conversations short so that a man is always wanting to talk more (especially since most men don’t usually like to talk on the phone anyway) . But for me, playing hard to get means that I like to take “breaks”. Breaks from talking, texting and even dating. Basically, I make sure that I’m NOT always available.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t completely disappear off the face of the earth, but I do make sure that I am not easily accessible to the man that I am dating. I may text back right away, but sometimes I may hold off on texting back. I may answer the phone the majority of the time that he calls, but not EVERY time. Hence, the title of this post “Every 4th Phone Call….”. Eventually, I’ll call him back but no man likes a woman that’s always available to him; there needs to be some mystery. It’s not even that I have anything to hide it’s just a matter of letting a man know that while he may be important to me, he’s not a priority yet. And by not answering the phone every time he calls, I’m giving the man I like the opportunity to miss me a little bit.

Notice I am talking about the men that I am dating, not a man who is my boyfriend. Those are two totally different roles. If a man is my boyfriend, then he definitely has more access to me than someone I am simply dating. But whether he is my boyfriend or someone I’m casually dating, the key is to let them know that my world doesn’t revolve around them.

Ladies, do you answer EVERY time a guy you like calls you? Guys, do you think about a woman even more when you don’t hear from her as much?

4 Principles for Successful Daily Living

For let him who wants to enjoy life and see good days [good—whether apparent or not] keep his tongue free from evil and his lips from guile (treachery, deceit). Let him turn away from wickedness and shun it, and let him do right. Let him search for peace . . . and seek it eagerly. . . . 
—1 Peter 3:10–11

I enjoy just reading over this passage and soaking up the power from its principles for successful daily living. It gives four specific principles for those who want to enjoy life:

1. Keep your tongue free from evil. God’s Word states clearly, the power of life and death is in the mouth. We can bring blessing or misery into our lives with our words. When we speak rashly we often get into arguments, so choose your words carefully.

2. Turn away from wickedness. We must take action to remove ourselves from wickedness or from a wicked environment. The action we must take could mean altering our friendships; it could even mean loneliness for a period of time. But you can always trust God to be with you.

3. Do right. The decision to do right must follow the decision to stop doing wrong. Both are definite choices. Repentance is twofold; it requires turning away from sin and turning to righteousness.

4. Search for peace. Notice that we must search for it, pursue it, and go after it. We cannot merely desire peace without any accompanying action, but we must desire peace with action. We need to search for peace in our relationship with God and with others.

When I started living by these principles, not only did my relationships improve, but so did my health, my attitude, and all areas of my life. The same will be true for you.

Trust in Him Which of these four principles do you need to work on the most? Focus on one area at a time, and trust God to give you the power for a breakthrough so that you can enjoy your everyday life.


– Joyce Meyer

August Is National Psoriasis Awareness Month!!

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How much do you know about psoriasis?  How many people in the U.S. have it?  What causes psoriasis?  How is it treated?  What are the emotional impacts of psoriasis?  How many people do you know with psoriasis?

It typically affects the outside of the elbows, knees or scalp, though it can appear on any location. Some people report that psoriasis is itchy, burns and stings. Psoriasis is associated with other serious health conditions, such as diabetes, heart disease and depression.

While scientists do not know what exactly causes psoriasis, we do know that the immune system and genetics play major roles in its development. Usually, something triggers psoriasis to flare. The skin cells in people with psoriasis grow at an abnormally fast rate, which causes the buildup of psoriasis lesions.

Men and women develop psoriasis at equal rates. Psoriasis also occurs in all racial groups, but at varying rates…

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