When two people get married is it really necessary to become friends with your spouse’s friends? There are some women who would contend that her husband’s female friends are no longer his friend but now a friend of the couple. So as a woman, should friends of your husband also become your friend?
I have a girlfriend who swears that married men should no longer have female friends once he’s
married. Instead of just being his friend that woman should then become “our” friend. I think that’s ridiculous, but I wonder how many women & men actually enforce that. I mean why should I have to be friends with some woman just because my husband was friends with her first? And same with my male friends – why should my husband be forced to make a new friend just because I was friends with him first?
If you think that married people should befriend their spouse’s friends do you make it a point to have that friend’s phone number as well? Instead of calling his cell phone to speak with him privately, should all female friends call the house phone? And would you make it a point to friend his female friends on Facebook too?
Take it one step further – is it ever okay for a single woman to give a married man her phone number (or vice versa)? Where I live I meet a lot of guys who work in various industries. I meet businessmen, singers, comedians, etc. who all have showcases, throw parties or networking events so what if I want to share my contact info (or get theirs) so that I can attend? I’m certainly not trying to holler at them or anything like that but what’s so wrong with exchanging contact info? When those men get my phone number does that mean they should tell their spouse right away? What about when they give out their contact information – should they tell their wife every time they give their number out even if it’s only for networking purposes? I would hate for a man’s wife to check his pockets only to find my card and he forgot to tell her that he met someone new. I’m certainly not interested in a married man, but I guess his wife doesn’t know that.
I don’t think that anyone should be forced to be friends with someone that they don’t know. If my husband has female friends before we marry then those should be his friends & his friends alone. Of course, I’m sure I’ll end up meeting all of my husband’s female friends, I just wouldn’t want to be forced to befriend them just because we’re married. After all, if I couldn’t trust him I should’ve never married him.