Who Exactly Is Mr. Right?!

The right guy does the right things. Ladies, if you are dating a guy & he’s doing the following things (it’s even better if he goes above & beyond):

  • He supports you – whether it’s your career, life goals or anything else, the right man shows up when you need him to & even offers to help. He may even research whatever project your working on so he can speak on it intelligently. He will also tell all his friends & family to support the woman he cares about and wouldn’t feel intimidated by it. Sure, in a perfect world a woman wouldn’t need a man to have her back but sometimes we do. A good man will actively show his support.
  • He tells you that he’s proud of you – every little girl likes to hear that her father is proud of her. And that doesn’t change when we grow up. The only difference is that as a woman, we also like to hear that from the other important man in our life – our man. A good boyfriend has no problem letting his woman know that she’s doing a great job & that he is proud of her and proud to be her man.
  • He wants to help, not be waited on – in a world of people who have a “Me first” mentality, the right man will step up to help and not sit down only to be served. Sure, there’s a time & place for a man to be served but a good man also wants to serve his woman.
  • He’s good with kids or special needs individuals – anyone who has the “patience of Job” is a good person & worth keeping around. Even if you don’t have kids or don’t want kids, it’s still good to know that the man you are with can handle all types of individuals.
  • He makes plans – men who don’t make plans really aggravate me! If you ask for my phone, number, ask for my time & ask me out, then you should be man enough to plan an actual date. It’s really not that difficult – the internet is full of date ideas and if you still can’t figure it out, then just ask! I can’t stand it when a guy asks me every single time what I wanna do before taking me out. A man who makes plans (especially good ones) is a good man.
  • He actually likes doing stuff with you (and for you!) – hanging out & spending time together is how good relationships are built. It’s one thing to spend time with someone out of routine, it’s another to do so because you actually want to.

He tries to connect with your friends – it’s a good feeling when your friends & your man all get along. When a man genuinely tries to “impress” your friends in an effort to make you happy, then he is a good man. Plus, the more he gets to know your friends, the more he’ll get to know you.

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#ThursdayReads: Claude McKay

Claude McKay was born in Jamaica on September 15, 1889. He was educated by his older brother, who possessed a library of English novels, poetry, and scientific texts.

In 1912, McKay published a book of verse called Songs of Jamaica (Gardner), recording his impressions of black life in Jamaica in dialect. That same year, he traveled to the United States to attend Tuskegee Institute in Alabama. He remained there only a few months, leaving to study agriculture at Kansas State University.

In 1917, he published two sonnets, “The Harlem Dancer” and “Invocation,” and later used the form in writing about social and political concerns from his perspective as a black man in the United States. McKay also wrote on a variety of subjects, from his Jamaican homeland to romantic love, with a use of passionate language.

During the twenties, McKay developed an interest in Communism and traveled to Russia and then to France, where he met Edna St. Vincent Millay and Lewis Sinclair. In 1934, McKay moved back to the United States and lived in Harlem, New York. Losing faith in Communism, he turned his attention to the teachings of various spiritual and political leaders in Harlem, eventually converting to Catholicism.

McKay’s viewpoints and poetic achievements in the earlier part of the twentieth century set the tone for the Harlem Renaissance and gained the deep respect of younger black poets of the time, including Langston Hughes. He died on May 22, 1948.

How To Make Things Happen

Some of us come into this world knowing exactly what it is we want to accomplish in life. Others of us figure it out later in life & the rest of us just kinda stumble along, going with the flow of things. If you know what your purpose is in life, great! You can also probably figure out how to make it happen. But, if  you don’t know your purpose (or just haven’t figured it out yet) then there is still a way to make things happen –

Give yourself a deadline – there’s always a timeline in life, most of which you can control. Death is the only timeframe you cannot control. With that said, whatever it is that you want to get done in life should be on a “timer”. Whether, it’s benchmarking your progress with a calendar, putting a reminder in your phone or making a mental note always have a deadline. That’ll help you move things along & ensure you don’t take forever to get any one thing done.

Share your conclusion with others – accountability is always nice because it helps you stay on track. Letting others know what your plans are puts the ball in their court & encourages them to check-in on you and your plans. Not just that, other people may be able to help you accomplish your goals by offering their advice or resources.

Stick to the plan – unless something goes terribly wrong with your initial agenda, stick to the plan! Once you veer off, rush things or make significant changes you’re setting yourself up for things to go wrong. Surely, in the beginning you put a lot of time & effort into creating a plan so stick to it so you can enjoy the outcome.

Start small – “Every journey begins with just one small step.” If the task at hand seems too large to handle, that’s okay – just break it down into smaller pieces that seem more manageable. Feel free to delegate these smaller chunks while you work on your own small tasks. It might seem like it’s taking forever but at least you’ll be getting something done.

See it to the end – there’s no point in starting something if you’re not gonna finish it. And just like you’ve read this blog to the end, see your project to the very end!

Chocolate Vent’s Quote of the Week: WE WERE CALLED TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER, NOT TOLERATE ONE ANOTHER

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
{I Corinthians 13:4-13}

Nothing Can Hold You Back

The righteous shall flourish like a palm tree…” (Psalm 92:12).

 

Have you ever seen a palm tree in the midst of a great storm or hurricane? That tree may be bent so far over that it’s almost touching the ground, but when the wind finally stops, that palm tree bounces right back up. And do you know that while that palm tree is hunched over under the pressure of the storm, it is actually growing stronger? The reason God said we’d flourish like a palm tree is because He knew there would be difficult times. He knew things would come against us to try to steal our joy and victory. God said, “You’re going to be like a palm tree because the storms of life will come, the winds will blow, but you are going to come right back up again stronger than before.” Nothing can hold you back! No weapon formed against you will ever prosper. No matter what’s happening in the world around you, keep standing. Keep praying. Keep believing. Your brightest days are right out in front of you, and God’s plan is to bring you blessing and victory all the days of your life.

 

Prayer

Father in heaven, thank You for making me strong in You. I trust that You are working in my life, even in the midst of the storms. I know You will bring me out stronger, wiser, and better off than ever before. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

— Joel & Victoria Osteen