Of Course I Didn’t Invite You To Hang Out….You Have Kids!

One of the problems with being friends with someone who has a kid is that they can never really hang out. There are always excuses so sometimes it gets to the point where I just stop asking them to go places with me altogether.

I understand that once you become a parent your whole world changes & your child(ren) becomes your priority. I know that friendships are placed on the back burner but they shouldn’t have to be. Even as a new parent you still need to get out every now& then (plus your kids need a break from you too!).

But if you do have children & are wondering why you are not on the top of anyone’s call list, here are the top 5 reasons why you’re probably not being asked to hang out with your friends anymore:

  1. You always say no anyway – Who likes to be rejected? If I am continually asking you to different places & you pretty much always say no, then at some point I will just give up. You’ll need to call me if you wanna go out.
  2. Going out costs you extra –Babysitting fees or calling in favors for somebody to watch your kids is just a part of being a parent. This is something that I don’t even have to worry about but it doesn’t mean that I don’t sympathize. Just know that spending a little bit of money now will be worth it later on J
  3. You are always checking your phone for “emergencies” – This is terribly annoying. How would you like it if someone starting checkin’ their phone while you were trying to have a conversation with them? It’s very rude. If you are so concerned that something is going to happen to your babies while you aren’t there, then simple – don’t leave them in the first place! So if you are going out with your friends be courteous & only check your phone if you NEED to.
  4. You can’t hang out as late as I can – Did you know the real fun doesn’t go down until after you leave? Going out from 9-11pm does not constitute a REAL “Ladies Night Out”. I get the fact that getting out of the house may take a lot on your end, but if you’re only staying out for less time than it took for you to get ready then why bother?
  5. You won’t be as much fun because you’ll be thinking about your little ones – The whole purpose of going out is to get your mind off of everything that’s going on in your life. This includes family, friends, work, etc. No one wants to hear all that! Let it loose!!

Parents, I know that you deserve to go out just as much as single people do. But please remember, if you’re going out to have fun then do exactly that – HAVE FUN (don’t worry about your kids; they’ll be fine)!

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Infidelity On Television Is Quite An Affair

Matters of the heart have long been fodder for TV plots, from soap operas to dramas to reality fare. But a new spate of shows is blatantly tackling the touchy topic of cheating.

And like the Facebook status says: It’s complicated.

Grace is cheating on Neil and so Neil cheats on Grace — but they love each other — in USA’s new drama Satisfaction. On FX’s Married, a hapless Russ is comically struggling with his sex life with wife Lina. (Both shows air Thursdays at 10 p.m. ET/PT) And now Showtime is prepping an intense drama set to debut in October called The Affair.

“A generation ago, you never talked about having an affair. Then Oprah got us all talking about these things. And now that we’re all talking, the next step is we’re living things out more and less afraid — and TV’s catching up,” says relationship coach Donna Barnes, founder of DonnaBarnesDating.com.

While infidelity is certainly featured on each series (with varying degrees of spicy sex scenes and humor), the adultery is just a launching pad for shows, say the people behind them.

“It’s really about the notion of when neglect has infected a marriage, how do people cope with it? And about infidelity as a reaction to marriage, an exploration of how that happened,” says Jackie de Crinis, EVP of original programming for USA Network, who describes Satisfaction as “a postmodern love story.”

Postmodern, in this case, means Neil is fed up with his long hours at his big-money job and then finds out that his wife, who has been at home raising the kids for the past decade, is getting it on with another man. “It’s about all those different things that life throws you at different points,” de Crinis says.

Executive producer Sarah Treem makes the same case for The Affair. Despite the title, she says, “we really do think of the show as a show about marriage more than a show about an affair.”

There’s a similar scenario in the July 17 opener of FX’s half-hour comedy series Married as Russ can’t seem to connect to his wife, who spends her time running errands and raising their three daughters. She tells him maybe he “should go be with someone else.” She doesn’t want a divorce. She’s just too tired for sex. He winds up trying to find some satisfaction with a waxing-salon employee. It doesn’t go well.

“We knew there was some comedy to be mined,” says Married creator Andrew Gurland. One thing that friends say to me a lot: ‘Oh, monogamy is not natural.’ And I always say, ‘Well neither are toilets, but when you don’t use them, things get very messy.

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*Article originally published on USA Today.